Early signs of recovery

Since PIED is defined as penile dysfunction during sex, you have to have sex to see the affects. Signs of your porn addiction, such as urges, compulsions, lethargy, and a myriad of others may be lessening or disappearing already, but PIED does not go away just from a reboot.

In about 30ish more days, you should try having sex. Focus on your partner, the sensations, and doing what feels good. If you're hard enough for penetration, try it out, and perform positions that feel most pleasureable. You will likely not feel much pleasure, or even get/stay very hard, but after several weeks fo frequent sex (1-3 times a week), you will be sporting completely hard erections. You will be finishing very quickly due to sensitivity and inexperience, but given another month, you will have full sexual function and a large amount of orgasm control.

If you have other questions let me know. I can also provide a better guide of sex after a reboot, or tell you about my own sex after a reboot

 

how do you know you got PIED when you don't have sex?

 

The basic formula for recovering from extreme porn addiction is a 90 day reboot to clear your mind of porn, and then 2-3 months of rewiring with sex to fill your mind with positive associations with sex and related activities.

Something that is actually very dangerous to do a long term reboot (60-200+ days), and then to break it by watching porn. This qualifies as binge using, and can have effects similar or worse than frequent PMO. (Why is intermittent use (long abstinence with binges) an addiction risk?)

If you cannot have have sex after your reboot, I would highly recommend doing other sexual activities with women that are not sex. I'm not sure what your religion is, but giving/receiving oral sex, cuddling, kissing, and hugging are all behaviors that will help you recover.

The bottom line, though, is that if you're trying to rid your mind of porn and PIED, you need to replace porn with something else, or you are always at risk for developing an affliction again.

I need to write my story down somewhere, but I'll give a little summary of it. I got heavy into porn use around 15 years old, and quickly fell into a disgusting and degrading fetish which started to take over my life. Lots of time, money, and shame wasted in those years. The first time I tried to have sex with a woman, my PIED was so bad I literally couldn't get hard at all. I thought I was gay or trans or something; I was just so confused, I didn't know what was wrong with me.

I found out about Your Brain on Porn (YBOP), and started my first reboot when I got a girlfriend. I did hard-mode for 90 days, and then started having consistent sex for the next 2ish months. At first the sex felt weird and I wasn't really that hard, but the feeling improved every time. After about 3 months, for the first time ever, I was having sex with 100% erections, it felt amazing, and I had enough control and understanding of myself to last anywhere between 3 and 30 minutes with my girlfriend.

I'm not 100% cured yet. I still have problems with the fetish I'm into, and I the social isolation from this quarantine pushed me to PMO very recently. However, the last year of my life has been the best yet. I'm having plenty of relationships and sex with beautiful and caring women, my PIED is virtually gone, and I no longer feel shame or confusion about my fetish. I understand now that it was just porn invading my mind, and I really am a straight, cis man who enjoys having sex with women.

Porn causes devastating problems in tons of people, but it can all be reversed. You just have to know the path you have to take, and then just do it.

The biggest help for me has been YBOP. In encourage anyone and everyone to look at their resources to understand their affliction, understand the steps they have to take to make it disappear, and then understand that they can do it.

YBOP links:
Overview

Porn FAQs

Are my sexual problems (ED, DE, low libido) related to my porn use?

Is my fetish porn-induced?

rebooting basics page

What does withdrawal from porn addiction look like?

What stimuli must I avoid during my reboot (did I relapse)?

Do I have to have sex in order to rewire?

Is porn making my social anxiety/confidence/depression/anxiety/OCD/bipolar worse?

HELP! I quit porn, but my potency, genital size, and/or libido are decreasing (the Flatline)

How do I know when I’m back to normal?