EARN IT! - A Way to Deal with Procrastination

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by mice_breaker, Jan 24, 2023.

  1. mice_breaker

    mice_breaker Fapstronaut

    I'm procrastinating right now. I'm active on the forum instead of doing the work I need to do ASAP and the clock is ticking.

    And the moment when I realize "oh, I'm about to write a long post again after having read someone's thread" and I get frustrated suddenly the porn urge struck.
    The triggers (browser, alone in my room) are there and with the frustration comes the temptation: just throw away everything and fry the brain a little.
    NO!

    So there's definitely a strong link between horniness / pmo and procrastination.

    Another thing are of course good meaningful activities, that are (subjectively) easier to do than the task that I procrastinate. Example: suddenly you find yourself cleaning the bathroom. Maybe your bathroom needs cleaning urgently, but it's still procrastination, beacause what you actually need to do is work that task where the deadline is near.
     
  2. mice_breaker

    mice_breaker Fapstronaut

    There are certainly different degrees of procrastination. To procr. with PMO means to block completely rational thinking and flee to a false sense of security and pleasure ... for some time.

    §1 But right now, I know that I procrastinate and that I need to stop it and that the only way to do so is to start with the task and embrace it, until I'm done.

    One distraction that I have used today were motivational speeches from David Goggins. I have it on my computer (offline) and I didn't count it as "online distraction". Whatever! The point is 1. I need to focus on my task only - apply §1 and 2. it doesn't help me if I only consume it and don't apply it.

    Lately I have deleted some content from my computer, to get more focus, less content and distraction. But is this really the right approach to this issue?

    My idea now: EARN IT! I know what David Goggins says and I can hear him in my head, if I need his speech for guidance / motivation. Sure, it is good to go back to content like this from time to time. But if it was dealing with the REAL person David Goggins, how would I act? I would certainly let action speak for itself, before I go to him again and ask him questions and so on.

    So why not do it like this? First I implement certain things and reach some goals. Then I can go back to a figure as D.G. show him my progress (as if it was a real person I'm talking to).

    Instead of deleting I will value my hand-picked "content" higher and I will make rules of when I can listen or watch it again.

    OK, this was a fairly good distraction. But now back to my actual task!
    Please let me here, how you deal with procrastination!
     
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  3. LostSon41

    LostSon41 Fapstronaut

    Find a new environment, remove triggers. I used to listen to rock or rap during math homework. Now I either sit outside or in my room with no headphones or speaker. Write out a checklist, when you can see the progress you are making you are motivated to do more. Not just a homework checklist, but an errands checklist, job checklist, workout checklist, or life goals. Save rewards (video games, TV, music, social media, dessert, even working out for me) for after you complete your main work.
     
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  4. LostSon41

    LostSon41 Fapstronaut

    If you can't focus because of sexual urges, first thing you can do is open up this site and write about it. It will help you focus off sex and on the NoFap mission.
     
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  5. mice_breaker

    mice_breaker Fapstronaut

    Oh thank you for your answering and your good advice, Restored Rebooter! I never saw it, there was no alert.

    On procrastination: right now I think the reason for me procrastinating so hard with certain tasks is my lack of training and my general laziness and unpreparedness. So all the stress that I have had managed to avoid before suddenly rushes in with this one task. Certainly it's also a psychological error: our psyche has trouble to deal with it in a rational and calm way, because most of the times the task isn't that big, the stakes not that high and just beginning would make it much easier to get along with the task.
    Besides this strange phenomena, as I said, it's a problem of my lifestyle and my lack of discipline and proactivity.
    Changing my life is the simple answer.