Easiest way to quit porn is to get a girlfriend

I disagree. It’s all about self control and discipline. Technology has made it harder to quit porn, not easier.

What your saying was probably true 40 years ago when porn wasn’t so easily accessible and you had to go pay for it. Not today.

 

I would agree with you. Anytime I am in a relationship I find it easy to quit porn. The real thing will always be better.

 

The experience from others is that when you have a problem with porn without a relationship, you will face that addiction within a relationship sooner or later.

 

That may be true if you are building a relationship with true intimacy, vulnerability and connection. If someone uses their girlfriend/boyfriend/spouse as a receptacle and just a means to satisfy their sexual release, then it isn't much different than their porn addiction because the underlying reasons of why they went to porn in the first place are still there. May be buried for now, but they will manifest themselves again down the road if not addressed. Hopefully we can all dig down to those reasons and address them, and truly move beyond PMO and establish a relationship with those qualities mentioned above. Best wishes to you in your relationship and your journey to get porn out of your life for good.

 

I don't really agree with you. There is no evidence that all pron addicts are single. Many of them could have girlfriend, or are even married. But that doesn't stop them from PMO

 

I disagree, There are lot of people in relationships who are addicted to porn, So it may work for you but not for all.

 

Addictions don't work like that.

Being in a loving and supporting relationship might help with the recovery, but it's not the fix for it.

 

I have to disagree too, but I think I see your point. Reasons for not agreeing have been mentioned i.e. 1) many people in relationships are addicted to p. 2) If you get a relationship just to prevent pmo you are just getting a substitute.

However, I feel that after quiting you do need to get your work life/academics, friendships and relationships, and self care in order. Effectively getting back to being a normal functioning person. This changes your focus and how you find fulfillment in life. You then pretty much lose interest in p or you just don't even time to think of it. This also reduces the chances of relapsing after hundreds of clean days.

 

You clearly never had a girlfriend with low libido.

 

I would have to disagree with you here, sorry. But I have been in a 20 years relationship with my partner. A few years back she developed a illness that can not be cured and due to this my sex life with her ended. Just a year ago she told me that she would never be able to have sex with me ever again and now she has no desire to give me any affection at all, nothing, not even a hug or kiss. So I turned to porn and it has taken over my whole life, to the point where its become a disability. I don`t work and thats all I do day and night, I can`t stop or say no to it, it`s not about excitment at first anymore, but compulsion. It`s killing me.

 

I have a long term partner with no libido at all or desire to show affection.

 

I wonder, what makes you write that. Perhaps, it's an obsession of porn.

This is false..
It's like using someone as your sex tool, and it must not be counted as streak since you are indulging in a sexual act.

False assumptions aside,
From where do you find a girl who's ready for sex only...

What the f is this post.

 

What's the point of having a relationship without ANY affection at all? I would have left.

 

You're just using your partner as an object. You're only worsening your situation, and you're not getting healthier at all.

Proof? Easy! Try not having sex with your girlfriend for three months (I guess 1 month will do too). If you go back to urges, you're still addicted and you haven't move even one step further.

Listen to the guys above. You can also believe me, who fought this addiction being married. Being in a relationship with sex drastically slows down your reboot. Being in a relationship without sex might slow down your reboot.

 

I disagree . I went out with a woman for 6 months and I still couldn't give it up. The problem with porn is that in your mind you are having sex with whoever you want whenever you want. I think trying to get a fulfilling life outside sex is the answer; or at least it is with me.

 

I agree with the others, having a girlfriend makes no difference. I actually find it harder being in a relationship. I have more guilt and more shame around my actions than when I am single because I don't have to be emotionally or sexually avaliable to someone else. Yes, in the beginning you may lay off masturbation a little because you're excited about sex with a new person, but over time you just fall back into your old patterns.

 

1.) Point is don't get a girlfriend to substitute pmo for sex.
2.) If you do have a girlfriend, tell her and hopefully she helps you get clean. Or maybe get clean by yourself if she doesn't require sex than often (unlikely).
3.) @Lascivious Satyr Really sorry to hear that. Sex is a crucial part of marriage and life too really. You should definitely talk to your partner about getting that satisfaction one way or the other if you have to stay together. With regard to the porn, you are basically an addict. As we all are here. So you definitely need to stop, but it will be very difficult if you're in the same situation that caused it.

 

Sadly I had the complete opposite!!! Got with my partner and he didn’t want to know , even in the honey moon stages! I never had morning sex in nearly 2 years we were together! He would plan his wank whenever I wasn’t around to which I eventually found out. It explained why there was zero interest! Made me feel rubbish and I’m a popular attractive woman. I wasted my time and efforts trying to fix a man who was told what he had but chose to do nothing about it..! Needless to say he is now my ex! Such a sad Illness it really is.

 

Best way to quit P is to obtain complete sex*al satisfaction. If your gf isn’t a 10 from your perspective, you would relapse anyway. I speak from experience.