I’ve been having erection problems ever since I’ve been having sex with girls, which is about 15 years now. Which is longer than my porn problem, which only started a bit later. Now, this doesn’t mean they’re not related at all, but there is another cause for my ED that I wanted to talk about here: insecurity and overthinking. Ever since the very first time I was with a girl and we were about to have sex, I have had this voice in my head: what if I can’t do this? And that voice becomes the only thing in my head, my growing erection quickly goes away and that is the end of that. This has happened SO often: I think at least half of the times I was in a position to have sex, I ruined it in this way. Now, as I said, watching porn definitely doesn’t help, especially since I have now come to realise that even though porn is not the cause of my insecurity it definitely sustains it. But I wanted to ask if anybody has some good advice what to do with the undermining thoughts: you’re in the moment and a voice comes up saying you’re gonna lose your erection. How do you make it go away and stay focused?