ED can disappear quickly

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by TheGrindContinues, Nov 5, 2019.

  1. TheGrindContinues

    TheGrindContinues Fapstronaut

    Thought this may be motivating to hear for some of you. You read alot on these forums that ED can take months-years to cure when you are addicted to porn. I have been doing NoFap for 4 years now (never got more than 30 days but I continue to change my life and learn new stuff) and I have suffered from ED. Like many others, I have developed fetishes that I am ashamed of and this has made Vanilla sex boring for me.

    BUT, many times when I have gotten a girl home lately, If I havent watched porn in as little as minimum 4 days I am able to get hard enough for sex and also to cum. If I however have watched porn the 1-3 days before, its impossible. It is like my ED gets cured in a few days so dont be afraid that you may not get it up, atleast try and see what happens, some people here are afraid that they may not be able to perform since they are virgins and may throw away opportunities with girls out of fear. So if you get an opportunity with a girl, atleast try (if your truly interested) and dont wait for some certain day which you believe that you will be "cured" and able to perform.
     
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  2. tcnumba108

    tcnumba108 Fapstronaut

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    Is this just for porn videos in your case or any type of porn sub (reading erotica, sexting)?
     
  3. TheGrindContinues

    TheGrindContinues Fapstronaut

    Femdom porn videos
     
  4. animalhouse

    animalhouse Fapstronaut

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    Encouraging. I was with a girl the other night and it didn't happen and it freaked me out. Now, I find myself afraid it is going to happen again. I am going to stay off the bad stuff -- 2 days in.
     
  5. fedmom

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    Don't know if this is something you need help with but there's a thread in my profile for getting rid of femdom fetishes.
     
  6. Takecontrol44

    Takecontrol44 Fapstronaut

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    Reading a couple of forums I’ve realized that everybody has their own fetish. I replied to another guys letter and I said hey, EVERYONE has a fetish or kinky arousal but pornography is specifically designed to make you like the dark side of it. I also suffer from pied I haven’t been able to finish with a lot of girls but I know NoFap could cure
     
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  7. fedmom

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    Sorry, nofap won't cure a femdom fetish. https://www.psychiatrictimes.com/ad...ias-and-paraphilia-related-disorders/page/0/2
     
  8. TheGrindContinues

    TheGrindContinues Fapstronaut

    Hey mate, you seem to know alot about NoFap studd science wise so I got a question for you that perhaps you could help me out with. I do not either believe that NoFap alone will cure fetishes, that just waiting and letting Time pass on, that it would automatically rewire your sexual tastes back before Porn was introduced to you.

    I belive like in other areas of life that the best defense is a strong offense. A strong defense is not a passive one which NoFap is...its just waiting and waiting for some miracle rewire that somehow would remove those fantasies. I thought to myself, is there not anything non-passive, an action I can do to make me want to express myself sexually in a vanilla way instead of my fetish way? Something I can do to disassociate masturbation/sex from my femdom fetish.

    Now I think I found the answer and this is what I want to discuss. I tried doing NoFap hard mode for years, tried it all but nothing ever removed my urge to want to watch femdom really. Sure there was benefits but never anything actually changing my taste. I came to the conclussion that easy Mode was better suited since I never wanted to stop being sexual, I just wanted to have a normal vanilla sex life and standard view on sex. So I started masturbating to vanilla thoughts without Porn for some time. Not much success since I realized that the thoughts were still Porn thoughts, even tho they were not femdom (scenes popped into my head while masturbating) which I think is the reason people say masturbating makes them more likely to watch porn(because they still think porn thoughts while masturbating)

    NOW here comes the game-changer...recently I started to touch myself whenever I want to, I dont have to orgasm per say but I am free to do so whenever I want, but now I do NOT use thoughts at all, I just masturbate, try to stay with the feeling in a meditative No-mind state. I dont have any thoughts, I just masturbate. I did this only twice and for some reason my urge to watch porn was no longer very strong. I did relapse eventually but when I watched the femdom I did no longer get the extreme urge and satisfication, it felt like the spell was broken and the fantasy was no longer that appealing!

    Some days later I watched more femdom and the urge was back, this was obviously due to the hunter-effect and femdom was once again appealing, but that was just because I hade recently re-assured that I like porn since I orgasmed to it! I think im on to something here, im going to continue this practise since it seems to be curing the root problem here and not only symptoms. That is, to not feel the pull to even watch femdom in the first place.

    SUMMED UP: Masturbation in a meditative no-mind state seems to break the fantasy of porn induced fetishes.
     
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