ED meds during rewiring?!

I think you should avoid taking any meds and hold out until you can get an erection naturally. Just my opinion though.

 

It worked for me. I don’t need them anymore now.

 

me2, just don't overdo it

 

Please elaborate as my boyfriend who is in the process of rebooting battles to maintain an erection too- we are considering using pills for ED?

 

I have tried this to some success. I think the part that makes it successful is if you decide on a communication strategy. Like if you're going to know he's using them, or if you want to agree "yes, we'll have sex in 1-2 hours." OR keep it a secret and just don't mention he's using.

In my situation, it has worked the few times without her knowing. Then I got self-conscious knowing that she knew (stupid yes I know) and wasn't aroused enough to get up even with the pill. You have to keep talking, and I think that would help me and my partner out a lot. It is actually very rocky right now, and with a few days of space I was able to realize that I'm in a flatline. So I am going to try taking a stab at this communication.

 

Hey Ironmaing,

What are some things you've done to help communicate what you're going through when she's frustrated? I am going through it with my girl at the moment. She's definitely in the frustrated space right now, and I'm giving myself (and her) some time to cool off. So how'd you talk about it and what did you ask/tell her to do during sex specifically to keep your anxiety down?

 

Thanks for your reply means a lot

I must say before meeting him I had no idea how damaging P can actually be to a relationship and the number of people battling with the long term effects of it.

One hundred percent you are right- at first I would take it personally if he battled with an erection- now I am trying to put that aside, although not always easy, and just make him as comfortable as possible!

I think currently he’s experiencing his first proper flatline which I seem to know more about (from reading this site) than he does so I can kind of guide him and try explain certain things which I hope puts him a little at ease.

I’m not going to lie it is very frustrating, especially as I am quite a sexual person, to be patient - but like you say long term- if he puts in the work, will be worth it.
It’s almost brought us closer together as it’s something we’re working through together.

I think transparency is the best thing and I would love for him to be totally open about everything with me - so perhaps you should do that with your Girlfriend?
Also making her feel beautiful, through affection (doesn’t have to be sexually) really helps so much!

 

I didn’t actually think about not communicating whether he’s taken the pill or not.

I think all along I’ve wanted us to try it out, but didn’t want to press them matter - rather wait for him to suggest it perhaps- which he did. Now it’s about him actually getting them.

I know the anxiety is the biggest factor here and really try not to put pressure, but rather playfully joke about my frustration so it’s a lighthearted discussion than too serious!

I do think being open with your partner is the only way to heal!