Edged but retreated before ejaculating, have I lost?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Gladiator, Apr 12, 2014.

  1. Gladiator

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    Today I masturbated in the shower, this happend couple of hours ago, probably because of stress or because I was extremely sexually charged. Just when I was about to cum and give up, my dad called me on the phone, which took me away completely from the masturbation and I felt like "Phew, lucky my dad saved me from relapsing"

    So I masturbated today without ejaculating, edging that is. I want to know from the nofap community, Should I restart my counter and clean the pipes? Or should I keep going on as if nothing have happend.

    I still feel like I have a good amount of sexual energy left inside me so I think I hardly lost any minerals from the edging, but maybe screwed my brain chemicals a little bit.

    I also want to let you guys know, my goal is to stop masturbation but not stop watching porn. I'm not addicted to porn and I don't need porn, but I have mastrubated since age of 9 and my body acts as if it's something that I need to do to survive.

    So whatchu guys think, should I restart or keep going?
     
  2. Caveat Emptor

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    This. Check out this article from YourBrainonPorn.com.

    As for the reset, its up to you. Given the information you have about edging, do you think you should avoid it in the future? If so, you should probably reset.
     
  3. omarcoming

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    One question I have is that if you are giving up masturbation what reason is there to carry on with porn knowing where it could lead?

    I don't mean to be too presumptuous there, I guess I approach the question from my own view which is porn has always been very much a means to an end, for masturbation - I'd never think to watch it for any other reason.
     
  4. Gladiator

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    What i mean is that I'm not addicted to porn, but masturbation. Therefor I'm fighting masturbation
     
  5. Togs

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    I'd reset. I edge in shower or when I pee to get a semi. I feel like it is good to see if I start getting hard. Then I stop before I get fully erect. If I did that, I feel it's full masterbating. I'm here to quit that and I'm not hung up on porn. Just images in my mind and obsessed with my penis when it's fully hard. That's why I think getting it hard is masterbating and definitely a fail and a reset.
     
  6. omarcoming

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    I got that, but for what reason so you watch porn if not to masturbate?
     
  7. Dreams

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    If I would edge I would reset, or remove it from my counter's goals.

    As for the porn.. if you weren't addicted you probably wouldn't be watching it. But if its not in your goals to quit porn, I would say it would be extremely difficult if not impossible to quit masturbating.

    My personal opinion anyway!
     
  8. bean

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    Disagree, and I don't say that in a mean-spirited way. I haven't watched porn in a month and I still struggle with fantasy and sexual images which have led me to several relapses. Quite a few of those fantasies have been magnified what's been really bad porn use these last four years, and in my mind I've had flashbacks to porn scenes I've viewed over the years.

    I think William or Mark said it best when describing what porn really is, whether it's on your screen or in your mind. Are you a detached observer? If so, then it's probably porn. Is it an unrealistic, fetish, or downright revolting scenario? If so, it's probably porn. Is it driving feelings love or what you would consider lust? If it's lust, it's probably porn.

    Just some food for thought.

    EDIT: My bad, you're thinking the same thing I am. I interpreted that differently.
     
    Last edited: Apr 12, 2014
  9. Gladiator

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    If I have hard time waking up for school then I might watch 5-10 min porn since its very stimulating, watch sometimes porn when I lift since it gives me higher testosterone. Sometimes I watch porn while I talk to a girl on skype since it stimulates me sexually and I get more sexually agressive when I talk to them.

    I don't need porn for my own pleasure, but I need masturbation.
     
  10. NoFapAsian

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    Hey buddy. I would call it a reset, otherwise you would get into the habit of edging and eventually it will make you reset at a later date. Better realise that edging is not good now than later.
    I don't think Porn itself does any damage if you don't Masturbate. The only problem is that Porn makes most people want to masturbate. It's like standing in front of an ice cream shop all day is not going to make you fat, but it's probably going to make you get an ice cream at some stage which will make you fat.
    Good luck buddy
     
  11. Malik Jaffar

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    Nah I wouldn't call it a reset. Look at it this way; you stopped yourself just before you relapsed. I consider it a relapse when you ejaculate from masturbation. Otherwise, you're good. As you said, you have been saved by your father.
     
  12. NoFapAsian

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    Not ejaculating is definitely better than ejaculating.. But if you type in nofap.org, right in the centre of the page, it says "no edging". Obviously it's your call and some people do allow it, but I'd say be strict with yourself especially when you've only got a few days under your belt, might as well do a reset and do it properly.
     
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  14. thepersonathome

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    I would reset because ask yourself deep down "if my father never called, would have I gone all the way?" by the looks of your post it looks like a yes. Also, if you really wanna quit masturbating, you have to quit edging. You are the one who makes the rules but still if you don't reset your counter you're kind of cheating on yourself. It takes discipline to really change
     
  15. Squeaky Soul

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    I would reset your counter, and not PMO. Sort of go on as if nothing has happened, but reset your counter too.

    That's what I would do,

    ~Squeaky Soul
     
  16. Soul Cage

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    Wow, lots of opinions for you here, plenty of support. Obviously it is your call, everyone has different guidelines for themselves depending on what they are trying to remove from their lives the most. I'm like you I don't have a huge problem with porn but, I know it isn't doing me any good AT ALL, so I've quit. My problem is MO, so that is to say I'm quitting masturbation with or without orgasm. I didn't used to count edging as a reset, then it started to become a problem, I couldn't stop once I started...so now it's a definite reset for me. Sounds like edging is part of your problem to me, or at any rate it isn't helping you suceed.
     
  17. Gladiator

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    I think I won't reset, yes I edged but as two days has passed I don't feel much diffrence.

    I still get easily boners unlike the first 3 days of Nofap and I'm still sexually energetic, also I haven't edged or watched porn since then. I would say, if I M until I O that's when I'm going to reset.

    There you have it guys.
     
  18. Onaniking

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    Good for you, For finding your own boundaries. For some of us the real problem is the masturbation. Edging is the worst thing you can do and it can easily lead to relapse had to learn that myself the hardway trying to have my cake and eat too. Just don't ever touch yourself and you'll get far.
     
  19. Gladiator

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    Well this time I edged for couple of hours, lets see the effects. Didn't use any porn, only dirty talking with some chick on the net. Maybe the result will be diffrent, if not I might as well replace edging to MO, no seed wasted.
     
  20. virginpaul

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    Hey you nee to stop viewing Porn because it is a lie that hurts young women that pose for pictures and teen guys and all. If you are not addicted then I challenge you to :
    1 Not view porn since there is no addiction this should be easy.
    2 Don't touch except to go to the bathroom.
    3 No masturbation for at least a couple of weeks till you get some sense that you can choose to or not.
    If you want i'm here for you and will be accountable too.
     

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