Edging has made me feel awful!

Stay strong man! You’ll get there, don’t beat yourself up.

Be nice to yourself and see if you can coach yourself going forward.

 

When you give the devil an inch, he takes a mile!! That's how I view the process. I hope I don't even give a smidge of weakness this time around. Cheers to that.

 

Get that shit out of there, my friend. By "doubting" you're already excusing the behavior. Try harder than that. Are you unable to be your normal self tomorrow? Bullshit. Yeah..you CERTAINLY can be. TRY HARDER. Focus and visualize. TRY HARDER. By saying, "I doubt.." you've already got the emotional part of your brain saying, "Well..we have some play time here." You've already rationalized it. DO NOT do that.

Instead of saying, "I doubt I'll be back..", stand up right now, look in the mirror..LITERALLY...look in the mirror...and say, "Fuck this, I'm back on the horse in the morning and screw this shit." Sit down after you say that (say it!!!) and focus on what you need to do. Visualize your life without this nonsense. And TRY HARDER.

Falling down is because we didn't try hard enough. Failing is because we STOPPED TRYING.

Please..get that 90-day number out of your head. This ISN'T ultimately about 90 days. It's about CHANGE.

Wake up tomorrow, have a cold shower, a nice few minutes of meditation and start right back up that fucking hill. And STOP SAYING "I doubt"..

Get that shit right out of your head.

 

This is something we literally ALL have the ability to do. It's not like some poor guy with no arms and no legs trying to play in the NFL. He's screwed! All the mental gymnastics in the world aren't going to magically grow arms and legs on his body and THEN give him the skill to make the NFL. However, none of us are THAT guy.

We ALL have the ability to control this addiction and put it to rest for good. If we find we cannot, it's because we are NOT trying hard enough. And you have to believe that.

There's NO huge horned-beast that storms into your room, pulls you out of bed, slams you down in front of your laptop, or PC, etc and then puts his bony-beast claws around your throat and howls "Surf porn and grab your dick!!!" That's not what happens at all!! This is a craving that crawls out of the back of a dark cave that exists in your brain and compels you to do what it wants. It doesn't force you and it doesn't threaten you with a beating. It compels you and it suckers you in.

Tell me .. we all don't have the power within us to fight that back?

 

Read what you just wrote. You've done this before, faltered, became frustrated, and then DOUBTED your ability to do this. Stop that thinking, my friend.

When you start to doubt, you're in trouble. You can't do that.

You faltered. Had a bad day for sure. OK..live with that and make up your mind for tomorrow. I wish you would take those numbers out of your head (90). Fuck the number. Sure..it's nice to play around with motivational numbers - my 1st is tomorrow - but the bottom line is this: it's not the number; it's a lifestyle choice. No alcoholic in his right mind would ever say, "I'm off the booze for 100 days! After that, back on! Happy Days!!" Everyone around him would think he were nuts. Why do we as porn addicts aim for a number instead of a lifestyle reconfiguration? I get the motivational aspect of the number, but I think we sometimes forget to look long term and fail to understand that WE CAN'T KEEP DOING THIS.

I'm a huge boxing fan, or used to be. I am reminded about the George Foreman story. When he lost his world title surprisingly to Muhammed Ali, that lost devastated him. It destroyed him psychologically and he had serious issues with letting go of that defeat. That loss ripped his confidence out of his chest and left him a heap of what he used to be. One of the fiercest HW fighters to ever live was reduced to a wreck. At 25 years old. Years later he became spiritual, grew his confidence back, went back to boxing, and won back his HW title belt....20 years later at 45 years old! How is that possible? Because George kept trying, that's why. He faltered, was beaten down, mentally ravaged, and got his ass kicked. But he never quit. If he did, he never would have won back his title. He didn't doubt. Well..if he did, it didn't stick around!

Stumble. Make mistakes. Get frustrated. Get mad. Be disappointed. BUT..take one day..shake it off...and then get back to work. It's a lifestyle. Treat it as such. Erase doubt. TRY HARDER.

 

you'll make it, you'll get through it. stay strong, the battle still continues my friend

 

Plenty of time, don’t worry about it, you got realistically 10 more weeks (minimum) before the relaxation of this social distancing, so go easy on worrying if it’ll work with a woman or not.

Use your new found time and energy for better things

 

You are always rewiring your brain! Everytime you learn something new.

If you feel your PMO habits have interfered with the rest of your life then find other things to do. I strongly recommend exercise, reading and meditation. It’s not easy as we don’t have options to go out and see others or see some scenery but there is plenty to do indoors if you are creative

 

I started a prison cell workout regime, it helps, it’s all body weight. You can start to create a routine, which will help reduce your spare idle time. You can also use that energy you waste to make yourself stronger and more attractive

 

Right now, I’m using a combo of 8 different exercises, chin-ups(lats), pull ups(biceps), tricep dips, leg raises, press-ups, sit-ups, squats, and tricep press-ups.

there are more complicated and difficult versions of these to move onto later, but last week and next week I’m just trying to fit a lot of reps into a day of one of them (eg 500 press-ups in a day, 500 squats the next etc.). I started, as I knew my gym was gonna close just doing 2 rounds of the eight every day 10 in each set increasing by 5 a day. Just to start a routine off, it’s worked well so far.

There are lots of guides on google if you search prison cell workouts.