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Edging=relapse?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by awakenow, Mar 8, 2016.

  1. awakenow

    awakenow Fapstronaut

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    I watched porn a little bit the other day but I have not had an orgasm in 15 days. I see people on here saying that edging is worse than orgasm due to dopamine etc. I only watched porn for a little while. Like only a few minutes! I wasn't even feeling that horny. Does this count as relapse?
     
  2. VeryUnderstanding

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    Hi !

    Unfortunately that is a RESET watching porn is one of many triggers, if you had seen some sexual photos that just popped up somewhere on the web, and didnt go out looking for those images and quickly looked away then that would of been okay the only time looking at a women would be okay also was if it was in real life. This time you searched for the porn and watched it, but thats okay reset and relapse does not mean you did not gain anything from the 15 days you just did, it just means you need to try again.
     
  3. awakenow

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    I understand and I'll remember that next time! So what exactly does someone gain from not masturbating if they still relapsed? There was still a dopamine release wasn't there?
     
  4. VeryUnderstanding

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    • you gained quite alot, you stopped your thirst by watching, you stopped the anxiety by watching, you stopped the continues fantasies in your mind by watching. You gained quite alot of relief by doing watching the porn am i correct?. EVEN tho you reset does not mean go on a massive binge for one week straight and pmo allday, you still trained your brain in 15days, just reset the clock and start from day 1 it might be better this time.
     
  5. awakenow

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    Actually no. This is going to sound kind of weird but sometimes I just like to watch a certain kind of porn for emotional fulfillment(which I'll admit isn't exactly healthy either). There is this type of porn that is very focused on foreplay and more loving aspects of sex. I barely even get sexually aroused from this. Its more of a wanting of affection that drives me to watch it. The way I feel when I watch this is a whole lot different from the way I feel when I am aroused by "normal" sexual things. So no, I did not get incredibly horny nor did I feel sexually relieved from watching it. But I will heed your advice and I will also do my best to stop watching this type of porn as well. Either way, I can see that it probably isn't good for me and that I should focus more on being with a real woman.
     
  6. VeryUnderstanding

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    well emotional fulfilment sounds like a relief to me! does not have to be a sexual relief i was just giving examples of types that relieved me ,but it hit the spot for you and that has to stop.Try and find a women it will help you, unfortunately for me it did not help i still would of have rathered watching porn then having sex but i had been watching porn for almost 9 years the damage shows
     
  7. awakenow

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    Ahh yeah I get your point. Ok will do. I will do my best. I still have fantasies in my head though. Dunno how I'm gonna get through that one.

    Do you think finding a real woman can help in this nofap journey?
     
  8. Exxz

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    I will admit I have edged yesterday.. and I basically edged to the point of really bad blue balls. I didn't want to break my streak, so I decided to deal with it. The blue balls definitely stopped me from edging there.

    But next time, when I edge. I will have a separate counter for only edging.. But, the numbers getting higher keeps me motivated to keep going.
     
  9. VeryUnderstanding

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    i have some super fantasies in my head too ! they will go. My advice before finding a real women is to do the 90 day reboot and then look for her because you might find things get a little more twisted while your still addicted, my man problem was gay ocd thinking i dont love her anymore and im not sexual attracted to women or i didnt find her attractive anymore, it made my mind twist up real bad, sometimes id kiss her and think to myself i hope i dont think this is a boy, it reall fucks things up for you to just hold off for 90days
     
  10. awakenow

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    Nahh I get what you mean to a point. I have OCD as well. I have had many different types of it. haha. It is NOT fun whatsoever. I'm hoping that nofap can help with my OCD as well! Hmm but I feel that I shouldn't close myself off to the possibility of being with someone even within the 90 days. But I won't actively search...I'll just be more open.
     
  11. awakenow

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    Yeaaahh I know what you mean. I edged a few days ago and got blue balls for like, two days. It sucks especially when I'm at work. But yeah I think two counters can be good for motivation.
     
  12. VeryUnderstanding

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    yeah sounds good dont just close down the shop, stay open. If your pmo addiction is somewhat sever where you need to do PMO then it will be a hard time explaining to your new girlfriend that you cant have sex until your reboot is done
     

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