Ejaculation is the glue

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by clapas, Aug 12, 2020.

  1. clapas

    clapas Fapstronaut

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    Just some thoughts about what really hurts me, i.e. my body and my brain.

    Can I get addicted to porn without ejaculation? Can I get addicted to gambling without any price at all, even sporadic?

    Why is escalation so natural? Why is there a tendency to edge? Do those make the release more pleasant? I think yes, at least in the short term. There is more dopamine, the "feel good" hormone. But all the movilized dopamine would not make sense in biological terms if there was not a reward at the end. Ejaculation is the Big Price.

    That is why I think structural changes don't occur in my brain if there is no glue. And ejaculation is the glue of PMO.

    Porn is a temptation and the bait. And it is difficult to escape. As when a compulsive gambler is exposed to the lights, sounds and promised rewards that lure him. Masturbation is the action, the enjoyment, his playing the machine or cheering for his horse.

    I think that porn escalation is like gambling with bigger stakes. It is more excitement. And probably bigger potential change in my brain.
     
  2. Saythatagain

    Saythatagain Fapstronaut

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    I can understand what you are saying. It's been a long while since I have PMO'ed and about 30 days since I was intimate with my wife. I am a walking time bomb and on edge. I had to stop even cuddling this morning and told her to please stop moving. I get to this spot where I am so on edge that even feeling it move in my underwear or see it pulse would set me off to an O. I have tried to encourage a WD and freaking come so close but yet no whammy. I should have rubbed up against her this morning or shook it a couple of extra times to relieve the pressure but like what you are saying, I want the bigger reward. My brain doesn't just want a release. I want the build up and the explosion of the finale. If I were to just pop off like I have in the past I know I would want more.
     
  3. Ejaculation and orgasm are not one and the same.
     
  4. clapas

    clapas Fapstronaut

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    If you are orgasming without ejaculating that may be a bad sign. I would advice you to visit a doctor.
     

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