Emotional Cycles of spouse

I choose to ‘ignore’ your comments as I find them quite toxic, but I feel like you’ve revealed some of your vulnerability here. Most emotionally immature people (myself included) deal with conflict in one of two ways: fight or flight. I, like you, have been cutting off friendships and relationships and soon as things get tough for my whole life. This is because you are letting fear dominate. Showing vulnerability is being a real man- throwing your toys out of the pram or running away from home are the behaviours of a child. Putting it in your terms, until you “man up” and face problems head on rather than bailing, you will live a very unfulfilled life and you will only be able to maintain shallow relationships.

Don’t bother replying if you are going to be defensive- that will just prove my point. All the best.

 

Of course you cut off bad relationship when they are bad. If it's a few time things no biggie. If it's continuous torment like for a year, it's time for action. Parents made kids upset at time because kids don't get their way. Totally normal but overall sum should be good. Of course kids made u upset at time because they can be messy and leave mess behind. Overall, it's to distinguish what relationship is toxic IN THE LONG RUN.

 

I agree what crappy advice! Don't tell her anything,she's blowing it out of proportion! Jesus he should try been the SO its the most hurtful thing a partner can go through and the constant lies,deciet and & general down playing of the situation makes it way worse