ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION **MOTIVATIONAL**

[PleasureToPain]

Hey everyone! Something I dealt BADLY with was erectile dysfunction. It led me down a path of thinking so many things were wrong with me and full of embarrassment to even not even moving forward with having sex with women because I’d rather just not feel the pain of embarrassment if I didn’t get it up. I at first thought I was very alone with this but to find out a lot of men are struggling with it. Porn had basically 70% to do with it but truthfully my own thoughts and understanding were also a big part! Instead of getting excited to go have sex I would just be in my head thinking “I hope I get hard” and that never worked. I now have sex around 3-4 a week with my gf and I love to naturally get and feel hard. I’m not against viagr (have taken it many times) but truthfully feel it is such a bad way to think about getting erections, it’ll make you feel dependent and doesn’t ever get you to the understanding of why you’re not getting hard. I’m only speaking if you’re thinking “I need to take viagr to have sex”. But my biggest thing I would suggest is understanding the relaxed mind going into sex and your own mindset. If you have a fear about getting hard then that’s some programming and you’re going to have to reprogram yourself to get excited to have sex, not project already a bad situation! But any questions about ED or whatever I’d love to answer then to hopefully help someone!

 

[Deleted Account]

Hey thanks, this is really helpful and good timing because I was just thinking about it.

At one of my best moments, I also realized something worth sharing... which is that an erection is all about focus. I'm not sure why it took me so long to realize that and put it into words, because I have definitely noticed if I'm really comfortable with a chick and we're really intimate on like, the psychological level... looking into each other's eyes, paying attention to what each other are saying and physically doing... I can get pretty hard.

That goes along exactly with what you're saying, because in those moments I'm not in my head, I'm with her.

But I totally relate man, back in my worst days I would get the girl committed to some kind of sexual activity and then spend most of the time inside my head wondering if I was going to get as hard as I wanted to... which would then make me not get that hard, and send me spiraling down the self-esteem shithole and not paying attention to her. Fuck that.

The last thing you said is important too, reprogramming yourself to get excited about having sex. I think I still have some work to do there. It's so much easier to pursue sexual pleasure online than to face all the insecurities about the real world. I feel like a has been there.

We'll get through this.

 

[Longtime27]

I've lived with PIED since the times of being a virgin many moons ago. But through putting the right thought processes in place, reducing porn use, reducing masturbation, stimulating and appreciating touch and natural arousal, the ED symptoms can wash away and diminish. It is about reprogramming as you say.

For me, last night was the first time in a very long time where I didn't even think to take some sort of pill as a safety / comfort measure, but things flowed with the gf and worry didn't cross my mind. It felt good.