Escort challenge

This right here! You nailed it though. Alcohol, drugs, sex, are all symptoms to the real problem, that fine tuned piece of machinery between my 2 ears is the problem. I haven't touched alcohol or drugs in 8 years June 17th. But I never looked at sex as a problem...

 

Yeah it's scary how quickly an addiction can occur.

 

So I've had issues with porn since i was young which I assume many here are the same case. I have cheated on two exes with prostitues and seen many when I am alone. It has almost been a year since I have seen a prostitue, but I still find myself surfing escort websites as a form of porn, and convicing myself in the moment I am going to follow through. I also am looking for girls who do drugs and I have almost been a year without drugs or alcohol as well, it is a dangerous game I know I am playing. I want to stop looking at porn and puruising these escort sites, knowing that I will break down eventually come the right opportunity. Im single now but want to be clear of this addiction before entering a realtionshop, or at least abstained longer than I ever have before which has only been about two weeks without porn. I'm a programmer and work from home so I have access to look at porn, cam sites, escorts anytime I want, this makes my self control very hard. Any thoughts would be appreciated.

 

I wanted to see if this is still a thing, I'm so happy to see folks are still talking about it. I got into escorts at 17, with lunch money, lost virginity through some cheap local escort. Anyway 9 years later and I find I'm rather annoyingly seeing AMP's way more than I'd like, virtually anyway. Been off P since February, MO since July (yes I know I'm new to NoFap-). But I just search online, with no erection or such that I used to get when just puruising sites and parlours. Which I find concerning?? I don't know if I should be concerned my brain/hormones are not responding to searching these places anymore. I have a long distance s/o, which is why I used to see AMP's (mostly bbfs in last 2 years with added adrenaline of catching something which is definitely not healthy mentally?) every 2 weeks from 2012 up till July this year. Then something just clicked and I've been wanting to stop. I slipped once on Sept 3, but hoping to get back on track, seriously, I feel so weak, and ashamed having to lie to family or friends where I've been, the proudest attribute is I managed to abstain for almost 2 months solo, I'm in for a challenge, and I reckon it'd help my savings account too!
What are the premises for the challenge to stay on track? Cheers

 

I have the same problem. I've been to a prostitutes about 12-15 times in 2 years, my main problem is actually surfing escort websites and classifieds. It gives me a rush plus the anticipation of actually seeing one. It's something I've replaced porn with but it's just as bad.

 

How are you guys all going with urges? I haven't looked at classifieds today which is good

 

Awesome stuff man! Looking is the hardest thing not to do. I can convince myself that I can look, just not order. Then the obsession starts.

So far, I'm ok. That's the best I can say. The urges have been powerful everyday since Monday, with the exception of yesterday. I think I was just too busy to think about it. Today, I started planning a trip to the parlor! It's so freaking crazy. Well, that's why I'm on here right now. Hope you are doing well my friend

 

Been three days including today haven't looked, doesn't seem like much, but when your intentionally doing it, it seems impossible. There are those moments where I forget Im abstaining and Im like not in this negative mindset that I usually am in, and then I realize I am abstaining and it reinforces a good feeling. I just hope I can stick with it. I've looked through old journals of mine and seen passages like, today is the day I will change everything so on. And find myself always just repeating to my self today is different. So I can only hope I can keep up one day at a time. I even tried praying today, I dont consider myself relgious but if anything will help I will take it. Even when I have a successful day, that concurring night time is hard, I think I cant bring my phone to the bed, at least to start.

 

Yeah man it's crazy how a look can turn into a full on plan.

 

I've been compulsively seeing prostitutes for around 3 years now. It got so bad at a point that I started taking out cash advances so I could see two or three women a week. Needless to say, it put me deeper into debt.

It seems like my porn addiction reinforces the prostitute addiction and vice versa. I started abusing porn more frequently during this shutdown. As a result, I started experiencing PIED persistently for the first time.

I'm now abstaining from prostitutes indefinitely, mainly so I can save up money for a vacation to Dominican Republic in two months. I originally planned on seeing prostitutes when I'm down there but I'm not too sure now.

 

The money thing really got to me too, but it's not the only reason to stop. I assume you don't feel to good after you have seen a prostitue, I know i don't. Are you going alone on your vacation? In any case you also risk your personal safety when your visit a prostitute I've been robbed before. There are many reasons not to, your health, safety, financial, or clarity of mind. I would try and make a decision about not going to see one on your trip, so you are not in a limbo and you let you brain convince you once the opportunity arrises.

 

Sometimes I feel really good after seeing a prostitute. Sometimes I feel really lonely afterwards or like it wasn't worth the money I just spent. Most of the times I feel pretty good afterwards, but I've felt disappointed a lot recently. I think I'm just becoming jaded. I'm pretty sure I'm gonna see at least one working girl while in DR. I've been talking to my friend and I think I'm gonna get two Venezuelan prostitutes for a threesome.

 

Yeah I'm not taking any drink from anyone I don't know very personally. I want to go on vacation to DR because its a beautiful tropical country and its very affordable. I also like Dominican food, Dominican music and most of all Dominican women. I plan on going to Sosua or Puerto Plata.

 

So do you consider it a problem for you to see an escort? There must be a part of you that wants to stop if you are posting. I used to not consider it a problem when I wasn't in a realtionship but looking back there wasn't one good encounter only emotions like borderom, loneliness, so on that I was trying to fill with sex. I'm not trying to convince you one way or the other just sharing that in the long run seeing prostitues has been nothing but detrimental to my pysche, my finances and the safety of both parties. Are you concerned your doing this? Whats your reason for posting just curious?

 

Honestly, I can't say that I never had a good encounter. I've had some amazing encounters, but ultimately it is emotionally unfulfilling. Moreover, it is very expensive and bad for my finances. I would like to at least cutdown and find a sex partner I don't need to pay by the hour. I need sex far more frequently than I can afford from a prostitute. I'm also pretty lonely. Ultimately, I consider porn addiction to be worse than prostitute addiction because the latter can never give me PIED lol.

 

I've actually never been to DR. My friend went earlier this year before the lockdown so he's not going back until next year, but he knows some people so they're gonna show me around. My plan is to go to Sosua beach, hangout, find some outdoor parties, go to Puerto Plata, see if I can find a regular woman to hangout with.......