Escort challenge

Thanks for sharing!

 

hello need4realchlg,first of all thanks for starting this particular thread.I would like to join the group if u are interested to let me in.I really want to get rid of this fucking habit.

 

This Saturday it’ll be a year in this thread!
I’m still here!

 

YAY!!!!!!!!​

 

Thanks guys

Thanks bro. All of you are welcome

 

Happy anniversary for the thread. I don’t really follow many other threads on nofap mainly just been this one because it relates to my struggles with visiting escorts and such.
Last year around the holidays I was feeling pretty low with myself and sought out help from a therapist. Instead of spending money on escorts i had a few visits with the therapist and it was very helpful. I made a few commitments to see 0 escorts for 2020 and have still kept my promise. Also have refrained from porn.
I have had a few close calls though.
I’m doing much better and this isn’t just a full year. It’s been good to keep in touch with some familiar forum members here as well as AP parters.
Sooner or later it would be nice to do maybe a zoom call or something.
Anyhow I appreciate reading peoples experiences and troubles they have had with this addiction that we can learn from each other.
As a sex addict it’s not something I just tell people because of the judgement and being a taboo subject to many.
I’m seeking to find the right girl for me and one day I hope to find her.
It sucks to live with this in my past but I know I’m a good man and that’s in the past, this is the now, it’s time to move forward!!!

 

Hello All,

I have read some of the posts in this thread and have found it applicable to my addiction as well.

Gabor Mate is a good one to look into as well.

Sorry I am new to nofap and just found this thread. My story is that essentially I started with PMO and it escalated in all areas to where now the addiction is still somewhat to PMO but mostly in direction of escorts.

 

For anyone interested in reading about or following my journey, my reboot log is linked below.

https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/no-pmo-the-fight-to-take-my-life-back.295322/

 

What are the parameters of this challenge and how does one partake??

 

@need4realchg

Ok. Thank you. I have started a reboot log that I linked above in my post yesterday, but would like to use this thread as a reboot journal of sorts for the escort part of my addiction in general.

My general counter says 5 days, but for this I will use a new counter and journal here regularly, starting each journal post with the day followed by the number that I am on. Since I am starting this challenge technically after my general PMO challenge (counter is set to 5 days as you guys can see), this counter will lag behind.

My full story for anyone interested is posted in the introduce yourself forum here:
https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?t...ction-out-of-my-life-once-and-for-all.295373/

 

To everyone on here,

Over the next year I hope to bond with you all in our shared struggle to end this addiction once and for all. Thank you to everyone on here for existing and lets get better together!

 

Wow! Well over a year clean. Awesome. Its progress like yours that keeps me moving forward.
Thank you brother.

 

Not quite a year but just about!

You can do it bro!

 

I am interested in healing my sex addiction with strippers.

I always end up feeling depressed or wanting more after each session, and I spend most of my time thinking about the next session.

I feel like I’m using this addiction as a way to cope with the fact that I’m far from living up to my own standards. And me having sex with strippers gives me the illusion that I’m living good.

 

I can understand that your mind is like "yeah I'm living it up being with this HOT girl" it really boosts your ego so I get it...what could help is setting a budget and possibly getting closure if there's one particular girl you enjoy seeing just saying "hey I enjoy our time together but this is it for me thanks for everything" and then cut contact...

When you DO cut contact think about things you like to do...do you like to read? Consider joining your local library or building up a collection of books? Do you like photography? Learn how to operate a DSLR camera, take a class...

Money can do a lot, it can raise your ego sure like with the strippers but it can also be used to make you a BETTER person

 

This can happen with escorts as well.

I have noticed that during the lead up to the session and sometimes during the session itself, I too felt "important" and that "something good" was happening in my life.

It was probably the primitive part of my brain latching on to something to get some sort of meaning and importance, saying to itself, "hey, I may not be where I want to be at the moment, in life, but at least this female is showing me attention."

After the session was over, I would always find out the harsh reality as these feelings would immediately be replaced by guilt, shame, and a deep sadness; this would probably lead to seeking out more PMO and/or escort sessions now that I think back on it.

A deeply vicious cycle. Truth is that you have the power to break free from it one day at a time, bro!

 

Yep, you understand what I am going through and provide a solution I agree with. Like... Why don't I build myself and my life up to my standards so that I can attract a woman/relationship that wants to walk a journey with me for who I am. Rather than having these short pleasure illusory experiences only to be left with the cold harsh truth of, I'm still not where I want to be in life, and these women don't really love me, they're just doing their job.

 

I can only imagine I've fantasized about that and I imagine you feel good in the moment like "I just WANT you!" and you GET her, You may go for a GFE with kissing make it even more intimate but its just the same, in my view GFE just hooks you in deeper with the illusion of intimacy