Escort challenge

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by need4realchg, Nov 14, 2019.

Are you struggling with paid-sex?

  1. Yes— and I would join the challenge/group

  2. No, but I would like to join too

  3. Yes— but not interested in a challenge or a group

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  1. JPMich2020

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    Do you have any recommendations, I don't know wether it is related directly with PMO addiction, but I have been watching a guy named Aaron Clarey, do you have any books to recommend?
     
  2. a_man

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    no,I haven't.
    thank you for replying.
     
  3. GA93JDeereboy

    GA93JDeereboy Fapstronaut

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    Books I like although not directly related to porn etc it still helps open your mind:


    Rich dad poor dad by Robert kyosaki





    you are a badass by Jen sincero



    The 10x rule by grant Cardone




    a lot of what I like is about building sucess
     
  4. WilBil99

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    Happy Thanksgiving gents. Lots to be thankful for. Here’s to spending our time and money wisely this long weekend and all holiday season.
     
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  5. Veritech

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    There is always the excitement of entering a hotel room, meeting a different woman and immediately having sex.

    No commitment, no taking anybody out to dinner, no hiding an illicit relationship in case you bump into somebody. No need for her to even be attracted to you or get to know you.

    Walk in, shower, kissing, blowjob, penetrating sex, orgasm.

    Other than parting with the money, it is just too easy to access and have sex with an escort.
     
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  6. Flimsyfryingpan

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    This right here sounds exactly what summer of 2014 was like. I would see escorts like crazy for awhile then would stop then start up again.
    It was a crazy summer and cant believe the money I blew and the situations I got myself into.
    I stopped for almost 3 years and thought I was done til one reached out to me from on a legit dating site. I hesitated like crazy but ended up seeing this person as my craving that I thought was suppressed took hold of me.
    Felt terrible afterwords and it was totally not worth it. Probably the most expensive BJ i have ever gotten. It was supposed to be more but she wanted to hop on raw and I was like "Fuck No" and had no condom.
    At least I still stuck to that rule....
    Anyways she kept trying to contact me after and I ended up blocking her number and have been fine since.....for now.
    So just look out. This will come back to you if you are not careful and another thing. You saw that right. I was on a legit dating site and was contacted by her. This is the second time that's happened so be careful out there guys.
     
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  7. Good story and feedback bro.
    legit dating sites are perfect for professional sex workers. Stay safe.
     
  8. Does anyone know how to start a group for us to hold each other accountable ?
     
  9. GA93JDeereboy

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    Well I been keeping away from the junk. I know many of us here on this thread are struggling with almost the same issue just at different issues. I do agree some of those free junky dating apps are trash. A lot of escorts there saying p2p or pay to play. Like wtf! I have been off all that junk, and off all this escort stuff to. The year is almost over, let’s finish 2019 away from it to get a fresh start of 2020?
    I don’t know everyone’s exact moral standards, but i am thinking just going out going for it and just seeing if I can meet any nice ladies, and if it winds up being a casual hookup then good. Well my opinion.
    But then you have that confidence to meet ladies on your own. I’m sure depending on what area you live in, say more populated areas, I bet if a guy goes out, and is looking or something instead of home, he could probably get laid like every week or so. Just my opinion, but anyway, hope everyone is doing great!!!
     
  10. GA93JDeereboy

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    Guys I relapsed again. I’m sorry. I need help. I saw an escort, wish I hadn’t done it. im sick of this disease. I know I did ok for about 30 days my guess. I really got to beat this thing.
    it wasn’t that enjoyable either, i wasn’t satisfied. Most times I am not. Only good thing I can say is at least I was covered for a quick bj so that reduces the chances of catching anything. Another thing I hate to bring up is how around where I am. Atlanta, Georgia hiv I’ve is now becoming an epidemic over here. Worse then some 3rd world countries. I pray I don’t have it. But still that is horrible!
    Lesson:

    guys just don’t do it.


    I was embarrassed when I was with a friend at McDonald’s the other day. I seen a lady who I used as an escort there. It was years ago and here it is years later! I hid my face so she wouldn’t see me. I remember seeing her look through my clothes trying to steal. Things like that really get to you. Because at that moment I had just accomplished something great and then I was reminded of this.

    Someone help give me advice here. Thanks.

    my excuse was because I wanted to get laid so bad. It wasn’t worth it.
     
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  11. Veritech

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    @GA93JDeereboy

    The desire to get laid always hits us. That is not unusual. But the desire does not have to be fulfilled at the time.

    You spent money to feel miserable. Not a good trade.

    When you have such a desire it can and will pass. It is difficult to white-knuckle, lest you succumb.

    Perhaps meditation, taking a walk, hitting the gym may help.

    The temptation will pass if you let it.

    Edit: I liked you post, not because I liked what you did, but because you held yourself to account for your behavior.
     
  12. What emotion triggered you to look for the escort this past time ?
     
  13. GA93JDeereboy

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    I did it again today. Seen a lady I had seen before, she was nice and all. But then you know I still aren’t getting better. I have suicidal thoughts again. Like last year around this time. I’m glad I didn’t find the gun, probably wouldn’t be here then.
    I just feel bad bc I’m 25 now. I’m to old for this sh$$$. I want to get laid the right way. Idk what’s wrong with me. Thank you @Veritech for your reply. I know there are good people on this forumn. I got to get myself right. The accountability was helping but then it’s like I’m on a binge again. I think I’m done with this binge bc I met a nice escort but still, even though she was smiley and nice and seemed to enjoy it, in my heart I’m a pos. I just think bad like withdrawaling all my cash and investments and writing a will and that way when I go there won’t be any issues bc I have enough to take care of them.

    I’m sorry guys
    I’m not going to do anything bad like that. I just want someone for me. I met a lady week or two ago, she was nice and she liked me. I just didn’t have the feelings for her, she wasn’t happy about that and I hate to upset her.
    I just want someone for me. I don’t know.
     
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  14. Binging is part of a process my friend. Can you identify what emotions you feel before you go into the cycle of looking for an escort ?
    For example : boredom , loneliness, hungry, etc .
     
  15. GA93JDeereboy

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    I have been bored, bored makes me depressed, because I can make a big impact for the lives of others. Then I get that urge, like you want to get laid, and I start looking online at escorts, find the one I seen before and text, then I get there and it happened
     
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  16. GA93JDeereboy

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    360 bucks gone already to escorts just in 2 days
     
  17. Infrasapiens

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    I'm in.

    I cannot lose since I'm broke but still, I want to feel like I acomplished something.
     
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  18. WilBil99

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    Buddy I wish I could give you a hug and tell you it will be ok. I’m about double your age and it took me way too long to seek help. I’m proud of you for doing so now and not wait until life passes you by like it almost did for me. When I was single I was at my worst. Not accountable to anyone and behaving however I wanted whenever I wanted. It wasn’t until I became responsible for something/someone else that change started to happen. For me I got a dog. I hadn’t had a pet in 20 years and was not a dog guy BUT I was bored and lonely and thought if I can focus my attention and efforts on someone else, even a pet, I can work towards breaking down the decades long path of selfish behavior. It also created a schedule and responsibility’s that kept me from scratching every itch that presented itself. Dog people are very loyal and girls love to see a guy who can show loyalty. My local dog park is full of people and it’s a great way to become involved and meet new people, maybe that girl you are looking for. Sorry for ramble but I feel your pain in your posts and want you to know there is plenty of hope.
     
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  19. GA93JDeereboy

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    Well today was a good day. The escort said it was because I’m lonely is why I did it. Saying it is ok to want it and it is human.
    I mean, yes I was, yes I am human, but I’m not disabled and I can go out if I just get some balls and go out that door!
    I just said well messages her I’m not happy with myself and need to change for me and wishing her the best and pretty much something like that.
    They are people too, but many even though you would see they could make a lot of money, I see so many scraping by, from problems whether probation, dui, drugs whatnot.

    But I think escorts could be ok for someone who is Disabled, but I’m not disabled! I’ve heard of people in wheelchairs who needed, and that, I could say is probably ok, but me, I need to go out and find someone. Like one lady I met and hooked up with, that moment was one of the best times I’ve ever had in my life!

    thanks @WilBil99
    Well you learn as you get older so I say it is how you end up, not how you start. I just am only talking about this mainly in this forumn, maybe I need a therapist.
     
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  20. Veritech

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    I fucked up yesterday.

    I had a seriously heated argument with my wife the night before. The next day, I texted a familiar escort service and made arrangements for an encounter. It was so tempting to be validated by someone both with sex and conversation when I felt both lonely and saddened.

    I sat for two hours after the escort using porn and masturbating. I stopped because I had something to do. I had planned to use porn afterward, but I caught a hold of myself.
     
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