Escort challenge

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by need4realchg, Nov 14, 2019.

Are you struggling with paid-sex?

  1. Yes— and I would join the challenge/group

  2. No, but I would like to join too

  3. Yes— but not interested in a challenge or a group

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  1. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    Hang in there my man.

    it’s crazy how our emotions can push us over the edge. How do we corral something we can’t see but feel intensely ??
     
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  2. WilBil99

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    That sucks man. Was the argument the final straw that lead to act out or did it overwhelm you to the point where you were only focused on getting it done? For me I usually get the desire to act out then just wait for the right trigger to validate the “need” to do so. Rarely is it something that creeps up on me. Have you circled back and addressed the issues that caused the argument? Don’t want that wound to remain open. Take care man!
     
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  3. GA93JDeereboy

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    Sorry to hear that. Yea your married, not judging you or anything but it isn’t good for that. Idk your whole situation but just need to turn away from it bud. Beat the stress, enjoy your lady! You can win, we can all win this!
     
  4. Priceless

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    This might sound weird, but sexing an escort, helped with my open addiction. I got with one who was like my porn fantasy. I loved it. After that everytime I went to watch porn. I thought about sex with the escort and asked myself will watching porn be as good as that experience? Every time the answer was no and I didn't bother.
     
  5. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    Marriage = stress ....
    it’s not marriage = sex.

    Incorrect expectations Can cause a long downfall.
     
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  6. GA93JDeereboy

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    Well, I'm stressed out. I don't frequent other places on this forumn much but really am getting stressed out. I am still thinking about that last escort i saw. She is really nice. But the thing is it's so hard to find good people in this world. And I like this woman, she was nice but then I don't really know her. It's like a lot of things when you start talking to people and then many times they don't follow back with you. I mean most people and a lot on this site don't stay with it, such as the accountability. Not being bad mouthing them, I know this is some hard stuff. I'm still messing up. I need some kind of a miracle or something to free me, to get me ahead of this. I don't know what I need. Maybe a girlfriend? Escorts aren't the same, I wish they were but most just want the money and that's about it. The last lady, I really like her alot because she is nice and friendly and I seen her before. But then for all I know she will be like the rest of the escorts.

    Has anyone here felt a real connection with an escort? Anyone here been in love with the escort loved you back?
    I may not be on this forumn forever.
     
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  7. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    it’s gonna sound crazy to the folks who only use escorts for sex— but yes. I have on multiple occasions. I mean legitimately connected.

    i say this only to show it’s possible but not advocating this at all.
     
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  8. Priceless

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    Yes, there was one I felt a real connection with. I mean we connected so much she told me her real name and she would call me up and ask me to come around and wouldn't charge me. One time I paid for an hour and left 5 hours later.

    We both saw what was happening and decided to cut it off, though I still think about her from time to time.

    Real connections do happen. Just be careful.
     
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  9. GA93JDeereboy

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    There is one lady I am friends with from escorts. She texts me I text her every now and then. When I’m coming to town I’ll see what she is doing. Not often though. But she will pick me up and we go out and chat etc. No money for you know. I got her a little truck as she was saying a lot of how she really needs a vehicle a while back. I knew her for awhile before I got it for her and decided I would help her out. She is much happier now and we are now friends I would say. She doesn’t really escort though hardly. She gives me advice if I’m upset on something. But she is the only one I feel we are friends.
    This last escort is nice, but we aren’t on the same page in a way. Idk if she doesn’t want to talk then we’re probably not going to be anything more then what it was, which was me giving her some money for her time. I like her, very pretty lady and nice, but idk what she thinks if I’m just another client or not. And I guess I’ll find out soon.
    Let me know what you guys think of this.
     
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  10. WilBil99

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    3 weeks yesterday without acting out. Longest spell since I first went to a massage parlor in July. Don’t feel the pull (insert joke here) that was there previously. How you gents doing?
     
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  11. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    Yeah I am currently at 28 days myself. Not feeling like an accomplishment by any means. I have been pushing myself to work a third seasonal job and eliminate all my free time. It’s worked ok so far.
     
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  12. GA93JDeereboy

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    Kinda doing better, getting back up again
     
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  13. GA93JDeereboy

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    Idk what’s wrong w me.
    Stressed out, had a phone call bc my number must be out there and someone prank calling I guess they know who I am.
    This isn’t good. I really feel like s$$$ now
     
  14. Jackb97

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    Maybe they arent confident in their slutty abilities :(:D
     
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  15. GA93JDeereboy

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    I need to ahead. Need to build up my confidence in approaching women. I see it more that we need to make the approach. Heck, we are guys. Yes this escort is easy sex, just have to text and that's it but it isn't good sex. I just got to face this fear of rejection of women maybe try the walmart thing and try talking to them at walmart or someplace like that. I'm not into bars as I just tend to sit there and that's about it. Well, say i were to give it hours of time every week, ok then i would meet someone, then i'm sure the sex would be real easy and better. But i'm not all just about sex.
     
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  16. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    Holiday season might make it worse to a degree?
     
  17. GA93JDeereboy

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    Been wasting so much time texting escorts it isn’t funny.

    I need to change, I’m dying, I need help
     
  18. WilBil99

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    Have had zero urges lately. Today I received a credit on a returned item and a request to drop off some items for work about a mile from my go to massage parlor. Had money, time , and opportunity and I FUCKING WANTED TO GO! God I wanted to go. I came to the gym instead. Been riding a bike for 45 minutes. I won’t get fired or divorced for going to the gym today. Can’t say the same if I made the other choice. I fucking hate that the urge was so strong after a month. 439 calories burned so I am picking up ice cream on the way home. Have a good one gents.
     
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  19. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    Bro this is awesome. Wow. Epic. Freaking bad ass. Love your honesty.
     
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  20. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    Hows everyone doing ? New Years is almost here.

    i would like a to create a WhatsApp group for us per the original thread of this.

    Recounting my stats:
    This past year I spent 435 dollars on 14 escorts, which I started keeping tally in the summer.
    My last paid encounter was 9/21/2019.

    using nofap rules of 90 days I would be in remission at this point but It does not feel as if it works the same in sex addiction.

    porn addiction has been an incredible monster but he is slain. Sex addiction will be slain. And once killed buried in an unmarked gravesite.

    i have made headway with connecting to male friends. For the first time since I got married I have good male friends. Guys who I can be myself around. It takes a lot of wind out of my sails to go far away just to “be myself “ with other women when I can be comfortable in my own skin around men at no risk to my wife. Of course she’s not ready for that as our lifestyles are still very mismatched. Having her gone for 3 weeks helped us to lower our guards.

    today we argue only about money which is a good sign. Money is a fixable problem to have.

    i got a second job which not only got me motivated to workout more, but it gave me 2 new friends who we three have decided to start a company. We also started reading a finance book together and to top it off decided to study the Bible together too.

    Im amazed at the changes. I am planning to have my first lords supper in years. Not sure if I am going to go through with it but there’s a good chance. I’m planning Business trips to Europe this spring and I’m hoping to take my family with me. That’s a big change too ... we will see.

    happy new year friends. I’m much lighter than I started this year. Am I hope that you will consider joining me on the adventure.
     
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