Escorts are better then going on a date? huh

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by GA93JDeereboy, Oct 28, 2018.

  1. GA93JDeereboy

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    On youtube their is a video by mgtow I think is the name. He compares the two and one your almost guaranteed sex and the other it may take several dates to get into lets say, into her pants. The escort has experience at being good while the lady your on the date with may be not good at sex. The cost of a date can easily be $100 without any guarantee. The escort is often between probably 80-180. Just really whatever. No strings attached either. Anyway I was reading the comments and many guys were agreeing that getting an escort is the way to go. Like due to this "new generation" or whatever it is. IDK man. The escorts I've seen and i'll say, sure many are nice and pleasant people some were, but the one thing that I wanted was affection and you just can't buy that. Many guys don't want affection or love.Seems like this world is trying to make it all ok. Is it ok?
    I definitely know it isn't ok when your always seeing an escort when your budget doesn't allow for it.
    Some say it is ok maybe every so often if your just down and lonely or wanting to have fun. I want to hear your thoughts.
    I'll say I did see one on my relapse. It wasn't that enjoyable. Since then it's been me searching for more. Wanting that connection. I've just been going all down hill. I don't want to live like that again.
     
  2. GA93JDeereboy

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    Tomorrow let's just wake up and start over and be the man you really are. That's what it's got to be. I'll post every day if I got to.
     
  3. Meditation Monk

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    there goes that guilt feeling down my throat. Whenever I feel like i have to be in a relationship with a woman to be happy. Like I wanna be in for the money. Rolls eyes.
     
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  4. SCANBE

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    I've heard mixed reviews on that experience too. It's not who I am either. Not to mention where I come from, it's illegal.

    As an aside for dating, if your end game is going all the way, you shouldn't have to spend close to $100 to get to that point. If you meet someone who truly likes you, chances are you are going to spend money on lighter activities such as coffee etc.
     
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  5. Meditation Monk

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    Oh boy. i am sure I will be so excited. haha. But I don't see that happening in a century. haha.
     
  6. MusicMakingMonk

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    Since when is dating about getting laid?
    Replacing one addiction with another isn't the way to go lads.
    Work on yourself, work on your career, don't masturbate, don't go to escorts, don't do the whole one-night stand thing either. Cultivate love and acceptance for yourself and the rest will follow.
    Ever heard of the law of attraction? It states that you cannot attract what you want, you can only attract what you are. With that in mind, Learn to find love for yourself, within yourself, not outside of it. This way, you'll attract someone who loves you just as much, and loves herself as much and isn't some insecure, frail little thing either.
    Find connection with your own heart first. How can you love someone else if you can't even accept the way you are yourself?
     
  7. GA93JDeereboy

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    I like that. Dating is definitely not about getting laid.
     
  8. GA93JDeereboy

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    So today overview. Not going to do it. Maybe I'll do a daily post.
    But maybe my views on what I believe is part of the problem. As a kid up to maybe 18 or so I was all for getting married. Then have sex. Now I'm like, if it happens it happens. I'm a guy who is full of love. But truly I'd rather wait for the right woman then being lost all the way around. I know this is such a mixed thoughts topic. Are you sure one night stands are not ok?
    Definitely not porn. Definitely not masturbating. But here we have people refraining from casual sex. Idk if that is not good. I believe sex should be a given thing for both partners. Both willing give and it's a big blessing from God. Sex shouldn't be a commodity. I saw escorts because partly I was feeling horny. At first that was probably just about it. But now I just want love back. And they all just want well not all but many just go to third base on the get go and collect $200. Sorry if I'm all over the place.
     
  9. MusicMakingMonk

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    If it's morally okay for you or not is a question you must answer yourself, my opinion on sexual relationships in general is this, the longer you wait to have sex, the better, generally speaking.
    There are so many hormones and yummy brain chemicals involved in sex, that bond you and make you crave a partner in the same way you can crave any drug, I think it's a bad idea to start a relationship with someone who you really like, and have sex within the first month, and even beyond that.
    Simply because I've read a lot of articles and stories and personal anecdotes of people who turned their dating strategy around, started living more celibate and found themselves having better friendships with the other gender, as well as longer lasting more stable relationships. And with that in mind I think sex is something to be enjoyed with someone you truly love, and nobody else. For me personally it does not have to be confined to the instititute of marriage, but keep in mind the wisdom of why this is such an ancient tradition.
     
  10. Mattew

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    I had, and still have, an escort addiction (but i didn't see any escort from april of this year).

    Going with an escort is not that different from masturbation, it's amazing during the act, but the moment you go away, you feel more empty, more alone, and worst than before.
     
  11. Tiburon727

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    I think about the one day when you find the women you really love and she really loves you and she asks the question, “have you ever had other girlfriends or sex before?”

    Now what do you do? How do you maintain the trust and 100 percent honesty and commitment to that relationship.

    Depending on how far deep you are, are you going to tell the truth and say, “Yeah, I paid money to have sex with escorts.” Or are you going to lie and have all those sexual experiences play out in your mind and keep that baggage in the relationship. That baggage does not go away very easily.

    Not sure of too many women who are cool with that and have that as a characteristic they are looking for in marriage material.

    Just something to think about.
     
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  12. fapequalsdeath

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    I think it's pathetic. How about actually going into a world and finding a woman that's worth it? It's hard I haven't done it, but it could be done.
     
  13. lovebeach

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    This guy has some arguments
     
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  14. GA93JDeereboy

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    How do you go about that?
    The question won't come out like that but really.
     
  15. Visiting escorts was the worst decision I ever made.
     
  16. GA93JDeereboy

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    Me too. Really. I appreciate you guys out here. Shows I'm it alone with this. It's just not right.
     
  17. GA93JDeereboy

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    Self Control. When you master that and start thinking with your head, not your dick. Sorry if that sounds harsh.
     
  18. tIoD

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    There are advantages and disadvantages in going with escorts. I won't list them.
    The thing to make it "normal" and pleasurable is that when you have some extra money and you are some extra horny, go and fuck em. But, don't consider it as an only existing way to get laid. Go with girlfriend (If you have one), go with escort, both are human like you right? None of them are supernormal stimulants. Guys that is normal, Porn and excessive masturbation isn't. Thing that fucks us up is PMO, PMOOO. With escort you cut out that relationship thing, it doesn't exist there, so it's dependent on your choice, whether you want lovely intimate relationship or just sex (Why not both tho).

    We are men, we are human beings, sometimes we want or not, we think with our dicks, that's true, you can't change that, me neither, it's our physiology.
     
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  19. Mattew

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    It's up to you. i think you can keep it for you, or either you can just tell her, it's no big deal. If she's not cool with that, that's her problem.
    Is she gonna tell you about that threesome when she was 18? I don't think so...
     
  20. If a feelings of love is alien to you, go for hookers. You will never feel love, you will never feel real closeness to other person, real connection. You will never know that even holding hands in a nice way can be a magical beauty.

    Id say, EVERYONE should at least once live thru the things I described and THAN decide.

    If u never had that, and chitchat about how u dont need that, you might as well stay silent. Thats a general idea, its not directed to anyone in the thread.

    My opinion only. No more hookers ever.
     
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