Etrctile dysfunction - new to nofap

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by TRUE POWER, Jan 14, 2020.

  1. TRUE POWER

    TRUE POWER Fapstronaut

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    Hey everyone. I’ve known nofap for a while now but this is the first time making a profile, posting and joining the site.

    I’m 24 years old, been masturbating for probably longer than 10 years and watching/not watching porn. I’ve had girlfriends, sexual partners. And if I’m being honest with myself as of late it’s been awful and very embarrassing for me.

    I’ve had erectile dysfunction problems since college. Watching porn and masturbating was normal for me whether it’s in the morning or after school/work I’ve done it for years. It relieves stress and it feels good in the moment.

    The problem now is that I’ve conditioned myself to masterbate or watch porn. I can still get hard with either but it’s not really gratifying.

    About 7 months ago me and this girl I dated for 3 years broke up. And since then my masterbating frequency increased to a couple times a day.Because well I was either bored or not having sex. It gets depressing. And emotionally damaging to myself.

    I’ve been with a few girls since then and have had sex. But several times when I’ve tried to have sexual encounters with new women. I just go limp. I know I shouldn’t masterbate. And the women are attractive too and I’m attractive to them. But I can’t get hard, I can’t get it up, and I can’t penetrate as of late. But I know my conditioning and sensitivity has been fucked up years ago.

    I went to a walk in clinic to tell a doctor about these problems and he got me a prescription for some [banned word lol] Problem is that it’s like expensive $150 for 10 pills at my local drug store.

    He also suggested sex therapy. Which I’m not opposed to.

    The biggest problem I have is to sustain a erection when I’m going to have sex with a girl. The most depressing this is the look on there faces “what the fuck is wrong with you look” lol.

    Unfortunately this has happened several times with a lot of beautiful girls that leave pissed or confused. It happened in the beginning of the relationship with my ex gf where she actually cried because she thought I didn’t think she was pretty which wasn’t the case at all. It wasn’t them it was me.

    I guess my next step is to join NoFap. Stop looking at porn. And stop masturbating. I don’t know how long it will take to fix and I don’t know all the ins and outs of what will happen. But some input or advice would be great. Thanks for reading this post. I rarely ever talk about this with anyone so it’s cool to talk about it with others who have gone through similar experiences.

    TRUE POWER
     
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  2. Anonymous86

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    When did you first notice erectile issues? After masturbating?
     
  3. we are great

    we are great New Fapstronaut

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    hey, we are in the same boat. I have the EXACTLY same problem.

    I've been watching porn for about 13-15 years. I started watching porn when i was 13ish and now I'm turning 29 this year. at least 3 times - i masturbated. i cant stress this more - NoFap is important. it's been 14 days(only 14 days tho).

    I'd like to share what i felt and i actually signed up to talk about this. lets go back in time and hear me out. it didn't take long to find out that i was hotter than others. I've been exposed to many chances. MANY. the more girls i fucked, the more lust that's likely to grow. this lust grows bigger and bigger. I started studying them and applied what i studied to reality. I worked out hard to stay in fit and build muscles. i got my body prepared. i got a cute face. porn study worked. but there was a monster growing inside of me. i could feel it. and the monster wanted something stronger. more girls, more porns.

    i've never talked about this to anyone but i admit it. You know they call weed a gateway drug? normal straight porn is a gateway porn. This urge. I started watching weird things and even shemale and sometimes gay porn. not that I'm attracted to them, not that I'm bisexual/even bicurious, but strictly, they are something that I've never seen.

    the problem is that, porn is more stimulating, more provocative. in porn they do such things i can never try, to give you some examples dp, gangbangs, etc. in reality it's really soft and less provocative, very comforting and we all know that. my brain finally got used to what i saw on the internet, and my body thus couldnt follow orders from my brain.

    one year ago I found this girl and i thought she was the one. we had sex but my thing never reacted. we'd been having sex for couple of months but this happened all of sudden.

    I broke up with my ex 2 years ago - this girl was the first one i've ever fell in love with and i was still in love with her. i couldnt get over her. I was very emotionally damaged but we, us, guys, all know that sex is not related to any of this. but my brain stopped functioning and my thing went limp. this was quite a big shock to me but I couldnt stop masturbating to weird porn. the lust that became a monster ate me, and i became THE monster.

    I stopped having sex because what if. what if this happens again? i went to a doctor and he gave me a prescription. V. it was not cheap. there are few girls i went out with - in most cases i was on V because i felt it was a must. i could get hard but i was very afraid. dont even have to mention that i lost morning hard.

    thru all this i stopped watching porn since the new years eve, i finally found peace. i got my morning wood again. im getting my confidence back. it's been 2 weeks and I found this very hard. my balls are basically full. i want to release this but i know i can't. I will not deliberately avoid sex, i will talk about this to the girl i will go out with in future, I will find the way. I think it's super important to face and admit the reality. im with you 100% and i wish you a good luck. but in the end be yourself. no masturbation. lets get this thing together. brake some leg.
     
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  4. TRUE POWER

    TRUE POWER Fapstronaut

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    Years ago when I got erectile dysfunction, when I had a girlfriend and was having sex I wasn’t mastubating as much and my penis seemed to work fine, but the more I masturbate. The worse the Ed is, I could not masturbate for a week and still get Ed with a girl, I’ve wanted to get help for a while but always put it off and Told myself I’ll be fine.
     
  5. TRUE POWER

    TRUE POWER Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for your reply your story is very relatable haha, I agree the basic porn is the gateway, like
    Milf or big boobsX then I get into more intense stuff like bdsm. Fffm, bbw, threesomes orgys. the problem is my brain is programmed to orgasm while masterbating or watching porn. But the I don’t know if I was on a date with someone new I could straight up tell them about our issues you know it’s alot to tell someone and idk I don’t want to ruin first impressions, and it’s not like I’m avoiding sex, it’s more like I’m terrified of having sex and not being able to either get an errection or maintaining, and they could be giving amazing head, being gorgeous, or not as attractive I’ll still be limp. It’s messed up, embarrassing, depressing. It usually ruins any chance of the girl wanting to see me again. It’s unhealthy and I know what I have to do to fix it. The question is am I strong enough to do so.

    Thanks man, I’m excited for nofap and how it works for us! GoodLuck to you too and don’t give up!
     
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  6. we are great

    we are great New Fapstronaut

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    I want you to give a big thought to it. sex isnt the first thing to debate. if sex is the first one to mention, you should let her go because as far as im concerned love is the most important thing. you and i we both work fine. there is a bar, above this bar, we get aroused. the problem is excessive porn moved this bar way up. it's just the program within our brains are making some glitches. it takes time to update since it is not easy. but your effort will make the difference. you are the one who owns your brain and body. your will. we can do this. lets not give up :)
     
  7. TRUE POWER

    TRUE POWER Fapstronaut

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    Love is all you need haha
     

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