Even though i know the damage i get later on i still do it .

If you are serious about quitting and can't quit, then go to SA.org. They can help you.

 

Makes you realise how much how much of a problem it is doesn't it. I've reset my counter about a dozen times now since joining and when I first signed up I thought the guys that kept complaining about relapsing constantly were a joke, how could it be so difficult??? now the jokes on me.

We both know how much of a difference NoFap makes when we're on a streak, and we're realising how much of a problem pmo is too so we know it must be done. All I can say is learn your triggers, notice how unsatisfying and weird pmo actually is, remember the why for each relapse and don't make the same mistake.

Keep your head up because you know this is important.

 

Head up brother!

Keep this in mind: If you were to relapse every other day, you would be fapping 50% less!! Not bad. You will be successful if you don't give up! Lifelong journey brother. Learn from the relapse and it will not be failure.

The fact that your actions are no longer automatic will ultimately give you the chance to stop PMOing for good. You are way ahead of the the game. Don't get frustrated! It is not helpful. Rather journal around the event. Why did it happen? What were you doing minutes before? hours before? days before? How was your diet? Were you exercising? Were you engaged in doing things you enjoy? etc. Dig deep with each relapse. It is an incredible opportunity to learn about yourself and ultimately grow stronger and become the warrior you intend to be. Head up! Stay strong.

You have to read this post full of golden advice to help you on your journey.

http://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/my-top-tips-for-leaving-pmo-behind.35201/

 

Hang in there brother! Do your best and leave the rest to God. We think we have "control" of our outcomes. To be content with whatever happens (provided you did your part) is one of the secrets to a successful and happy life. Perhaps you may hate something that is good for you and you may love something that is bad for you. I wish you much success! Stay strong! Win!

 

The reasons why i think we relapse are:
-->boredom---i got nothing to do. empty mind porn's head. so watch some porn n pass time
-->anger---i'm not getting any fun life. how dare he insult me? why must they have all the fun n upload pics on facebook, i'll show them even i can have fun. time to go google and enter the porn world
-->reward---like i did something good. i deserve something to reward myself. porn time.(i've done this myself)
-->curiosity---we live only once. might as well see the porn instead of not seeing it. that pic was so hot.

there maybe other reasons but you can always fight the above reasons. here's what i do:
--->boredome---i take a cold shower
--->anger---cold shower
--->reward---have a nice meal
--->curiosity---somethings are better left unknown. like medusa's head, or about some religion or something. you dont have to do everything the voice says. make the brain a friend instead of a master-slave relation that porn brings.

sorry i got warped up in my reply. i dont have concrete solution. but the above things do help me at times.

 

Remember that theres always a choice and and that truth and acceptance are important.

I just had a major epiphany around this and that I might have it all backwards. I keep telling myself that I don't want to pmo (lying to myself) and then go and do it like I can't help it (giving in). Maybe instead, when an urge arises I should accept the fact that I want to pmo but then make the choice not to. Practicing truth, acceptance and exercising choice.

 

Try increasing the time between an urge and your acting on it. If you can notice gradual increases, you will get to the point where you can control it.