Ever feel inferior talking to attractive women ?

There's so much i could say about this. I had this very problem in the past, it happened basically everytime i took an interest in a girl, i felt worthless, i felt like i wasn't good in her eyes from the get go and that rejection would be inminent. As the years went on, i stopped viewing women as these flawless goddesses i perceived them to be when i started seeing them as human beings like you and me. Most likely you've already been told this but you need to work on your self-esteem and confidence, those need to go up. Do things that benefit you both physically and mentally, take care of yourself more and the rest will follow.

Remember, women are humans like you and me, people with their own interests, flaws and virtues. There is absolutely no reason to have them in a pedestal, if you do not only will you feel bad like you mention about talking to them but chances are you will be disappointed everytime when you find anything you don't like instead of accepting them the way they are. Pedestals are small spaces and it's easy to fall off them.

Lastly about rejection, it hurts and i won't deny it, sure does. But you need to take into account the possibility of it happening, it's a risk you must be willing to take if you want to go after a girl you're interested in. If it happens, don't worry, even if hurts it's not the end of the world, there are other people out there and among them you may find someone who takes an interest in you.

It won't be easy but it's possible. Stay Strong

 

Sometimes(when anxiety kicks in), but not as much as I was before putting girls on a pedestal. Just be you. Girls are just human beings like us. Also get rid of this "out of your league" mentality. The moment you think you are out of some hot girls league, you already lost.

 

Everyone burps, farts, and poops. Equality.

 

Trust me... It has nothing to do with the girls being out of your league...
The truth of the matter is that my friend you don't have enough self esteem OR confidence in your abilities...
There may be some weakness inside you that has been lurking in your mind, and instead of strengthening it... You have let it linger and that's why deep inside you are not confident enough...
I used to get this feeling because I was doing PMO and I was a weak piece of shit who always took the easy way out...

Now I work on my weaknesses, I don't give a damn about what others think and I am solely living for my purpose in life... Dedicating every day for getting closer to my dreams...

And all this has boosted my self confidence... I have been automatically talking to girls left and right... And they don't shy away from me or drop the conversation... In fact often times its me who walks away breaking the conversation...

Girls are intuitive... They feel the confidence your conscience has in you... You can fake being an alpha to the world... But deep inside you know if you are worthy enough or not... And that's how this issue stems from and that's how you cure it...

If you have self respect and self confidence... You can talk to a Hollywood star without any hesitation... But that's not easy my friend... It's a hard road... Often times I work hard for weeks and then think of quitting it for easier life... But that's not what I want deep inside me and that's why I hang on...

Self empowerment is the key to almost everything in life... You gotta earn it... And it's worth it...

 

Nailed it! Yup, just do you ---- be the best version of you but do just what you suggest ---- talk to ALL ladies (attractive or less so) as just a normal person.
Why? Because it is genuine, and you being an authentic YOU is genuine. If some girl blows you off, be thankful. She is too full of herself, and she just missed out on a good guy--- you. On the other hand, you, my friend, just avoided a big (possibly expensive, drama-filled, nut-job) headache, or worse.
At some point some sweet girl will notice YOU -- the real you, the best "you"....and know what? You won't have to fake a damned thing, because you already know how to be you. That is how real love starts --- connecting for real as two honest and vulnerable souls. All the other stuff --- being cool, being fake, being someone you are not ----is just BS.

You figured it out, bro'....go do it. Stick w it. It'll work.

 

The only reason for why you feel inferior to others is because you do not understand your own worth and dignity. When you can be your own best friend and could be happy being completely alone is when you know you’re ready to have a healthy relationship with someone. Why? Because you won’t be looking to a relationship or the person in it to fill a void inside you, but rather you will want a relationship so you can share the abundance of love you have within you with someone else for their benefit. When there is that mutual self-giving between two people there is authentic love. But you can’t give what you don’t have so cultivate that level of friendship and love for yourself first.

 

You're not thinking or wondering anything at all about anything aside from her hottness? Is she a bitch, a thief, someone who will blatantly friendzone you and use you to prop herself up, someone that'll lock you down for marriage material while fucking other men behind your back... or will end up being fat, a shitty mom, or SJW as she ages?

If you're only looking at her tight ass, and then fantasizing her as some Goddess, you're skipping a few steps man. Don't worry, long ago I used to pedastalize girls to. Now you can stop.

It's also likely you're simply using her to judge your inadequacies. There's so much out there in the world to do, and thankfully you're doing NoFap, since now you have a ton of time to accomplish real things that most of these girls would never do.

I think porn and fapping warped our assessment of the work it takes to accomplish stuff. Good things in life take a long time at first, but it's easier as you get older and have tons of experience built up.

 

I used to have this problem, and once in a great while I still do from time to time whenever I feel "off" for whatever reason (tired, not in a social mood...etc.)
I got over this problem a couple different ways: 1) taking a good hard honest look at myself, the good and bad. 2) Taking a good hard, honest look at the supposed "goddess" of said woman. There's no rule saying you can't judge a person just because they're physically appealing. Sure, she might be gorgeous, but is she rude? Is she self-absorbed and conceited? Is she nice to people? If not, well, then to hell with her, let her judge me, I'm doing the same right back. 3.) Understanding you'll never be perfect or please everyone on Earth. Some people are easier to connect/vibe with than others whether they're attractive, ugly, rich, poor, smart, dumb....etc.

I always have confidence in myself around attractive women, I never used to, but now it's just second nature.

 

Nature is not equal.

 

Maternal and paternal shaming, rejection, and abandonment can really play a role in this. Unfortunately to a great extent in my case.

I will add my two cents here based on other experiences. I don't think it's that she thinks you're trying to get her number. She (just like all of us) reads your body language and micro expressions unconsciously and feels that you are worried about what she thinks, which she will not be very attracted to you for. Unless you are a 10 too lol. Most women or men are not even aware of this consciously I think.

 

Yes, inner qualities. Lifestyle habits as well. How you treat yourself. But I was talking about inner qualities.

List out 3-5 things you like about yourself, that are good about yourself. 3-5 things about your value as a person. Your value to other people. It can be anything.

What else I would do is ask yourself, what is it I want to say about myself and build the skill in that area. Start repeating in in an affirmation all day long. At first you wont believe it, but if you keep on going, your brain will accept it but you gotta do it for no less than 3 months. Dont stop after a week or two.

There is a good author on Amazon called Patrick King, you can get his kindles, he is an expert in social confidence. Click on his name to see a listing of all his books, here https://www.amazon.com/Patrick-King/e/B00HEVHZRY ,I can tell you people skills is good, 30 second likability is good but the name is misleading, and im reading principles of likability at the moment and I highly recommend it, im like 35% of the way through, get that as your first.

For acceptance, work on accepting yourself. What ever you want you have to find it in yourself. Acceptance? Accept yourself, respect, respect yourself, love, love yourself? Make sense. Maybe tell yourself "I accept myself" "I am a valuable friend", I think these two affirmations can really help you but only if you use them. Walking to the dunny, driving, comercialbreaks even, cooking, cleaning, when ever. Id even sit down in a meditation for 5 minutes every day and say "I accept myself" and 5 minutes, "I am a valueble friend or worthy friend", word it how you like it or make your own.