Every journey begins with a small step

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Coriolanus, Nov 17, 2015.

  1. Coriolanus

    Coriolanus Fapstronaut

    23
    16
    3
    Hi,

    well I'm completely new as well. I'm extremely happy that I found this community. It is really comforting to see that no one is allow with his or her struggles.

    I have been struggling with pornography for quite a while now. It started as for all of us when I was a teen and continued until today. There have been ups and down and I was able to stop it for 2 years. But recently I have not been able to resist PMO for more than 2 weeks and its always the same pattern. Especially being bored, feeling lonely and being too content with everything usually triggers me.

    I know I have to change. I am married for 2 years now and love my wife with all of my heart and would never even consider cheating on her. She is the love of my life and there is no person in the world that is like her. But I'm afraid if I dont control this problem that I will slowly distance myself from her and not feel attracted to her anymore. I know PMO is damaging our relationship and Sex life and this is why I have to stop.

    Its time to arise from the dust and be a men that is faithful not only in his actions but in his thoughts and heart also!!

    I'm happy for any advice and experience anyone likes to share!
     
    alone_boy and Time2Stopnow like this.
  2. Septimus

    Septimus Fapstronaut

    6,397
    3,060
    143
    Welcome!

    There are a lot of married men here. You aren't alone. Look around, and you'll see their stories.
     
  3. Coriolanus

    Coriolanus Fapstronaut

    23
    16
    3
    Thanks Buddy, I'm really happy to be here!
     
  4. Time2Stopnow

    Time2Stopnow Fapstronaut

    25
    11
    3
    Hi there!
    I'm not married but in a long term relationship and can hear you, when you describe how you're distancing yourself from your wife. Same problem here... I only made the first few steps towards my 90 "no PMOing days" goal, but I'm very sure already, that a reboot will be the solution. Get that pornography out of your head and a clear mind - you'll be more then attracted to your wife again soon, I bet. You know your triggers and have a great motivation - a good set to get started!
    Good luck and all the best for your journey!
     
    Coriolanus likes this.
  5. Tarzan

    Tarzan Fapstronaut

    14
    11
    3
    I am sure you are doing great. go ahead and i am sure you will be successful in your way. I also have issues with PMO but Today my 7th day..... I am feeling awesome and controlling. It(M) tried to trick me but i controlled myself and back on my track. I know there is something waiting for me like god and guys like you and your support will always be needed and appreciated.
     
    Coriolanus and Time2Stopnow like this.
  6. Coriolanus

    Coriolanus Fapstronaut

    23
    16
    3
    Hey guys, thank you very much for your thoughts. I really appreciate it! Its amazing how exchange with others makes you feel stronger and really gets you to commit yourself more fully to this cause. I have never talked with anyone about that because I was ashamed. I was especially not able to talk to my wife about that because I'm afraid that she would doubt my love and commitment to her. I dont want her to feel bad or as if something was her fault because its definitly not!
    One weird aspect I noticed is that despite my consumption of porn I have not felt any increased desire to cheat or do what ever in real life. Of course as a result of porn I always feel bad and ashamed as if I had cheated on her, but its almost like a parallel universe which is not fully connected to reality (obviously not considering the negaitve personal effects). At least not yet! I strongly believe if I dont get control over it now, that it will start to destroy my relationship "reality" as well.
     
  7. alone_boy

    alone_boy Fapstronaut

    97
    49
    28
    Like you said
    Every journey begins with a small step
    I totally agree with and want to give you good luck. We are with you and you are the only one who can solve your own problem.
     
    Coriolanus likes this.
  8. Coriolanus

    Coriolanus Fapstronaut

    23
    16
    3
    All the best on your journey as well!
     
    alone_boy likes this.

Share This Page