Any effects? I recently relapsed after 3 years no PMO. I wouldn't say it has changed anything noticeably. But nonetheless, I am going through Hardmode at the moment for, hopefully, 6 months. How were your erections before the relapse?
I was attracted to good looking girls before the relapse, and I'm still attracted to them. I don't feel different at all to be honest. I've had quite a lot of sex since and can't tell any difference to how it was before. My Erections are as good/ bad as they were before the relapse.
If anyone is still interested, i am going to formulate an unpopular opinion here: After the relapse, i noticed that there is no such thing as a "Grip" from porn anymore. I don't have any need to watch it in my daily life at all. If i wouldn't be doing those stupid exercises, i wouldn't even consider it. So yeah, even after watching it, there was no comparison between that and a real woman to cuddle and have sex with. That's not even a question anymore.
Reading the title alone almost made me tear up. One major insecurity about me right now and reboot is Ive been an abuser for so long (13 years im 21 now) that my brain and I are irrecoverable/irredeemable. But when I read your title it felt like your were talking to me and I know you mean it... So thank you. I read your truly inspirational story so I hope I can join you in success... I have so much shame in myself I can practically feel the toxicity in my head so im ready for change again.
No, it just isn't necessary. I have great Sex with my current GF, even when occasionally watching porn. I feel that not watching any porn for over 1,5 years, combined with starting to have regular sex with girls, healed my brain massively. So as for now, porn - at least currently - doesn't affect me. Granted, i seriously only use it as a tool to make my special workouts a lot easier. Everyone CAN change. But you need to be willing to do so. Sometimes it will take your last bit of mental strength. But it's soooooooooo worth it.
Hey everyone! We're still in those crazy times. Hope you guys are holding out!!! I stopped watching porn again. At least for now. There was a noticeable decline in libido and try to stay away from it. Stopped watching at the end of last year, after Christmas. I do use written erotic stories if i want to do my special workout and there is no way to get it up due to stress at work or with my important exam-deadlines. I am already glancing at the end. A life with confidence when being naked around pretty girls as well as not watching porn anymore. There is no better life than this.
Don't you think you went too far with those special workouts? It sounds a little bit crazy for me. Don't you feel like the real man after achieving some kind of big success you described at the beginning? Aren't you sexholic now?
Thank you for sharing your story, it really makes a change when you see someone's life changed to a better one. Keep up the great work, and hopefully you reach higher and higher.
There is a biiiiig difference in being okay with what you have and having a shitload of confidence because of what you have. I'd rather lose my pants with a girl and give her a teasing smile than just ignore the whole aspect of the package. I don't see the point why trying to turn a rented place into an amazing penthouse is a bad thing. Sure, the regular place gets the job done. But anybody would still take the penthouse if they have a serious choice between the two.
Not that this is of any relevance really, but I just got my gf to orgasm within 90 seconds through regular intercourse. Without any foreplay. That's a new record for both me and her. There is never a negative factor in learning how to become a good lover. Sex is rarely bad and sometimes something magical happens. You choose between short and long sex. And if she comes quick, that's awesome, but never a goal. The goal is just to make the sex great, without focusing on anything else. Well, I got the feeling that this won't be repeated, so I'm sharing it here, in the hopes it may never be forgotten. #Magical90
you are engaging in sin and see sex as a competition / sport / performance, using women as sexual objects. You are acting like a weak passive aggressive man. If you are a real man you would treat women and your gf like a lady and wait until you are married. THIS IS HOW REAL MEN ACT. They look beyond the shallow self-serving world and realise that GOD exists and we have to follow his guidelines in life. Your sin already is your addiction - that's what it does. It makes you believe that you can't live without it even though you hate it. Turn away from your sin. We all should and as a Christian I have to do this daily.
I do see my gf as a sexual object. But rather astonishingly, she enjoys that. Are you telling me you don't want your future wife to feel pretty because you desire her?
When sexual sin takes control it does exactly this, you disgard the person as an image bearer of God and use them as an object, thinking this is what they're also after. It's the ultimate male fantasy to think women view sex this way - a pure lie. We also want this to be true, this way women will be more accessible to us for casual sex. Weak passive men act and think this way as this is the easy road to full-fill our lusts. My GF of 3 years RESPECTS me and I LOVE her exactly because we decided that we are going to be celibate. Women want LOVE and men want RESPECT. Remember this. When you love someone you won't USE them. Women only respects a man who LEADS morally. Forget yourself and women for a second and realise that if you die today you will go to hell as you are sinning agains God. Only by trusting in Jesus Christ and believing/understanding what happened on the cross 2000 years your sins can be forgiven. You must repent and turn from your sins. You are in deep trouble my friend and its because I care for you that I'm writing this. Read the Gospel of John before its too late. What you will gain in return beyond your wildest imagination which only Christ can give.
