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Everything CAN change and here's why

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by GettingAGrip, Aug 15, 2018.

  1. GettingAGrip

    GettingAGrip Fapstronaut

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    This is going to be a quite lengthy post, but I do believe it can inspire you guys so I wanted to share it ;)

    After I discovered porn and masturbation at age 13 or 14, I got hooked as everyone else on here and it's been a tough 12 years.

    My life has been full of negativity, stress, anxiety, family problems, financial issues, etc. You name it. It was not until 2017 when things went to shit. I knew I couldn't give up PM and didn't do anything about it. I was off school for 2 years with no clue when to get back, I quit my job at Apple, and moved around with my family until finally settling where I am now.

    I thought things were looking good for me after I made friends here and got at a job.. NOPE. I was wrong. PM became an everyday habit not even out of horniness as most of you know. I stopped working out, my diet was really bad, I started smoking weed*, and my sleep schedule was terrible. At this point I still didn't know the damages of PM and what it causes, etc.

    As my anxiety and depression increased, one of my good friends introduced me to drugs. They pressured me into taking MDMA, Cocaine, LSD, etc.
    I had stopped PM for a while (or not as much) when I started dating a girl and we were together for most of 2017 until she broke up with me because she wasn't sure if she wanted a relationship. I fell back into the trap and relapsed hard. Every single day, sometimes more than once, extreme categories, everything you could possibly think of. I even started questioning my sexuality and you can imagine how much more stress and anxiety that added to everything.

    I'm going to fast forward to the beginning of the this year because the rest was just shit :D
    Anyways, I knew I had to take action because I was getting TOO used to the comfort zone and the laziness.
    I went MIA for a few months, cut off those fake friends, decided to never do drugs again (I still smoke weed but we I will explain that at the end of the post), joined a gym and continued my boxing and muay thai training, got a decent job, however the biggest issue.. the scary monster, was still there. I still didn't know better.

    I was still going through my extreme anxiety and depression and this time I didn't do anything about it (no self-improvement or drugs/negatives) so I felt like I was going crazy. My friends did not understand what I was going through, I couldn't tell my parents because I MYSELF didn't know what was wrong. My girlfriend at that time called me out on my PIED, she didn't take it well and was very harsh about it. I think that's the most embarrassing and ego-crushing thing a man could ever hear.
    In June I stumbled upon an article about PIED, porn and how it's linked to anxiety and all the negative mental crap. It clicked. I finally figured out what was wrong and everything made sense for once. That's when I decided to join NoFap and start this journey.

    This time last year I would've never thought I would get out of my dark place, not in a million years. Things can and will change and so can you. It takes time, commitment, and believing in yourself.
    We are not bad people. We made mistakes but so does everybody. Nobody is perfect.
    We deserve to have the good happy life we want and we will. We matter.
    Every single one of you, love yourselves. Do NOT hold back. Do NOT let anyone tell you otherwise. Do NOT let someone's negative comment or insecurity reflect on you. You are all amazing and you will get to where you want in life.

    I am only at a 49 day streak at the moment and I am nowhere near where I want to be.. YET. This is not a quick fix or a magic pill, it is a journey and a lifestyle. Best of luck to each and every single one of you!

    *I do still smoke weed until this day because I don't believe that it affects my process negatively. If anything, it has helped me NOT PM, calmed me when I was anxious, and I also smoke before working out, it makes me last longer! :D (That is just my personal opinion).
     
    Last edited: Aug 15, 2018
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  2. HE^MAN

    HE^MAN Distinguished Fapstronaut

    Good man try to go as far as possible
    Test your limits never give up until you get success.
    Also remove that weed thing from your life you deserve yourself a better life.
    Keep strong:)
     
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  3. Spartan Shibz

    Spartan Shibz Fapstronaut

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    Superb brother! Superb!

    Are you practising Hard mode?
     
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  4. GettingAGrip

    GettingAGrip Fapstronaut

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    Thanks!
    Gonna keep going forward strong, no matter what!
    And I probably will soon enough ;)
     
  5. GettingAGrip

    GettingAGrip Fapstronaut

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    Thank you!
    I'm not on hard mode though. My girlfriend and I do have some foreplay, oral sex, and we've tried having intercourse a few times. PIED was pretty terrible but I'm getting there!
     

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