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Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by sephhh, Mar 16, 2018.
As you can see I just relapsed, man, this is really hard to do
It is, but you CAN do it.
Thanks for this post it is very motivating for me i'm on day 1
Welcome to the first day of your new life. It will be tough, but you'll find it worth the struggle.
First of all sorry for my English
Secondly wow there boy calm your hot ass down. If everything you said about that mumbo jombo women knowing futur shit, Molly cavali and Annika albrite would have already been at your door step ass in the air mouth wide open and begging you to them as eternal slaves.
In all seriousness, yes I have felt differently during my longest 24 days streak with amazing and weird feelings all at once. Women acted differently too and I even had one approaching out of fucking nowhere. I feel my voice is deeper, I am more manly higher concentration and sharpness of mind, I wanted to go outside and just enjoy being alone and enjoying the breeze. But that being said, your success with women I attribute to you knowing your way around them. If you're not a pua and have no knowledge of it then you are a natural. Naturals are guys who are good with women since their young age and I have met one like that. That guy was so good not only with women but also men. Dude your success with women has something to do with social proof and preselection they see you with other women so they are attracted on a primal level, this guy already has women so I don't need to test him iam gonna fuck him. And to prove this, notice what women said to you, they said you are a bad boy meaning you are alpha as fuck
I was just reading this whole thread. I don't want it to die since it is really interesting and useful to me. It seems like I'm going on the right track again. Today is day 40 of NoFap, and as of today I've been pretty much invisible to women. I don't get these looks in public, random messages, just a couple of compliments here and there.
This has happened to me at least 3 times in the past. I'm sure that my attractiveness is completely gone and I just have to accept it. Then is like just flipping a switch, every woman out there has at least a bit of interest in you. But I'm always afraid that I'm going to lose that attraction for good, and that is just pathetic. Even when I wake up every morning trying to not pay attention to women to see if they are looking at me, sometimes I just crave for it.
Sadly, at this point I feel like I'm just doing NoFap because of female attention, and that is something I just refused to do. I need some advice on how to change that. Today it seems that I value myself on how others see me, and I don't want that to be case.
NoFap definately works. I recovered but ex lost interest in sex and we eventually split and relapsed multiple times since but currently rebooting. The benifits are fantastic.
You are a great source of inspiration for me. I too believe in the law of attraction. You gave me even more reason to stay on nofap after 2 months of quitting porn. Previously it was harder and at times I imagined that I would relapse eventually. I will never even consider such thing.
I wish the feelings of my heart could be recorded into words... I haven't fapped in months (probably since my last post tbh).. I have had some incredible experiences and stories.. My company has taken off, I have spread influence and have done things I wouldn't have ever believed I could do before.
I love you, reader... I really have so much love in my heart for you. You are here because you want to change.. you know you are capable of so much.. and you're most likely exhausted of the failures you've met over and over again.. DO NOT give up.. do not ever give up. Failure is not a destination.. success is not a destination.. these are roads traveled on.
The law of attraction is more than thoughts, it's energy you develop and invest.
"Thought is the fountain of action, life and manifestation; make the fountain pure, and all will be pure." - James Allen from the book 'As A Man Thinketh'
You are capable of changing the world... the hardest part is to consistently believe in yourself.. "Those that are crazy enough to believe they can change the world, are usually the ones who do." - Steve Jobs
We are beings of power, intelligence and love.. take consistent action and work everyday.. YOU CAN HAVE ANYTHING YOU WANT.. don't waste it like I did for years.
My heart flows with love.. so much love.. I cannot tell you how much love I have for you.. I give my life fullheartedly to changing the world.. to help you.. I am willing to die for it. As dramatic as this seems now.. If i told you the details of my life and the way life is working for me.. I am somewhere I wouldn't have dreamed of a year ago.. I am someone who i didn't know who i was.. I dropped all my selfish desires and selfish needs... changed directions.. took my experience of attraction to direct it to something of a higher purpose..
so much love.. I have found purpose.. I have found reason to breathe.. I have found so much because I decided to take the hard journey of self-development.. dropping those things which destroyed my heart.. and held to those things which captivated it.
You have a gift within you.. find it
I LOVE how you didn't even mention female attraction. You are on a different level now. I want to reach that level. You don't sound arrogant at all and every word sounds so genuine. Congratulations, it makes me so happy to read this. That is encouraging.
Law of attraction for the win.
Changed my life.
The universe is amazing if you just open yourself to it, respect it, & learn from it.
Fantastic post; I feel the energy, I do I do
i like this thread i feel we see the world through the same lens ,as for the relapsing , not only do i feel it changes things for the worst but im convinced it switches my spirit off into a completely different world, a darker world, as iam a believer of the multi verse theory, i dont just adopt a belief an apply it to my life conveniently like one adds sprinkles to theyre ice cream cause they prefer it, i need to witness/experience something phenomenally to adopt it, interseller has a bit of my other belief i have in life, outstanding performance mr mcconaughey, im obsessed with numbers an time, after relapse ive timed how long it takes till things get better, i clocked it at 18+ hours, things stop going wrong, people stop giving me there angry , grumpy moods, they stop giving me a hard time, agressive drivers in traffic dont agitate me ,etc,watching wolf of wall street to a point i picked up books on understanding the stock market, i watched countless hours of learning the stock market videos, this was taking place while i was on my nofap streak i have this disipline to sit an watch or read things that in the past i found deathly boring but i dont no more,now i have a pinky toe dangling in the stock markey world which makes my future not look so bad now, im happier in the present these days,the universe an god is extraordinary not only that but all of us get to be theyre mediums
@sephhh certainly reads as if he is on another level. After going well in excess of 200 days, I honestly didn't feel I had achieved anything. Sure, I hadn't wanked, but I didn't have what I wanted, what I deserve - confidence and the notice of women. I didn't consider my relapses as failures, because even at my worst there were days in between them, and I was still going to the gym, eating okay (I got a little lazy around December because I was in a course). My current streak is... it just is. There is nothing to discuss about it, and I really don't care. I'm trying to listen to a lot of 'attract women subliminals', because let's be honest, that's still my one real weak point. Money is out there, and wants to come to me, spiritual growth is something I'm wary of - I've had too many people try to encourage me to pursue it when my lack of success with women is really what needs to be dealt with.
Simple thing is, I can't even approach.
I'm happy for @sephhh, for all of you, as you grow on this journey - just understand that my goals are mine, and are important to me. I don't denigrate any of you for what you seek - don't denigrate me for what I seek.
Now, let's see if I can 'believe' that I'm an attractive man - Napoleon Hill suggests focusing on what you want to come to you - maybe if I hear it enough, I'll believe it.
Don't let this thread die, is so useful.
I'll be honest I don't buy into all of this but I am open to the possibilty that what you are saying is true. Anyways, thank you for sharing.
1.be good looking
I'm sure I've seen this somewhere before... Oh, wait, that's right... after every dating advice video on YouTube.
@sephhh admits that he's probably not that bad-looking, which probably plays a BIG part in how women are attracted to him. I'm 168cm (5'6) and I have had people come up to me in the street (or while I'm at work) and tell me I'm ugly. Of course, this is Australia, so what the actually say is "you're a fuckin' ugly cunt!"
Normally I am very skeptical about claims, and often quite bitter in my response to them, especially when it comes to the myth of female attraction that comes with NoFap. Were that they case, then the ladies would have been all over me in my teens - I didn't ejaculate until I was 21, and didn't masturbate until I was 22. If nothing else, that should say something about willpower. Did I have urges? Sure I did, but there is a whole cultural narrative that being a 'wanker' is a bad thing, and as much of a ugly unconfident social bottom-feeder that I was, I was going to leave my sexual pleasure to only be something I experienced with a woman. In retrospect, it probably messed me up a great deal.
Back to this thread in particular, @sephhh has a long documented history of NoFap, and the benefits he has experienced. Whilst I have not, even after a streak of 7 months, that is not to say that I'm simply willing to let it go. This is something I would like very much to be proven wrong on, but until I am, I'll continue raging at most those who makes these claims - there was little wrong with these men to begin with, and within weeks they experience the benefits.
Oh, @PrayingForAscension , I just noticed your counter - perhaps you are like me; we serve as exceptions that prove the rule. Sucks to be us, gato.
This is true. Before NoFap, everytime I tried to approach a woman they called the police. Now after 100 days of NoFap, women just kick me in the groin and leave, now I am unable to have children of my own. Thank you NoFap.
Being serious, I haven't experienced any kind of improvement, but I can see how this could help someone so good post I suppose.
someone plz make a post for gay fapstronaut about dating during rebooting!!!!!
Today is 1 year and 1 day since the beginning of this thread in 2018.
People are subject to their environment; I'm not suggesting that women will necessarily flock to you. There are likely a few exceptions and individuals who have an alienating personality or disability of some measure. The sole reason why I began posting about my nofap experiences was because I felt a drastic change in many avenues of my life. Regardless, truly only real satisfactions comes from within. Nofap is a pathway to enlightenment and self discipline. It's a lifehack which should be used in combination of other positive habits, such as, meditation, healthy living/work, fun, developing personality, think-ability, fasting, diet, spiritualism and various other ways of developing mind, body and spirit.
I admit, I try to steer away from thinking about nofap all the time. It's a simple principle of understand polarity; good or bad energy is still energy towards it.
I believe magnetism can be understood and harnessed to create attraction through the laws of the universe (hermetic principles):
1. The Principle of Mentalism - “All is mind, the Universe is Mental.”
2. The Principle of Correspondence - “As above, so below; as below, so above”.
3. The Principle of Vibration - “Nothing rests, everything moves, everything vibrates.”
4. The Principle of Polarity - “Everything is Dual; everything has poles, everything has its pair of opposites."
5. The Principle of Rhythm - “Everything flows out and in; everything has its tides; all things rise and fall; the pendulum swing manifests in everything; the measure of the swing to the right is the measure of the wring to the left; rhythm compensates.”
6. The Principle of Cause and Effect - “Every Cause has its Effect; every Effect has its Cause; everything happens according to Law; Chance is but a name for Law not recognized; there are many planes of causation, but nothing escapes the Law.”
7. The Principle of Gender - “Gender is in everything; everything has its Masculine and Feminine Principles; Gender manifests on all planes.”
This will likely be the last post for a long time, gentlemen. Thank you to this community, and other's similar, to assisting in my growth as a person. Thank you for reading.