Everything you need to know about women attraction - 5 years experience with life hacks

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  1. I'm not sure what it says about me that I still come and read this thread every time it's updated. Then again, I still keep track of my days, trying to meditate as best I can. Whether it's working or not, I don't know, but enough people have told me try the self-love thing (as difficult as that is), that I try.

    I laugh as I re-read this. I doubt that such a woman exists for me, or if does, she isn't already involved. I wondered if this was possible with my wife, but even before we married I knew it wasn't ideal. I went on regardless, hoping for a change - in her, in me, in something.

    To continue with the analogy, I'm a very cold man, who doesn't much care how many burns he gets at present. No - that's not true. I don't want an awesome woman in my life. I'd like a lot of awesome women in my life, in an intimate manner. Maybe it's the 3-plus months of tension (which isn't getting burnt out at the gym. Maybe it speaks to some part of me that saw the rejections of a younger me as something to be blown away and ignored by an awesome life after forty. Early in NoFap I read a book that asked me to write up a list of things I wanted to do before I died. Unsurprisingly, a large number of them involved women (multiple women). Do I think it's impossible? No. It will probably just take a lot of work, on me, to get to a point where it's possible.

    Until then, I'll come in here every time you update and read with envy of your exploits.
  2. sephhh

    sephhh Fapstronaut

    I have been where you want to be; but it wasn't for long.

    Listen man, if you want to have all these women just apply yourself to making money and then just get sugar baby women or move to a poorer country. Because it's not realistic to be able to sustain this lifestyle having multiple awesome women. I could be wrong because you can become maybe the next hugh heffner. if there is a will, there is a way.

    Women are attracted to a man that has this special energy flare aura or whatever but they are also attracted to a man of power and money. Maybe power and money help with the special energy since it builds confidence. But you get the idea. You can essentially have whatever you want in this world if you know how to apply yourself, your energy and your mind.
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  3. GettingAGrip

    GettingAGrip Fapstronaut

    That actually just happened to me last night. A girl I met end of last year who I went out with 3 times then we didn't really click so we stopped talking to each other, I blocked her number and deleted her off my social media. Last night she added me back and asked how I was and why I've disappeared, and wanted to catch up. It could be a coincidence but these things have been happening. :D
  4. Uncomfortably Numb

    Uncomfortably Numb Fapstronaut

    Great post... I shall now read your journal with interest
  5. sephhh

    sephhh Fapstronaut

    I am convinced at this point, with all my experiences, that your inner energy can be harnessed and directed using the creative power of your sexual desires to have anything you want.

  6. Like lots of hot chicks?

    Seriously though, it's good that you're here offering insight and kind words to all.
  7. SorryWontSayIt

    SorryWontSayIt Fapstronaut

    Thanks for this great post! Really needed to read somthing like this after been struggeling with relaps. Will read this post every time I even consider to relaps.

    Maybe some of this is not relevant for the post, but I just wanted to share what I have been going trough and why I really liked this post.

    I had one streak of 21 days, and it was really great. I was more confident, more out going, more energy, did not care what people though of me etc.
    (I have never been really shy, a bit ofcours, I lack experience when it comes to relationships, I am pretty quiet often (both because I like it that way but also because I am a bit shy)

    After I lost that streak I did not really get back on nofap. But I started dating a girl (while a bit depressed). Later we broke up because of living situation, and the depression got even worse.

    I stopped eating as I used to (lost 6-8 kgs, and I am not overweigth or anything), started to party a lot to try keep my mind busy, workouts (which I love) got more difficult, since I ate less and went to a lot of partys, used nootropics (legal - but I overused them as much that it made it worse) to get trough the day, had problem working at school and at my job.

    I am a lot better now tho.
    But, I sometimes still get pretty depressed and can be crying from time to time. I know it will be difficult to get back on nofap while still depressed, but the best thing to figth the depression too for me now, will most likely to do nofap.

    Hopefully I will reach a new best 30 days +
    Last edited: Aug 30, 2018
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  8. ShotDunyun

    ShotDunyun Fapstronaut

    I'm back after a few weeks of NoFap after a number of resets (that can be considered as a relapse as well) to report the changes I can notice on women attraction. Long story short it skyrocketed like crazy. Every day I'm more and more confused about this. Last three weeks women have noticed me a lot, even the ones that never did. It happens online, at work, on the street. I'm not bragging, I'm reporting what I notice everyday. I've noticed a lot more of positive benefits, but this one is the important one on this thread.

    Now I'm afraid of losing it again after a long streak, and also I dont like the fact that I become kind of an asshole after a long period of women attraction. This is nuts, man, I'm sure there is something else to this besides not fapping looking at porn. Maybe I've had a good attitude? I'm sleeping better? I have no idea, but to reiterate, I'm more confused about this than I was at the start.
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  9. SorryWontSayIt

    SorryWontSayIt Fapstronaut

    Hi, maybe a stupid question for some that are sceptic towards law of attraction. But do you guys think thats why some exs tend to comeback / text you when you reach a number of days? Even tho they have not seen you for a while?

    I have been a sceptic towards LOA, but I have been watchin a person named "Eric Ho" on youtube, who is making me want to give it a try. Not only that he is talking about LOA, but he is also full of positive energy which makes myself feel inspierd to be more positive and work for my goals.
    But as he said in one of his videos, he told he was a sceptic too at first. But why not give it a try, there is nothing to lose. And what I take from that, when we are starting to visualize what we want (the positive) everyday, we get a more positive mindset in general - which will attract positive people, etc.
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  10. It is great that you're all experiencing this, and once again I have to wonder what it is I'm doing, or not doing, that isn't attracting the notice of females. I'm glad, @ShotDunyun , that you're sticking with the programme, and your benefits will only increase over time.

    I am not the person to speak to about Law of Attraction, and there's not set-in-stone time for what will happen when.You've got a few nice stretches, and I'm sure you've noticed benefits. In time, those benefits will improve - don't take my bitterness at lack of success as a reason not to continue - my purpose in life is to serve as an examples to others of what not to do.
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  11. ShotDunyun

    ShotDunyun Fapstronaut

    This is really confusing bro. I dont even have advice because I have no idea of what Im doing different now. I'd like to know what is the specific reason that triggers all of this. Im mainly doing NoFap to enjoy life un general
  12. This might seem like a stupid question, but why not act on the attraction women are giving you? Is it from women you don't want it from, is there someone else you're waiting for? Maybe I'm bringing my own inabilities to the table, but I think I'd find it pretty hard to ignore a woman's attraction to me if it were as obvious as it seems to be for everyone else.

    I'm glad you're enjoying your life and stay strong.
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  13. ShotDunyun

    ShotDunyun Fapstronaut

    Women can be very distracting sometimes. I want to go 4 months hard mode since the last time I did it felt fantastic.
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  14. This line right here.... perfect.
  15. JohnnyDeCoco

    JohnnyDeCoco New Fapstronaut

    I can 100 percent relate to the first post. Between month 2 and 3 suddenly everything changes like a light switch. The first time it shocked me so hard. Its really like you wake up and it everything feels the same like yesterday, except woman get horny around you 24/7 and demand your attention. Im the kind of guy who doesnt like too much attention, so at some point it was just too much for me, it stressed me. I was arrogant too, like nothing could stop me, even a little bit PMO. So i relapsed and the attraction was immedatly gone. Now only some woman find me kinda cute, but its nothing compared to a long and clean nofap run. After half a year i could do 2 months again and boom, one day I woke up and got it again. At this point I was sure that its true and not my imagination. But after 2 months i got heartbroken and I relapsed again. It sounds really pathetic when I think about it. Now Ive decided to do nofap for the rest of my life. Its like switching from black/white to colours. You simply cant go back. You are forced to live this diciplined life forever. So beware guys. Also to mention: The crazy attention is not all gold. You will reallize how annoying it can be. At the the end of the day it only makes fun if the attention is from an attractive girl. But there will be alot of unnattractive girls out there, who will demand your attention and you are constantly turning them down. Its really no fun, especially if you are the kind of guy who is very sensitive and who cares about other people. Im day 20 now and no attraction at all. Im still hoping that im not crazy, because I still cant believe its true.
  16. JohnnyDeCoco

    JohnnyDeCoco New Fapstronaut

    Also I can tell you guys what I did in general:

    Meditation: Very important for me. I lived alot in my heads and it helped me to live in the Now

    Nofap: Absolut clean Nofap.

    No Social Media

    Avoided EVERYTHING that has pictures or videos of half naked woman. I stopped watching TV shows for that reason.

    Also very important: Avoid looking at photos of woman who gives you indicators of intrests, like advertising pictures or facebook pp. It will mess up real IOI's from real woman. Its like a fake woman staring at you, giving you signs of interest, but you dont get to know her or sleep with her. It will confuse your subconscious mind.

    Diet: Normal, healthy diet. No fasting whatsoever. Very balanced. No sugars

    No cold showers

    Workout: At that time I even didnt workout. I was very thin. I do workout now, because it feels very good. But it seems to be, that workout is not a requirement too.

    I didnt avoid to look at real womans asses and breasts. When people say you shouldnt look at womans private part, I just think people take it too far. I can garantee you it its okay, because its real. We are sexual creatures and its natural for us to find bootys and tits hot. If you resist against it, you are resisting against the flow.

    As you can see, meditation and nofap did it for me. Everything else is optional. Im not even sure if meditation is requiered. But im very sure its a clean Nofap run
    Last edited: Sep 7, 2018
  17. Johnny, you might want to check your PMO Tracker, as it says 381 days, although you claim you're only on Day 20.

    This is interesting. I wonder if I've been using (or at least not been making an effort to avoid) pictures like these as a subconscious Porn-Sub. I was using porn as much as a substitute for the lack of female attention as I was for the sexual gratification, because the girls may have been acting, but at least they were showing interest in me. Something to consider.
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  18. JohnnyDeCoco

    JohnnyDeCoco New Fapstronaut

    The reason men cant pickup signs as good as woman can is, because we are bomboarded with woman faces smiling at us. Look at every magazine, advertising etc. . We get used to getting fake smiles from super attractive woman. When we see a real girl, our subconscious mind is confused why she isnt smiling all over the place at us, resulting in anxiety, because it doesnt match with the reality we are used to. Keep in mind that this is absolut bropsychology, but it really makes sense to me.
  19. I've honestly never heard this before, and while I'm a skeptic by nature, it doesn't automatically trip any bullshit triggers I have - something to pay heed of. Thank you.
  20. Alphamee

    Alphamee Fapstronaut


    what's your longest streaks of nofap?

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