ex girlfriend starts sleeping with other guys

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by end_it_for_good, Oct 30, 2018.

  1. end_it_for_good

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    Hey. Update. I'm takin a break from being her friend for a while. My depression immediately lifted. I have been clinging onto her with a feeling that I couldn't find anybody else. I was living in a world of scarcity. This weekend I went out to a number of events with friends and just consistently approached women. Yesterday went to a trivia night and joined a group of attractive flight attendants and nurses. I think I needed the pain from success, to push me into finding my own. Getting out and interacting with real women is really killing any urge to use porn or masturbate at all. Also I'm in line with @Kingjoe32. I think it's fine to be friends with ex's. I'm not even married to the idea of a long term committed relationship at every stage of life. I'm feeling much more poly/consensually slutty these days, so being friends with ex's sorta comes with the territory. This current ex whom I was so messed up over was just super special. We've known each other for 8 years and dated for 6. So it feels like losing a best friend. But.... I needed the push to get out of my life rut and go meet more women. Also I'm learning a lot more about women in the process anyway. Better ways to meet them, better ways to connect, better ways to dress, better ways to get laid IRL. So one of those silver lining things I guess. I'm sure i'll be friends with her in the future. Once my dating life works out, I really don't care at all if she is having sex with anybody else. It was just the stark contrast between her experience and mine.
     
  2. Coolyorky

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    Good man!! You’re not the first bloke to be hurt and won’t be the last. We’ve all been through it mate.

    Cut her off completely and if she does message you don’t reply till the day after.
     
  3. Capt. U

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    I'm in a similar boat man, I am currently keeping distance from my ex who was was the closest thing to a best friend that I have had. Hopefully I can continue to heal and move on with my life and hers as well, then maybe just maybe we can continue our friendship later down the road.
     
  4. sorry but you cant be friends anymore. She has a new man and having contact with ex-boyfriend is a very bad idea both for you, her and her man.
     
  5. yyz33

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    That's tough man. For me i have cut off an ex that i still desired. if you have feelings for her I would say cut it off and take care of yourself
     
  6. Xiandan

    Xiandan Fapstronaut

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    I find myself currently in a similar situation. Your post and replies from others really help me. Thank you.
     
  7. Ra's Al Ghul

    Ra's Al Ghul Fapstronaut

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    It hurts, but move on. That's life.
     
  8. THEBEATPOLICE

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    Firstly I want to say that I am not reading thru all the responses to this mainly because everyone else is probably wrong and I am right.

    here is what I am right about:

    Guys and girls that are "just friends" is hardly a thing in this world. I am not saying it doesn't exist but I am saying it barely exists.... 99% of the time when a guy and girl of equal attraction are "just friends" the truth is one of the two has a crush on the other.

    Now throw a ex bf/gfrelationship into the equation


    Listen to this song. Cry a little bit. And then move the f*** on, the chances of you guy's getting back together are extremely slim.

     

  9. Why are you even here if you think that? You just here to tell everyone what to do?
     
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  10. THEBEATPOLICE

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    I am here to get rid of my PMO addiction.

    I can't bare to read any comments that advise this guy to try and be friends with his ex, it is way too black and white, so I was just announcing I hadn't read anything after his comment.

    I went back and read some of the comments after your reply... including your comment where you are giving the same advice as me.

    Not sure what the point of your reply was
     
  11. Ra's Al Ghul

    Ra's Al Ghul Fapstronaut

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    It really sucks but part of the healing process is acknowledging that she's moved on to new dick. You dont need to dwell on that, but you have to move on. Thats life.
     
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  12. HuwhiteMale

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    I would say I'm sorry for you man, but I shouldn't be and you shouldn't be sorry for yourself. This is a great learning and growing opportunity and I personally believe everything happens for a reason. I hope she gave you some good memories and helped you grow and better yourself. So now get out there, keep bettering yourself, and watch as your life falls into place and a better girl comes your way.
     
  13. THEBEATPOLICE

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    Try and use all your negative feelings and frustrations about the relationship and translate that energy into motivation to hit the gym, better yourself, and of course, beat PMO.
     
  14. Ra's Al Ghul

    Ra's Al Ghul Fapstronaut

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    When I went through this I would listen to some angry music:
     
  15. Ra's Al Ghul

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    Great lyrics "You and me we're through and rearranged
    You're no good for me
    Thank God its over"
     
  16. My point was it's rather arrogant to say no one has any good points in this thread apart from before you even read any posts.
     
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  17. THEBEATPOLICE

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    O well I didn't say there weren't any good points I said I didn't read thru and if anything didn't agree with the next statement then they were probably wrong.

    the only "not good point" in this thread is you critiquing the tone of my posts
     
  18. You didn't say that.

    Everyone else is probably wrong and you are right. Seems quite arrogant
     
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  19. Dont be naive.
     
  20. end_it_for_good

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    some of the advice has been useful on this thread. some of it has been trolling internet nonsense. i think after reading much of this, i'm leaving this forum more or less
     

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