Hey everyone. I was a silent reader for a couple of weeks. Now i feel like i wanted to hear some of your guys opinions.. I am 28 yo. I quit watching Hardcore Porn something like 2 1/2 years ago because i already learned about the negative effects on my brain. That i would need to watch more and more intense fetishes to get aroused. So since then i decided to only watch softcore flicks with no option to choose a genre. Also i read about nofap almost 2 years ago, gave it a try for a month but quit it after a wet dream on day 25 because i didn't feel any benefits from it. (maybe important to mention, that i didn't have a chance to have sex at that time.) Nevertheless i set myself a limit to only wank to softcore one day a week (sunday). So i would say that i am / have not been a severe addict in terms of pornography. 3 Month ago i met a Woman from tinder. We spent 4 nights together over the timespan of 3 weeks. The sex was quite good. But two times i lost my erection in the middle of the action. I was convinced that it was because i already came that night and another time because i used a condom with numbing lubricant (supposed to prevent PE). I had absolutely no suspicion that something is wrong with me at that time. However since december i met an absolutely gorgeous woman which is now my GF. First night we met, we had sex 4 times. She is unusually tight between her legs, which caused me to cum always between 30 seconds and 2-3 minutes). Could have been better but it did not bother me that much at the time. Next night we spend together i had an really intense boxing-workout before i visited her (i lied on the floor gasping for air because of exhaustion) When things started to get serious in bed, i just could not get it up for good. Nothing at all. Dead! I was sure, that it was because of the workout and the dinner afterwards. But i started reading more about how to improve sexual performance. Starting 2019 i quit porn for good. No Softcore, Hardcore, Naked pics. Nothing. (except occasionally watching nudes of my gf, at the time she sends them to me) I have no urge to look at them, so i still don't think i am an addict. I am fairly sure that i can quit forever because i am keen on perfectioning my sexual performance. I work out regularly for 3 years now, i never smoked, i started to take supplements such as zinc, vitamins, omega 3, l-arginine. I also do Kegels everyday for like one month. However the next night i still had problems getting erect. I couldn't tell why. But slowly i started to worry. She is absolutely understanding and lovely about this and tells me that it does not matter to her. But to me it does. I was able to penetrate her the next morning for like 4 minutes before my erection just vanished... got limp. I read almost every day in forums of nofap, rebootnation about other ppl experiences and that gives me motivation to keep going. A little fast forward. Still avoiding porn, keeping exercise and nutrition habits, i made a video call with my gf yesterday when i was in the bathtub. As soon as i saw just her face, my dick rose. I put my hand on it and it got really hard. She saw it and she liked it. We also did a little bit of intense sexting beforehand (3 days ago) and i got erect. I was really hard yesterday and last night in bed i woke up with a boner (i did not masturbate at any time though) i was proud and thought i was making serious progress. Anyways, today i saw her again after 4 weeks, thinking i will be much better than last time. But as soon as both our clothes were off, i could not get hard.. again. she had to help with her hand to get a little bit of blood in me, until it eventually got like 70% hard. And since i did not M for ages, i knew i would bust after like 3-4 strokes. I told her, she said it wouldn't bother her. And what i said was also exactly what happened. For me it was not pleasant. Now i had to leave her house (since we did not have much time in the first place) and i got really anxious on my way home, feeling like i even got worse in my "performance", got set back in the process and don't know what to do. Right now, thinking about sex is not a pleasant idea for me. I never really had to face problems like these that often in my sexual past. I am rationalizing a lot and keep telling myself i just have to trust in the process, things will get better, i have to get used to her and her body etc. that was also what i told her. But right now i feel like when i am anxious it just makes things worse... We also can only see each other approximately every other weekend which makes getting used to her kinda difficult. I am really thinking of taking half a via.gra or something just to get a positive reference experience in sex for my brain for next time (which will be next saturday). Does anyone here have experienced using drugs for sexual performance like via.gra just once or twice, to "kickstart" your performance by gaining positive reference experience? I know i can control myself to not become addicted, just the same as to porn. Because otherwise i just don't know what to do... i hat a really numbing pressure in my head because of anxiety on my way home because it was a disappointing experience for myself once again. Thanks for reading. P.S. I am not sure about hard mode. I avoid P and M, but i want to O with my gf in order to give her the fun she wants and to rewire to her better. As i said i wouldn't consider myself a porn addict.