I rationally know that no one is perfect. I used to not care about her flaws at all. I didn't even notice them, but now I obsess over them. This is especially things that has to do with being sexual/slutty. I don't really like slutty girls personality wise, though they really turn me on. My gf is wife-material. I know she will be a wonderful mother, she always supports me and so on. But I have developed an addiction to novelty, probably because of porn and PMO. My gf is kind of "boring" and introverted, but so am I. We don't party, experiment sexually or do anything "crazy". We prefer just hanging together, playing cards, exercise together, listen to podcasts and so on. This used to be great until I started ruminating and second guessing everything. We have been together for 7 years so I don't expect the relationship to be as exciting as it used to be. When I see other couples I often compare them to us and generally I don't think most couples act that "in love" after a few years, but it doesn't seem to bother them. For quite some time now I've been stuck in an endless situation of rumination and overthinking. I don't know whether it is ROCD or not, but I'm definitely stuck inside my head most of the time. I check if I find my gf attractive, if I like what she does or says, if we're compatible and so on. I'm subconsciously testing her and our relationship 24/7. The worst thing about this is how I either get negatively surprised or, in the best case, relived about that she didn't "fail". There is no way I can get positively surprised by what she does, because I expect her to react exactly how I want her to react. Another thing is how I compare her to every hot girl I see. I know I can't expect her to not age when she's soon turning 30, but I get "angry"/depressed when i see girls that I find way more attractive than her, even most of them are 10 years younger than her. The first time I saw her I thought she was way out of my league, but now I focus mainly on her flaws. I guess you can say that I don't appreciate any her good traits and at the same time obsess over her flaws. I'm a romantic and I used to like my girlfriend for all the right reasons (the way I thought/think relationships ought to be), but it's like PMO has messed with me so I can't appreciate the same things anymore. As if my attraction towards novelty blunts my ability to appreciate what I already got.