Extreme sensitivity and triggers almost causing O without touching

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by rgm, Oct 22, 2021.

  1. rgm

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    So I've passed the 90 days without PM and honestly my erectile dysfunction is very bad right now. I know I'm a long term sufferer of PMO (~12 years) So it's probably just the real recovery starting now and my brain fighting me relentlessly? My triggers, urges etc. have been the worst they've been this streak.. some triggers where it took me more than 0.1sec to look away I felt myself getting close to O without even getting an erection or a small one. The few times I've had sex (last week and 2 weeks ago) I was so incredibly sensitive that after a few strokes I had to take deep breaths and stop because I was so close to O. A few weeks prior I was having fantastic erection quality but that has left and been replaced with increased sensitivity.

    I've been doing pelvic floor stretches and massages the last few days since my pelvic floor has been feeling tighter than ever..

    Has anyone else experienced this?
    It feels like a flatline but my brain is still trying to seek out high stimulating material?
    I'm not aroused in a sexual way but in a drug-like hit bringing me close to orgasm? (good thing I've blocked/removed close to everything.. really stops me from relapsing)
    It feels like my libido is LOWER but my brain still wants some of the drugs I quit? Like a last stand sort of thing?
     
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  2. Improv3r

    Improv3r Fapstronaut

    So... you had sex with a woman and you were incredibly sensitive. Is that a problem?
    I mean it is only natural to be extremely sensitive when you haven't touched yourself for 90 days.

    As far as I know when you O after such a long time there's a period where you are incredibly sensitive because of all the abstinence you did.
    This shouldn't be an issue if you can keep getting it up I mean... there's always availability to do it multiple times with your partner.

    Also I don't see why everyone considers this "drugs". That's such strong a word! I mean it is only natural to be in this state if you had sex just now after 90 days no PMO.
    One thing that is a constant in this life - everything passes...
     
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  3. rgm

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    I've had sex throughout my streak (PM instead of PMO). At first my erection quality went up but then I suddenly started getting hyper sensitive AND my erection went to shit.
    The reason I call it drugs is because it gives a honestly drugs-like high right now if I would consume and it feels like a withdrawal. 13 years of addiction is no joke I'm afraid
     
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  4. Improv3r

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    Again isn't this normal? I mean the more you do something the more proficient you become in it. The more you abuse something the more you want it.
    These are just statements that are true but in your case it's not that big a deal.

    Still a bit confused how can you have sex with PM and no O? In fact why porn and masturbation are even there in the first place when it comes to sex?
    My addiction is longer then yours and yet I still think you just rewired your brain to shut itself off for this.
    Hence why all the problems with your erection and hyper sensitivity occur.
    My opinion - just sleep with your girlfriend regularly! Nothing wrong with that and she can help you fix everything.
     
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  5. BangJul

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    Does anyone know why my penis become hyper sensitive? it just take a few second for my penis to ejaculate while masturbate after watching porn. its like extreme Premature Ejaculation. Is it because of my porn addiction? does anyone how to solve it?
     
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  6. rgm

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    After a lot of research I think the things I that help are:
    • quitting porn for a long enough time (PIED)
    • Stretching/massaging pelvic floor
    • Reverse kegels (and perhaps kegels too if its weak AND tight)
    • Healthy diet and exercise
    • Healing your brain by eliminating high stimulating things like social media, becoming less reliant on dopamine spikes and improving the dopamine baseline instead.
     
  7. BangJul

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    How about avoid a sweet food?
     
  8. modernstore99

    modernstore99 Fapstronaut

    Yep this happens after rebooting. You've just regained your sensitivity. This is how sex is supposed to be haha.

    The loss of erections is expected too. Your mind just doesn't really know it's supposed to make your dick hard.

    The solution to both of these is to just keep having sex. Do lots of foreplay, don't think about your penis, focus on your partner, keep doing whatever feels good, and just have a good time. Don't worry about holding yourself in, just look at your partner a lot and try to have fun.

    Over time your body will adjust to the intense sensations and your sensitivity will go down, making you last longer and have more enjoyable sex. Instead of trying to hold back your orgasms or slow down during sex, just keep going until you finish, being mindful of the specific speeds, angles, and sensations that really push you towards orgasm. Over time, you'll get better at recognizing those things and last longer during sex while staying at a constant pace.

    Additionally, the more you have sex, the harder your dick will get. Just don't think about how hard it is, just have a good time. Some kegels might help, but continuing to have sex will make it get better over time. I was the same and it took 2 months of me having sex twice a week to start getting super hard erections.
     
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  9. adamexe

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    Hey man, could you tell me more about those pelvic floor stretches/massages. In private if need be.

    I've had serious sensitivity issues for a really long time now (over a decade) and recently started feeling it substantially in the quality of my erections. Haven't been able to feel a real orgasm since the day the sensitivity problem started. I've only recently discovered this community. Used to be unable to find anything about sensitivity issues and whatever I found I believed to be useless to me, as I was convinced that it had to come from a physical problem somehow.

    I recently saw a urologist who told me it seemed like everything was fine about my dick and the only abnormality he found in that region (and advised that I see a physiotherapist about it) was what he called "hypertonic pelvic floor".

    I've been having a hard time finding anything about it for men. All I find are either for women, or when it's for men, it's basically all about sexual practices aiming at stimulating the prostate... which is not at all what I'm concerned with at the moment.

    I'd like to know a bit more about how you detect that your pelvic floor is tense, what changes you observe from making it more relaxed and how it can be done..?
     

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