Eye contact

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  1. Wuzzaap

    Wuzzaap Fapstronaut

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    I noticed that when I talk to people . I don't make eye contact . I tried doing it but it was hard .

    I read somewhere that it is related to being afraid . When u not afraid of someone , u can look to his eyes smoothly.

    I hear a lot say that quitting porn makes it much more easier .

    Did any have this issue? and if so , where u able to make eye contact ?
     
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  2. Astro77

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    I've struggled but I've found it easier the further along my no PMO journey. It's defiantly linked, possibly because of the shame we feel from jacking off to porn. It will get better the further along your journey you go.
     
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  3. Wuzzaap

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    Thanx for motivating me bro, what strategies did you use to help in improving eye contact
     
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  4. fellowBrother

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    Hey, the ability to hold eye contact will come with time. Just stop watching porn and masturbating. The reason you cant hold eye contact is because your body subconsciously thinks the person is a threat. When it comes to women, your body sees her as a very important opportunity(because porn has ruined your chemical brain balance) and causes you to become timid. When you watch porn/masturbate/fantasize you put yourself at a disadvantage with women and people in general. You degrade your prefrontal cortex with addiction. Google "sex addiction brain scan". It weakens your ability to think and act like an adult in many ways.
     
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  5. High Functioning Autism (aka Asperger’s Syndrome) can cause making eye contact difficult or impossible. Just wanted to mention that.
     
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  6. Wuzzaap

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    thanx man, I really needed to hear this. very logical explanation. You just prevented me from relapsing.
    Every time I wanna masturabte. I remind myself of how my life has been takin away from this bullshit.
    Could not enjoy my teenage hood to Porn.
     
  7. Wuzzaap

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    I don't think that's the case with me.

    Even my social anxiety is mental not physical . I am not anxious or unsocial in nature. is just fear from past experiences
     
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  8. Astro77

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    To be honest I'm still struggling with it a little but I try hard to really be listening into the conversation and not drifting off half through. This makes eye contant more natural, but sometimes I still lose it. I think when the testosterone boost from nofap comes, with the confidence boost eye contact becomes easier and more natural. It's a little bit of a waiting game, but being aware of it might also help.
     
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  9. Poseidon

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    I used to avoid eye contact when I was younger but now I don’t really have a problem with it.
     
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  10. Coffee Candy

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    I wanna make more eye contact..I love people's eyes even if I can be afraid of it, I wanna make more. : )
     
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  11. Poseidongodofthesea

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    For me I make eye contact with my co workers or customers 100 percent but in public if I don't see the person as a threat or I am not interested in I look away . Before NoFap I would look away allot because I just didn't want to engage with anyone I didn't have to .
     
  12. Avenging Marmoset

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    I have AS and while most of my social interactions are normal in most regards, i have a VERY tough time with anything more than about 1 second of eye contact. Anything longrr is excruciating, like fingernails being raked across a chalk board.
     
  13. For me, after 5 decades of practice I can last 5 sec. I even count it out. I was told Any longer than that I’ll look like a stalker or serial killer.
     
  14. Get_It

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    This reminds of the virgin vs. the Chad memes.
     
  15. Infrasapiens

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    That would explain a lot of things about me.
     
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  16. Spiderwaffle

    Spiderwaffle Fapstronaut

    From a person that originally afraid to hold eye contact, I can say this is definitely something that will be improved by stopping PMO.
    After two weeks, I'm craving for eye contact. You build a connection to other people with your eyes, and eye contact with women, especially when both of you have this energy in the eye contact, can get a really intense thing. It's something I never experienced when jacking off daily.
     

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