Failed again... seem to be getting worse at this not better!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by SerpentEagleHeart, Jan 23, 2015.

  1. SerpentEagleHeart

    SerpentEagleHeart Fapstronaut

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    I relapsed again. I have been attempting NoFap since October.

    At first I was doing well, got to 40 days.

    Then 20 days.

    Then 14 days.

    I feel like I'm getting worse not better!

    To be honest, I'm feeling pretty down about it. I thought I was winning and taking control but I feel so shitty to be resetting *again*. I want to change my ways but I can't seem to be able to and it's making me really worried about the future and my potential as a human being. Worried I'll be trapped in this cycle of mediocrity forever. I have been trying really hard but have failed so many times now it's getting me down.

    Any advice? Sorry for the negativity, fellow fapstronauts. Anyone got any useful links etc?
     
  2. kpots

    kpots Fapstronaut

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    I'm in a similar predicament. I've had the habit for a while - well before I found out about NoFap. So, occasionally, I would tell myself not to do it for [insert length of time]. I struggled even with that; I think the longest I went was 5 days.

    Since joining, and getting a partner in this, (which was only earlier this month), we decided that I should start at 7 days. The first 3 days of my attempt, I didn't make it. I'm currently writing this in down time, when I'm particularly susceptible to want to masturbate. So this distracts me.

    I don't have any advice, I guess, since I'm just starting out on trying to kick this.
    I do have this to offer, however: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU

    Good luck
     
  3. Don't worry man! This thing's trial and error. Yeah, you started out great, but you're progressing less and less, but it happens! I once went three months without masturbating to pictures when aware that it's not very good (didn't know what I was doing but I enjoyed it, and it ruined parts of my life). But then I couldn't go very far anymore after I'm introduced to masturbation again and getting more knowledge about it. Furthest I went was 18 days, then I just couldn't break that streak. But... I said couldn't not can't, because once you get the hang of controlling your urges and growing stronger inside, learning from every failure and getting back on track everytime, one day you'll be able to succeed. :D
     
  4. batatafrita

    batatafrita Fapstronaut

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    Bro, keep that think in your mind "If i fap now, i will lose all the weeks that ive sacrificed me and i will need to do all again and this is days losing of my life"

    This think more a objective made me complete 90 days of NoFap easy, motivation+the think that if u fap after 20 14 days u will need to do all again and will spend more time of your life.

    This is my base. Keep strong brother.
     
  5. paspas

    paspas Fapstronaut

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    Failing is necessary. You will fail. Not always, but sometimes. It is always necessary. Why? You will learn from it. What if you fail again? You will fail as many times as it is necessary for you to learn.

    Do not give up. Change your approach. It's more than just posting on NoFap, downloading K9 and getting an accountability partner, it's about changing your life. Your life (as well as mine and many others here) has revolved around porn. Now is the time to get not 1 new hobby, maybe 3 new hobbies, as many hobbies as it takes. A hobby that keeps you in shape, a hobby that you enjoy and a hobby that'll make you money. Throw in some meditation, yoga/stretching, reading/learning and healthy eating. Make a mission statement. How do you make your life better through and through. Execute.

    Know one thing. You have a choice. Accept the decisions you make, right or wrong. You decided to watch porn, you must accept this and not anguish over it. It'll make you stronger.

    These are some of my favorite articles across the web:
    A Roadmap to Manhood in the 21st Century
    Read Part 2, it helps to be a Zelda fan but the message is great either way:The Message of Majoras Mask
    Must Read: Holy Grail of NoFap
     
  6. SerpentEagleHeart

    SerpentEagleHeart Fapstronaut

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    Thanks everyone so so much. It feels amazing to be a part of a community like this where people are up for helping and giving advice. It's very helpful.

    Thanks, I will take on all that advice. I will MAKE IT IN THE END!!!
     
  7. Wolf_Alpha

    Wolf_Alpha Fapstronaut

    Great replies, guys! I particularly love: "If i fap now, i will lose all the weeks that ive sacrificed me and i will need to do all again and this is days losing of my life"
     
  8. Immor

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    You would be better off to think about something completely unrelated to fapping or nofap. And it wouldn't set you up for major disappointment.
    Your subconscious may well translate that thought into "Fap now! You need to do all this again." Because it doesn't deal well with negations and the like.
    Also, as a statement it is only true, if you all you care about is your stat counter.
     
  9. db_dan

    db_dan Fapstronaut

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    I've been through the same thing. It seems hopeless. But like paspas said, you try again and change your approach. That's why I started posting here, to hopefully connect with others who are struggling with this.
     
  10. Pfifght08

    Pfifght08 Fapstronaut

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    Your mind not taken the challenges seriously because,it doesn't like this challenge that much so it looses interest. Only one think you need is "burning desire" to do nofap challenge. Read secret of success story by socrates in Internet. It's small story but sure this story will change your mindset set forever.
     

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