Failing. Need Help!

get up. start again. dont make too much pressure on yourself.

start as soon as possible and beat 52 days.

good luck.

 

Have you lost your "Why?" or maybe never had one?

Remind yourself why you took this challenge upon yourself in the first place. I would assume, like most of us, you were unhappy with the way your life was going. Find your motivation again and you will find your strength and determination right there with it.

Good Luck,

Geyser

 

Hi NoBrainer

If you don't mind I am going to cut and paste something I wrote yesterday in response to a very similar post by M15h.

I have been there. And it is hell. I got to 74 days and had been off of NoFap for a couple of weeks because I was feeling confident and happy. And then I relapsed which slowly built up to a binge. I binged for 3 months. I was totally lost. And at the end of those 3 months I was ANGRY. I was depressed, disappointed, frustrated, anxious, guilty, upset, despondent, but mostly I was angry because I knew that there was a point there where I had only made one mistake and all I need to do was to continue my recovery and everything would be okay. Instead I threw it all away. I gave up. I let my addiction take back control.

The thing that brought me out of it was the complete lack of passion of what I was doing. After 3 months I sat there thinking "What am I doing? I am not enjoying this. I know this is wrong. This means nothing other than my addiction is back in control. I am not getting joy out of this." And so I stopped. And I started NoFap again. From the beginning. Most of the lessons forgotten. Most of my supportive friends gone. No recovery habits. No achievements to give me confidence.

Please, let me be a warning to you, you do not want to go that route. The road back to this point is much slower after a binge because you know what it is like to be clean and you are impatient to get there. The last 80 days have felt like 160 days compared to the first time I quit.

What you have done is just slipped up. It is worrying, but forgiveable. It is a warning that you still have work to do. You already lack the passion for P but at the moment you are believing the lies that your addiction is telling you. It is telling you that these relapses are sweet. It is telling you

It is lies. AND YOU KNOW IT. But you are letting the fug of addiction dull your brain and rob you of your conviction. There is only one solution. You need to find the passion and anger and desperation to quit PMO again just like Geyser says.

Advice? Go back to your original posts. Read your first post on NoFap. Relive that moment of desperation, of doubt, of fear, of hope. Those motivations have not changed. That world you lived in 6 months ago still exists. You don't want to go there. Remember WHY you don't want to go there.

And then get out of the house. Go somewhere you have never gone before. Go and get a coffee or a coke or something from a shop you have never been in before. Walk down a road that you don't know where it goes. Get out of the house. Clear your head. Find yourself. When you come back you will know what you have to do to continue your battle. Build on those 54 days.

Good luck!