1. Will you do me a favor and tell me exactly how to reset my counter? I am seriously rattled this morning after edging last night in bed, and again this morning. I looked around, and found my counter, which i now realize is the way to change it (click on my own counter, give my password, and reset it), but now I can't even find my own counter. Using the search function appears useless.
    Anyway, I think I should have gotten up out of bed and logged onto this site. It may have helped. For me, it is not about porn so much as the whole thing. That being said, I know myself well enough to know that it could go to porn quickly. I am both happy to have lasted 5 days, approximately, and horrified that that was all I could manage. I also know that if I get really down about it, I have then created the ideal circumstances to totally relapse. I have to say, this feels real bad. I am picking myself up again anyway. I also give myself some credit for not falling back into my usual pattern of 2 hour plus of high speed internet porn first thing in the morning. A small victory, to be sure, but a victory of sorts nonetheless.
     
  2. muesli

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    Maybe just make a new one and use the bookmark counter, not the passworded one. That way, after you bookmarked it, you can easily change it. I made a new counter, too, after I'd lost my bookmark. I know it's not a perfect solution and I hope the website auto-deletes unused counters.

    Stay strong and watch for chasers!
     
  3. slipsonic

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    Hey man, don't be too hard on yourself, relapses happen, I just relapsed Monday night, and felt horrible about it. But some awesome guys here reminded me that you have to think about what you accomplished my making it as long as you did. Don't think about the relapse and just concentrate on doing even better next time. The 4-5-and 6th days are always the hardest for me, then it gets a little easier. Hang in there and don't beat yourself up (pun intended :) )
     
  4. AnythingIsPossible

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    Hey man, I just relapsed earlier. Feels shit doesn't it? But slipsonic is right, this tiny mistake doesn't negate the fucking amazing progress we made before! We are defined by our ability to recover after a fall, not by how we fell. This is a truly amazing community made up of the strongest people I've ever met. And we all fail, you'd be hard pushed to find someone who hasn't. But we will make it in the end. Because what we're fighting for, a better life, happiness, these are our motivators, they're not superficial, they're real, tangible things that we can achieve if we're strong enough now.

    Stay strong, no one here is alone, keep fighting friend :)
     
  5. Thanks. I am still kind of stunned. I will keep trying, because I must.
     
  6. Okay, I finally figured out how to reset my counter. Now it is time to actually do something about my situation instead of sitting around being totally morose.
     
  7. Clive

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    Hang in there, man. Look at that link I sent you. It might help you not get so down if you have to reset.
     
  8. BOtaxc

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    Hey buddy I got resetted today as well...
    Feels really like shit...
     
  9. danvan

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    Thanks for all of the support in this community. I messed up this morning and almost feel like crying but all of your encouragement is going to keep me going.
     
  10. Itmry782

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    I too failed this weekend and am an emotional wreck. Seeking therapy. I think I have other issues to contend with in addition to the PMO addiction. Cope mechanisms, abandonment in childhood, lack of will, etc. Feeling lonely and sad. I have no confidence in myself. At least now I know what to expect from withdrawal. I hope I can learn from that.
     
  11. freeman14

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    i failed today today i begin again.
     
  12. Clive

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    Whoa, everyone... don't be so hard on yourselves.

    You messed up. Check. But, do you realize that you being on this forum and trying to change is a huge victory?! You are already in a better situation than the likely millions out there who aren't even trying!

    Acknowledge your mistake, try to dissect what made you slip, figure out how to prevent that trigger or cope with it better next time, and move on!

    Keep up the good work, all. No more depressing posts ;)
     

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