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Fantasies even after 200days of Nofap

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Arms.R.heavy, Oct 24, 2019.

  1. Arms.R.heavy

    Arms.R.heavy Fapstronaut

    I know that this topic is mild compared to other posts in this sub-forum. But I'm really struggling with fantasies even after 200 days of PMO abstinence.
    In these fantasies the women are objectified. Often my brain imagines what I used to watch in P.
    I want to heal completely of PMO effects.
     
  2. Rebooterr

    Rebooterr Fapstronaut

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    Why don't you tell us what benefits you got instead
     
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  3. Arms.R.heavy

    Arms.R.heavy Fapstronaut

    I want to write a post about what i think got me this far and my thoughts on Nofap, but I keep procrastinating :/.
    The benefits I've noticed are :
    • What we describe as brain fog cleared months ago. I feel that my mind is sharper. I don't think i got smarter, more like PMO make us less smart than we actually are.
    • Although i sleep 8 hours per day, I beleive i can survive on far less hours than i used to.
    • My confidence has been boosted.
    • The major change i experienced is a big improvement in social skills.
    There is more to Nofap than this, There is the NOFAP ON STEROIDS MOD (Exercice+Cold Showers+Meditation+Journaling), which 10x the benefits. But I don't do any of that.
     
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  4. You_ll_succed_for_sure

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    Break the thought with positive thought.

    Reading the Bible may help you, starting from the New Testament. Trust me, it's work as well.
     
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  5. Rebooterr

    Rebooterr Fapstronaut

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    So after 200 days am sure you are not experiancing withdrawals which is hard to deal with like you said so by now you should have the power to fight these one i don't think NoFap will cure this after 200 days
    You have to change the way you think the way you act the way you live etc also try to look good and always dress well
     
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  6. Arms.R.heavy

    Arms.R.heavy Fapstronaut

    I have been worried lately about my future while going through some financial difficulties. I'm probably escaping into fantasies because of that.
     
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  7. Arms.R.heavy

    Arms.R.heavy Fapstronaut

    I've just realized that I didn't include this struggle in my prayers. your comment reminded me of that.
    btw, I'm muslim, and although believing in the bible is a prerequisite in Islam, I'm ashamed to say I've never read it. I should someday, but i keep procrastinating.
     
  8. You_ll_succed_for_sure

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  9. mattyjsy

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    If you're consciously trying to not fantasize you're for sure gonna fantasize, it's the pink elephant effect (try your hardest not to think of a giant pink elephant right now, I bet you're thinking of the elephant). Fantasies are natural and cant be blocked out entirely, the play here is to acknowledge the fantasy then get busy and occupy your mind with something else. Fantasies are inevitable and cant be avoided, but how long they linger is completely within your control
     
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  10. DGZ

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    I'm far behind you but my approach is a zero tolerance to fantasy. If you catch yourself fantasizing, stop at once. The first thought of fantasy is easy to stop; the fifth or fifteenth less so.

    Kind of disagree with previous poster, just think of something else.
     
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  11. Arms.R.heavy

    Arms.R.heavy Fapstronaut

    I've done the No-Arousal method effectively in the past. But lately I've been having some doubts, fears and insecurities, so when A fantasy comes i find refuge in the escape it provides. I have to be more serious about shifting my focus to better thoughts.
    the pink elephant effect is real. I may not be able to stop myself from imagining a pink elephant, but I'am responsible for how long that image lingers in my brain.
     
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  12. Infrasapiens

    Infrasapiens Fapstronaut

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    To be honest, you are going to fantasize as long you are not asexual. Try not to do it but don't beat yourself over it if you can't.
     
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  13. Nines

    Nines Fapstronaut

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    At moments like those, you need to be able to positively redirect your thoughts. As others have posted, you can't linger on the fantasies when they pop up. Staying busy helps, with work, socializing, hobbies and such. What also helped me was finding a mental happy place.
     
  14. Fifth Horseman

    Fifth Horseman Fapstronaut

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    Hard to have sex with the wife when you are thinking about work, socializing and hobbies and such. Even using an ED pill, Sparky won’t stand at attention. And the wife has a right to sex. She’s a pretty, funny and sexy woman I adore and have betrayed by transferring my love life from her to the computer. After so many years of porn it’s impossible to wake the little fella up without fantasizing during vanilla sex. And running a mental porn loop during sex is pretty much the same as watching porn. So I am making little progress here.
     
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  15. Arms.R.heavy

    Arms.R.heavy Fapstronaut

    Thank you @Fifth Horseman for sharing, I pray we all overcome this addiction that poisons our lives.
    Thank you @Nines @Infrasapiens .
     
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