I desperately need some advice here, especially from those who are married. I’ve been porn free for two and a half years now. After working hard to kick this habit, I’m now having new issues surface regarding women other than my wife. I’m much less socially isolated and awkward, and although still an introvert, I’ve been attempting to get our more. I replaced my porn habit with working out, and am in better shape than I’ve ever been. Lately, I’ve been hanging out with my wife’s circle of friends. They’re all very extroverted except one shy/quiet chick that’s in a long-term relationship with my wife’s guy friend. I’ve casually talked with her from time to time, usually while her boyfriend and my wife talk to other people. In any social setting, it’s unmistakable that we two are the introverts in the group, and for some reason we often end up near each other. There have been a couple occasions where she’s made eye contact, and brushed against me seemingly by accident. I haven’t thought much of it; maybe she finds me attractive, or maybe it’s all just coincidence. Well last night, my wife and I hosted a party at our place. The eye contact happened again, but this time it was much, much more intense. As I was people watching throughout the night, I would glance in her direction and she would already be looking at me. She was literally locking eyes and holding her gaze for a good 2-3 seconds at a time, sometimes with a slight smile like there was some sort of inside joke between us. I’m so confused because her boyfriend was right there, and here she was going way beyond “the glance.” I would even say we were flirting. My self-control is eroding and I really don’t know what to do. In one night, she’s turned into a sexual fantasy for me. I have no intentions of cheating, but it’s scary because masturbating to sexual fantasies was my precursor to porn. My sex drive is high and I can’t stop fantasying about her. It’s like as I’m cutting off one fantasy, a new one is already forming. Does anyone have any tips on how to deal with this? Is there any place for fantasy in marriage? Also, I would appreciate any speculation on her intentions; is she really trying to engage in a fling, or is it just a form of harmless flirting? I probably won’t see her any time soon, and I’ve made sure to take precautions, like never hanging out with her alone. I don’t have her contact info, and disabled all my social media a long time ago. She has no way of contacting me which is how I want to keep it.