Fantastic guide to success in our Nofap community

Hi newbie,

I wish I had read this wonderful post by @Arohamystic when I first arrived. Kudos to him, I just copy pasted.

A guide to success in our community. Code of behaviour.

1. Make your success a priority. There is no point in trying to help others if they are going to pull you down. If you feel as though you are getting pulled down by someone, leave them. Your recovery is most important.

2. Hang around the ‘good guys’. By this, I mean the people who are committed to their growth as well as the growth of others. A ‘good guy’ usually:

• has a journal in which they reflect on their nofap journey, analysing how they can improve themselves
• provides genuine and solid encouragement to other members
• is liked and respected by others in the community
• likes to keep things out in the open as opposed to wanting private chats all the time.

3. Keep away from the ‘bad guys’. I’m hesitant to use the term ‘bad guys’; however, in my experience there are some (not many) people who are not here for recovery. A ‘bad guy’ usually:

• has an account that consists solely of requests for APs
• wants to private message rather than chat on an open forum
• claims that he has the same problem as you, and has all the solutions to deal with it
• tries to get you to communicate with him on a third-party app like Skype, KiK, or Whatsapp
• wants to talk about the problem itself, rather than solutions to the problem

4. Keep communicating. Use your profile as a hub to post your reflections and ideas. Comment on the ideas of others that inspire you. Focus on inspiration.

5. Have a trial period before you let others in your life. I have quite a few nofap friends who I communicate with on Whatsapp. It is no problem because I became friends with them first on the main site. I knew I could trust them before I gave them my personal details.

6. Just because someone says they are a ‘Christian’ doesn’t mean they have the same moral compass as you. The same applies for other religions or groups.

7. Don’t get caught up in frivolous conversation. By frivolous I mean conversation that can trigger, conversation that focuses on PMO, rather than on ways to deal with PMO. Be solutions focused.

8. Report any inappropriate behavior.