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Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Little kid5, Sep 28, 2019.
Can I recover?
Everyone will give you a different answer to this. Personally, I'd recommend taking a three month break from 'fapping'. That is usually a standard recovery time. And, above anything ensure you don't become a porn addict, like most of us.
Of course you can, keep reading success stories on this site for inspiration. I’ve done many long streaks because of doing so and even though my current streak is in its infancy I’ll be doing the same to be sure that this one keeps going and going..
By the way, great linked resource. It contains a brilliant reflection.
May i ask if you have noticed thinning hair since fapping?
Also, haf a wet dream like 3 hours ago. Im so upset bro. So upset
Oh yes.you have done long streaks so did you saw benefits like sharper memory and better focus?
In my view, this sort of thinking is essentially making excuses.
Thinking about toeing the line is … dangerous. I've never seen in any case, an addict toeing the line and able to walk away from it successfully.
It's like an alcoholic saying...
"Yeah, so... I'll only have beer on Sunday, okay?"
An alcoholic cannot moderate like that.
A junkie who says they'll only shoot up on Saturday, or once a week will escalate.
This is no different. The brain does not care. Dopamine is Dopamine.
The whole point of admitting that you are an addict is that you are powerless by yourself against something and need help.
Either do or do not, else the whole thing essentially is for nothing.
One can attack me if they will, but it is what it is.
This is of course just my personal opinion.
I wish you all of the best either way. It's a very tough journey.
This issue is not masturbation. Its porn. Porn is no good. I recommend masturbation every so often but never to porn nor fantasies in your mind.
Once a week at your age is like a walk around the block it will not hurt you just stay away from visual stimulation aka porn
I don't think so. I mean it will not have any big difference. Maybe like 0.1% difference if you don't watch porn to do it.
Yeah I have a slightly reclining hair line since about 3 years. But that's called genetics friend. You generally inherit the "hair genes" from your mothers side. So look at the male heads of your moms family. With me their all bald, uncles, grandfather. ^^
By the way, chicks don't give a fuck about your hair, just so you know. You don't need to be pretty for them, you need to be a man.
I can't understand what you want to say you think fapping in moderation is also harmful right?
Human sexuality is very complex in the sense of what is sticking to our sexuality. We do not just fuck like animals. There is always something social to it. I think the most of us are here on this page, just because we think we have a disfunction between our moral standarts (or what has been teached to us) and our desires for another human body in any way. Also can individual sexual behaiviour be a projection of our past experiences. Maybe as a child or even after that. Pornography can have a huge impact on our mind, but it sais also a LOT about the environment we move in. Personally I don´t like to characterize or measure someone by their outher appearance. But the PORN-addict in me goes in a whole other direction. It is just about beauty and novelty. More. We want to see more and it has to be more intense. It is a natural thing the Brain does in combination with Dopamine. Call it ´dancing with the devil´if you want.
My point is, that mostly the stigma around sexuality and masturbation in a young age are very dangerous. They can increase the shame of a young child and lead them to a disconnection of their own natural and healthy desires to release energy, in case it´s too much. To be an example: In my childhood I have been punished for behaving sexually. My kindergarden teachers abused me verbally and so did my dad. From there on sex has been a forbidden, but also the most magical thing in my life. It is today still. Porn has put a wrong tale on me. I am struggeling to see the real beauty in women or fall in romantic relationship with them, if they are not as perfectly looking and behaving as I was conditioned to see them. Porn has blinded me in a philosophical way. The way how I recognise beauty outside and inside my mind.
So kid, to you I want to say: nobody can tell you about the right way, because we all have different shoes on. Surely you are on this page based on a reason. I wish I could have talked to a community like this earlier. We just want to tell you how important it is to be happy and not full of shame.
I can not say it better than that.
I disagree. We base our patterns and behaviours on thousands of years of evolution and learning. We stand on the shoulder of giants, so to speak. We don't need to find our own way for everything, unless we are willing to confront a lot of situations which can be very painful. There are indeed, worse and better ways of doing things.
Again, I don't think this is good advice. Sure we all have weaknesses and may give in to the urge to masturbate from time to time, but looking at masturbation as a reward is preposterous.
In my opinion, the right advice is "avoid masturbation as much as you can". Why should anyone be encouraged to masturbate? Just give me one reason. What is the benefit of it?
With these points I can totally agree. I did not mean that one should not listen to anybody and just do their thing no matter what. I just ment, that a lot of us are soo hurt inside that it is dangerous to tell a kid ultimate rules about sexuality. You have a bad experience with masturbation. So do I. What is the point in telling a kid that masturbation is a totally bad thing? That just creates shame, if they do. And they will just as we did.
Our body is there and it´s okay to get in touch with it. Not with porn of course. Just to learn what sexuality is. Just as much as learning about other life connected things. Ralationsships, empathy, discepline and of course honesty. If somebody is honest to themselves and to others, knowing your body can be very helpful. Let me ask you, if you find your kid in his room exploring his intimate places, would you tell him to stop? Would you tell him that only bad kids and loosers do that? What would that do to him? A feeling is simply a feeling. A feeling that has to be hidden will be rotten and toxic. Not only for oneself but also for the other partners in your life. Before you can respect another body you need to respect your own first. We are not robots.
But masturbation in moderation can damage body?
I think it depends on yourself, if you can handle it. Everyone is different. For me, I would go right back into binging. Try once a week and let us know how you feel and post a report.