Fapstronaut Rana

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Rana08, Mar 28, 2017.

  1. Rana08

    Rana08 Fapstronaut

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    Hello friends,
    I am Rana from India. I am 23 years old and presently working part-time as a tutor and learning french. As far as I can recall I first watched a porn video when I was 12 years old, which was followed by masturbation. Till the age of 21, I used to watch Porn daily and it had become my habit. When I was in my final year of College I realised that was excessively porn and masturbation to the point that it affected my concentration abilities. I could not clear the time based competitive exams and my career was set back by 2-3 years while my close friends were doing well professionally.

    I came across Nofap reddit 2 years back and decided to give it a try. I could abstain from PMO for a maximum of 20 days. I experienced involuntary ejaculations, hard modes, anxiety everything, but at the eend I was convinced that this thing really works. Since then I was on and off on PMO with no specific goals. But its frequency decreased.

    Recently, I decided to learn french and I wanted to give my full attention to it. I discovered that PMO is one obstacle that I need to overcome to accelerate my learning curve. So I decided to create an account here and record my progress daily.
    A few things that I would like to share about NoFap from my experiences:
    1. You have to be really do some work, improve a skill, be buzy, to not think about PMO.
    2. I earlier used to have goals like 7days, 15 days , but later I switched on to daily mode. I now make sure not to PMO today. And use the streak only for motivation.
    3. I used to feel so bad after relapse earlier, Now I stopped giving a shit about it and realised that it does not take up any space in my mind. So less guilt and all. Just focus on going through the day without PMO and rest everything goes fine.
    Thanks for your time and reading this.
     
  2. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and sometimes challenge you but not judge you.

    Check out In Case You Didn't Know for strategies and tips which may help you along your journey.
     
  3. Rana08

    Rana08 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for your support.
    I wish to ask you one thing. I have seen specific erotic things that are etched in my memory like a song, tags, etc. Eg. I am learning a new language, and the word petite comes, My brain associated it with porn because of a channel with a same name. And I start to fantasize absent-mindedly. and when I get back home and tired I go to the website disable blocker, and watch that video till I Masturbate.
    Since you have not watched porn since long(I assume), do such porn memories fade with time?
     
  4. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    es, memories will fade as long as you don't feed the memories my looking at more porn. When the memories come, distract yourself with healthymemories.
     
  5. esforzado

    esforzado Fapstronaut

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    OK, rana, it is important to have a reason when quitting, a good reason, a reason that is important to you. This habit is a habit we probably would not quit unless it had some bad repercussions in our lives. Cigarette smokers would not quit if it did not affect them adversely. They lose lung capacity and eventually get cancer. There are all kinds of bad results from using porn all the time. From PIED (porn induced erectile dysfunction) to social interaction problems.
    "When I quit, I quit. I did not count the days, I woke up every morning and said to myself I am never going back". I think that is the mindset you must have.
     
  6. Rana08

    Rana08 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for the message. Yes I understand that my "why" should be well defined. I know that I have many opportunities so far due to this habit. I will not let it affect my future. I will do whatever is required to keep it at bay. For a start, I usually relapse in about 8 days, when not conscious of NoFAP, whereas earlier I used to PMO 1-3 times in a day.. So I believe that I will emerge as a winner and experience worthly things in life instead of satisfying myself with PMO and become it slave.
     
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  7. Runtilmylegsdropoff

    Runtilmylegsdropoff Fapstronaut

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    That's because of brain fog, which is real.
     
  8. esforzado

    esforzado Fapstronaut

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    How good it sounds: I will emerge as a winner!!
     
  9. D . J .

    D . J . Fapstronaut

    Check out In Case You Didn't Know for strategies and tips which may help you along your journey.
     

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