Do you guys, in general, have a fear of false rape accusations? I would say that I have a certain inherent distrust because a woman could singlehandedly destroy a man's live if she just felt like it. Now, I do not mean trivialize real rapes or say that a lot of rape victims lie and that's also not what this discussion is about. What led me to make this thread is something that happened about 4 months ago. I was hooking up with a girl and went home with her. We both drunk a bit but both in normal levels, just tipsy so to say. No slurring or walking strangely. Well at her's it turned out she didn't want to have sex but rather wanted me to labour for her and actively put my hand with her hand on parts of her. You know the rest. About 20 minutes later it became too stupid for me and I pretended to have fallen asleep. She would put my hands on her body even minutes after I pretended to have fallen asleep . Some time after pretending she got out of the bed and went to the desk in the room we were in. I had put my key-ring directly on my purse and I was very startled when I heard my key-ring making the sound of moving - just key rustling. I look up from bed and saw her directly standing at the spot of the desk I placed my keys and purse on. She was just standing there, I didn't exactly see in the dark what she did with her hands. Well, of course I was startled. I got up and asked her what she did. She said nothing and simply took a sleeping blanket and went to sleep in another room. I can only imagine, it's out of guilt of being caught in action? Well, of course I was really distraught but tried to take it like a man. I got out from the bed and got dressed. Afterward I went into the room she was in and told her I can't really sleep so I will just head home and wanted to give her a kiss on the forehead, however she moved her mouth in and kissed me on the mouth. Well, I am 90% she tried to take money out of my purse. I had spent quite a bit for the taxi and what my friends and me drunk, so I don't remember how much excactly was still left, but when I left there was no money in it all. But still I was only 90% sure, so I didn't want to cause a drama or put her on the spot, 20$ or 30$ don't mean that much to me. Well, so I went home and the same day (I went home at ~5am and slept till about 12am) she wrote me on facebook and asked me if I came home good. I said yes and that it was nice meeting her. I didn't pursue a conversation cause I was pretty sure she stole from me. 4 days later she wrote me again, saying that her room mate kicked her out for some stupid reason and the way she wrote seemed to imply the subtle question if she could sleep over at mine. She didn't ask directly but of course I didn't invite her because I was worrying she could take mine or my room mates stuff or money. Well whole thing 4 months forward the day before yesterday I saw a facebook post of her's claiming she had been raped 5 times on different occaisions by different people in the last 2-3 years. Now, I am not denying that there are guys who rape women or that it happens multiple times to the same person. But let's be honest. 5 times on different occaisons in at max 3 years. How high are the odds? I'd bet very low. Someone do the math maybe. After meeting her, a friend of her's also told my she had been to a mental healthy faculty once. And of course, this got me scared. What if she claimed situations as rape that hadn't been rape at all? What if she just wanted to get revenge on people for stupid reasons and hurt pride? What if she just decides she had been "too drunk to consent" eventhough she wasn't. What if she just decides in a few years that I had been rape? I of course didn't write her and didn't ask her about that stuff because I didn't want to be insensitive or hurt her feelings. I am lucky that I still have the facebook chat, but this whole thing still leaves me deeply unsettled. It just shows me that anyone, no matter who they are could have bad luck and that if you don't have enough power, prestige and money you are totally helpless and can not do anything at all if you don't have hard evidence supporting your case. And even if you do not get convicted your social life, reputation and status will be completely killed and you may probably also loose your career. How do you guys feel about this? Any good advice or prevention strategies? And that's why in this certain area, I certainly am on guard and distrust ONS or stranger-women. With all that #metoo going on, I don't really think it's safe to have stranger-sex anymore.