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Fear of Girls

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by ///Matthew W-Spec, Sep 25, 2017.

  1. FormerFapaholic

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    Don't change to impress or try and get with someone. Just be yourself.
     
  2. strggl

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    And what if 'himself' sucks for some reason?

    Sometimes you have to change, in order to make your life better. Keep going with your nofap Mathew, this should help with self confidence, determination and being more social. Add some gym exercises to the mix, lose some fat, if you are to big, add some muscles if you are to small. This are all things you can do right now to improve your chances. Remember that the purpose of noPMO is not just to stop watching certain videos. The purpose is to change your life to better, so you can live it fully.
     
  3. ///Matthew W-Spec

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    Another post about I just wondering, I am not like very fat, in fact I am 5'8 and less than 120 lb weight, sporty, and I don't understand how come people who are having lower stats can get girls, what's your answer?
     
  4. FapFapFapNoMore

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  5. FormerFapaholic

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    If there's anything to go by it. It's confidence that women like about guys, and who are true to themselves.
     
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  6. Hitto

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    Are you trying to get bigger or more fit or do you lift idk what the ideal weight is at that height but im like 5'7 or 5'8 and I weigh 170 lbs but then again I've been always going to the gym consistently for years but it didn't help my self esteem nearly as much as NoFap I think you shouldn't be concerned on what's on the outside and look from the inside what do you want to achieve what makes you happy because no one else is gonna love yourself more than you can
     
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  7. Haven't had much success with dating but just having a normal conversation is not much of a problem anymore. I don't go up to women I find attractive to start up a conversation but If i happen to walk pass one or something at work I may just say Hi and ask her how she's doing. The thing is, you're probably telling yourself that you have to ask her out and that something will happen. It doesn't have to be this way, ease your way into it little by little. The way I went about doing it was, I picked the cutest girl I could find at work, every day at the cafeteria I would stop by her and say hi, how's your day going, every other days I'd look at her when she went pass me and I'd smile and say hi, then a few days later, I'd do it again and ask her what happened with that thing she told me about the last time. This went on for a while and eventually I was enough at ease to go out with her once. It didn't go anywhere but at least It got me out of my bubble.

    Just make baby steps, you don't have to go all the way on your first try.
     
  8. Hitto

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    Exactly taking steps in the right direction not being attached to the outcome it's very hard but we need to remind ourselves of this everyday
     
  9. Scared Human

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    Listen to this guy. Nothing will happen if you try just randomly approaching and talking to a girl, she'll be flattered because nobody ever does that unless they're on the internet and the only way they ever meet people is through circumstance, i.e. in class, work, etc.

    Also, what's up with the "THEY'RE SO BEAUTIFUL, I'M NOT WORTHY" talk. Yeah, some girls are really awesome and so pretty, but you gotta love yourself first. You're not going to have any success being a desperate, self-loathing worshiper. My advice, have something that you're passionate about and succeed or make yourself proud in that regard, it'll do wonders for your confidence and girls will pick up on that... if you ever go talk to them!!
     
  10. FormerFapaholic

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  11. Hitto

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    It is like going to the gym and I can relate because I never had a problem with fitness and going to the gym 4x a day but I still was pmoing and my confidence was still low being very fit but I realized porn was destroying me and now I'm on a 8 month streak now I have no shame I look women in the eyes see them acknowledge them more just striking up conversation and I went on a date for first time ever last Friday and kissed my date goodnight but tried to see it could get a second date on Tuesday but she said she wasn't ready to date it kind of hurt but I realize that I kind feel bad for myself anymore because I'm taking action to get better with women and I will continue to try because I have nothing to loss only ever thing to gain and learn from the experience but I'm not hung up on getting laid or having sex because I know those things won't make me happy only I can do that myself
     
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  12. Try going out by yourself. Talk to strangers, have fun. And you might meet someone.
     
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  13. B0bTh3Bu1ld3r

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    Why would you be afraid of a girl? Is she taller than you, fat, amazonian like? or she's wielding a wrench every time you see her? I speak to them like any other else person.
    You don't need girls in your life, just success, success brings them into your house.
    Like in that rap music All eyez on me, money brings women, women brings love.
     
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  14. Crash95

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    I really can understand your problem, same for me. I never had problems to make new male friends but always have problems to meet new girls. Even I think you get more attractive to woman if you have a few female friends who give you tips and so on.
     
  15. AChosenPeople

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    You can only improve your interactions with girls by practicing them. Go and talk to your girl colleagues for no reason, make some jokes. You are going to find out that girls/women are very cool people and not as different from males as you think.
     
  16. FormerFapaholic

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    Over time, the longer you stay off PMO, the sooner the sexual conditioning over women will fade away.
     
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  17. From what I know women don't think like men. Generally, to a woman a confident man is more attractive than a good looking, cool man. Being passionate, having positive body language, the ability to keep a conversation going helps.
     
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  18. MarinoBigFan1984

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    Life is meant to be lived not spent on the sidelines. Grow some stones.
     
  19. I Am that I Am

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    What is there to fear with a set of wheels like that?
     
  20. I Am that I Am

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    Um why do you feel desperation? Often times being desperate is confused for fear.

    I mean if you didn't want to be with one of them why be afraid? Your desire makes you feel inadequate. The only solution in this case is to literally start being adequate in your own eyes.
     

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