Flip it around it your mind and it will flip in theirs. When you speak to them as if you're interested but unsure if they are worthy), they start chasing you for conversation. Once the conversation opens up, you'll both be on the same wavelength and you'll forget what you were feeling before (so will she, because she feels and picks up emotions better than you - a woman's gift, we can't change that). Be confident and righteous (not arrogant and self agrandizing) and imply in your behaviour and confidence that you are the prize. This is the key to sales and persuasion in general. No different than with the fairer species.