Feel lonely and disappointed, desperately want to see porn

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Ghost79, Oct 29, 2019.

  1. Ghost79

    Ghost79 Fapstronaut

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    I have no luck with women. I tried online dating and speaking to women on the streets for years and I am finally about to give up.
    So now I just wanna see some pretty girl naked and imagine she is giving me the day of my life by watching porn.
    Isn't that a feasible thing to do for me right now?
     
  2. Chappie77

    Chappie77 Fapstronaut

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    avatar that states "porn ruins your life"
    27 day streak of without porn

    I guess you've been around here a few years.
    How has porn affected you negatively?
    What are you hoping to achieve?
     
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  3. Avaloview

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    I just started looking into dating after years of self-imposed social isolation, so I can sympathize with the feeling of hopelessness. It isn't an easy market out there. I would get on some of the apps/websites, not necessarily to find something serious and long-term, but just to go out and get some more experience dating. That's what I'm hoping for. 2 weeks in, and a few leads, but nothing concrete yet. I know no girl is going to be impressed with a masturbator.
     
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  4. You_ll_succed_for_sure

    You_ll_succed_for_sure Fapstronaut

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    Don't do this dude, keep the PMO. Please.
     
  5. 4eyedfox

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    Pro tip stop trying so hard. Girls have a 6th sense when guys are desperate and only want to fuck. They are looking for the caring side of someone who can fulfill their needs and maybe then your needs will be met.
     
  6. BigOne79

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    I can understand how you feel as using dating apps and going up and talking to women is hard for people with a bit of social anxiety and other symptoms. You first need to get that counter up to 90 days then up to 180 days and SO ON. Don't EVEN THINK ABOUT DATING APPS and SUCH until you get that close to a year. TRUST ME, you will not feel lonely when you go that far. I have a lot of family and I keep very active to keep those feelings at bay but I am with myself sometimes and I have to acknowledge it and let it pass. I continue to work on myself all the time. I am going to look for a better career in the next year, I continue to work out as much as possible and get healthier and in better shape. These two actions are life long and will boost your confidence and self-esteem. You will see after at least six months of changing like this you will get results. I did the same thing as it was easier to go on a tablet and internet than actually focus on real people. It will be tough and I still find keeping to my goals difficult if I don't have a buddy or family member helping me.
     
  7. As @Chappie77 pointed out, you're here for a reason.
    In short the answer is: don't do it! under no circumstances!

    As I'm writing this post messages coming in that say the same. You're not alone bro!
    I came for the same reason just now: urges. I was watching a movie when my mind suddenly began to distract me. Then it asks for the picture of an alluring woman. Nothing more. But I know one pic is never enough.
    Did you know the saying: one beer is too many and a thousand is not enough ?
    only those alcoholics that heed it will survive.
    When they can make it we can make it as well.

    You're doing or you did more for getting a woman than I did the last years. I wish you luck!
    Meanwhile you have to get along alone. At least without the woman (or the intamicy) you so desire. Whatever your problems may be, porn is not the solution. Nor can it replace that what you're longing for. It's a short term fix that will make the pain grow in the long run. Don't let your pain grow! I hope you find ways to heal.

    I won't let my mind trick me. They say: helping is the way to help yourself. If you're of the same lonesome, stubborn breed like me that's not quite easy to accept and applied. But we can train it.
    Ok thanks for giving me the opportunity to help! The urge is gone now and I'm continuing my movie.
     
  8. Roady

    Roady Fapstronaut

    Stop hunting for sex.
    In pmo or in real life.

    Learn to become peaceful with yourself first. Become your own best friend. Work on your low self esteem. Learn to provide for yourself.
    The girl will come later.

    Porn or sex isn't solving anything.
     

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