Feeling confused and hoping this can help me

Hi everyone. I'm new here and hoping that this site will be able to help me. I'm 35 and have been divorced for 6 years. During that time, I have been celibate and have relied heavily on PMO to satisfy my needs. In the past 3 months, I have reconnected with an old boyfriend and we've begun dating, albeit long distance. I've been finding that PMO has become a huge obsession for me as I feel increased sexual desire starting a new relationship, but I feel that PMO is also getting in the way of my relationship with my boyfriend. He doesn't see anything wrong with PMO and actually encourages me to view it with him (cybersex type stuff). I have a really high sex drive and found that in the past few years it has increased to the point where I am indulging in PMO multiple times a day and viewing more hardcore type stuff that really doesn't resonate with the person that I am otherwise. I feel ashamed of myself afterwards having viewed these images that degrade women so much, for example. PMO is also getting in the way of other obligations that I have in my life because I am spending so much time indulging myself. I also find that I can no longer masturbate to orgasm without viewing porn, which bothers me. I'm not sure where I should start, or if this program is for me. I still want to have real life sex and I would like to be able to masturbate without porn, but I'm not sure if that is possible right away.

Anyway, that's it for now. I'm excited to meet all of you.