Feeling crushed

Take this as a lesson to make clear your intentions next time. Not only make sure that she knows you are interested in her, but also make her admit that she is actually dating you. That way you can avoid misunderstanding and awkward situations such as this. Moreover, she will know that you know what you want. For example, I not only asked the woman who is now my girlfriend if she wants to go out, but if she wants to go out in case she is not already taken. I really wanted to make it sure because I had made too many negative experiences of misunderstanding because of miscommunication. Do not rely on loose social conventions such as 'netflix and chill' when you really want to have sex; do not rely on regularly seeing each other when you want her to be your girlfriend.

Other than that... it feels hard sometimes, but crushes come and go. You obviously aren't a failure when it comes to girls. Having a girl friend is not having a girlfriend, but it still shows you can well get along with women. You will find another one I am sure.

Moreover: Was she the right one for you at any point anyway? You are not giving too much information, but you say that you "had tried so hard to make a connection". If it feels like trying hard, it might not be a good start for a relationship anyway. Of course you have to take action, and taking action can be difficult, but you will always feel better afterwards.
Wanna hear another story? I once tried hard, got into the friendzone, got out of it at some point, we had sex a couple of times but no relationship because she went home after her year abroad, which was 2,000 kilometres away. Still, I could never forget her and it messed up my mind (together with porn), leading to an unnecessary breakup with a girl who was completely fine. The morals of the story: Even if you end up getting her it doesn't have to be good for you. If it constantly feels like trying hard, better stay away from her right away.

One question: Are you new to NoFap? If so, use this opportunity to better yourself, or whatever the reason you joined for!

 

So yeah, I agree %100. I find women tricky on this, there's like this grey zone in which they logically must know a man is into them yet they deny it and believe (or say) that the two people involved are just going out like casual acquaintances.
So, @Headspace , I personally find it hard to define my carnal intentions. Any advice on this? You seem to know better.

And again yes, it is not about dumping people as soon as they're a little of a burden, but if she's not even trying then GTFO of there.

 

Nah, I don't really know much better, I am not a dating expert myself I just was sick and tired of not knowing where I'm at with a woman when my intentions are clear... As I said, regarding my current girlfriend, I just used the opportunity to make them clear the very moment I asked her out. If you miss this opportunity, may be you can just ask her if she thinks the two of you are 'on a date' or even 'dating' at some point?

 

It is a good thing to have in mind and make the situation clear wheter it is in the first moment or not.

 

Long distance relationships almost NEVER last. You got face to face connection bro, don't be too discouraged.