Feeling defeated

the only person whose posts that I have seen that could be helpful to you is be this woman @Psalm27:1my light . Hopefully this post can link you two up. All the best with everything, I hope you and your partner both find healing. Take care.

 

You absolutely, in no way, are the problem. I repeat, you are not the problem. I married my husband at 23, I was a virgin and I knew something was off. It took him a long time to finish. I remember thinking, is it supposed to take this long? Lol. He had very little desire when it came to sex. I told him we needed counseling because something was wrong and he told me I was a nympho. Lots of fights. Many porn addicts have no desire for real sex. It’s too much work, or too intimate and not enough novelty. I’ve been married 31 years ( April 4th). For 28 of those years sex was non existent unless I begged, badgered, cried, pleaded, screamed, then finally gave up. Much better now that he’s in recovery. But honestly, be prepared for a life time of feeling like this. Very few get into recovery and stay there. Just read the mens journals and see how long they have been on the site compared to how long they have clean. Not difficult to see very few in long term recovery ( 5+ years).

 

Thanks for helping out.

I 100% agree. I really hope he can be one of the ones that find good recovery.

 

All of you can get into long term recovery.,every single one of you. But, you must be willing to do the work. It’s not easy. But it as achievable