Feeling doubtful and fearful for the future

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by make_change, Apr 16, 2021.

  1. make_change

    make_change Fapstronaut

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    Guys I'm feeling a bit doubtful and hopeless recently, I feel like I'm loosing the fight to go forward! Ive been in recovery for about 2 years and my longest streak has been 6 months, since then things have been slowly sloping downwards. I have recently had a period of resets close apart and its been really tough to abstain. Controlling urges in between these resets has been very tough. I dont want to keep breaking my long streaks and then starting over again. Its a cycle, and im feeling afraid of the future. I want to be like those who have both feet out and never look back again.

    What are your thoughts?
     
  2. I managed 210 days streak in 2018 after that I failed miserably....in my last relapse i wrote down thoughts which came to me after relapse and now here i am with another streak.. whenever i feel urge i read my thoughts and they remind me how i felt.
    This keeps me going.
     
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  3. make_change

    make_change Fapstronaut

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    This is great technique one that I have used many times, it does help. However, I do find that sometimes this technique does not have enough of an impact when your drowning in urges and on the borderline. Maybe im just not doing it enough. Have you made any new positive hobbits?
     
  4. To break any addiction the pain of continuing life as an addict has to be greater than the pain of change. For me this is what it ultimately boils down to.

    I believe most people who struggle reach a point where the status quo sucks but the idea of making permanent changes is too overwhelming. So it ends up becoming some horrible limbo where the person keeps going round and round as the years keep going by.

    For myself I had finally reached my breaking point where I absolutely refused to continue living the way I was.
     
  5. jayyad

    jayyad Fapstronaut

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    I agree with this 100%, literally lost the girl of my dreams due to PIED, don’t with fucking porn for the rest of my life that’s for sure. Hopefully my libido comes back, been like 5 months without it I’m starting to get worried.
     
  6. make_change

    make_change Fapstronaut

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    The saying goes "Choose your pain" you either go through the pain of recovery the good one or you go through the pain of PMO or relapses that bad one, choose your pain!. This is not negative but rather the reality of life which is positive.

    My question is, how do you get to the mind set that keeps you away forever. Yes, we have had amazing streaks and that is mental strength. But how do you close the door forever and never look back, ever!
     
  7. For myself I got sober from alcohol at the age of 38. I started my semen retention journey at age 41. I'm not a withered up old man by any means but at the same time I knew this was my only shot of building a beautiful life for myself. If I were to fail I'd probably just limp along with my addictions into old age or an early grave.

    When your back is against the wall like that it somehow gives you the drive to discipline yourself :)
     

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