Feeling Impotent

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Dan_05, May 1, 2019.

  1. Dan_05

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    To start off, I'm probably not like most people on NoFap. I had an injury about a year ago, and since then my erections have been hit and miss. At one point, I thought I was fully healed. Then about 5 months after that, I was back to square one.

    I've made it one week so far, and I feel worse than I did a week ago, at least mentally.
    I used to edge about 2x per week but never would ejaculate. The edging helped my mental state substantially because it at least reminded me that I could get an erection, even if it wasn't as good of quality as they used to be. But since I don't get erections throughout the day anymore and I don't wake up with any, I feel completely impotent.

    If anyone went through/is going through something similar and has some words of encouragement, I would greatly appreciate it. I want to believe that there's a light at the end of the tunnel, but the more time that passes, the more I question it. I am also following back up with my doctor in a few weeks and plan on demanding some answers. So far he has just given me the "wait and see if it gets better" treatment, and that's not good enough anymore as it's been a whole year.
     
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  2. Can’t say I am in the same place, since I am pretty young, have never struggled with ED or have had any accidents that could cause it but know that the whole reason for this site is to help each other out. All I can say is good luck, I hope everything gets better and you recover. If you want to vent or want to share your struggle I’m sure many more people will be happy to listen and provide you with support just as I will.
     
  3. Dan_05

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    Thanks man, I really appreciate it... I suppose the one encouraging thing for me is that after my injury, I did one month of hard mode and I felt almost 100% back to normal. Then I started having sex with my girlfriend and things started to get a bit worse again. The fact that I basically got back to normal after abstaining is what is giving me hope. If I did it once, I feel like I should be able to do it again, even if it may take a bit longer. Again, I appreciate the support. It definitely makes it easier with someone to listen.
     
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  4. Venu Bobby

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    I'm not in the situation that u were but i can suggest u some ideas.
    Stop that edging, that may make u feel aroused to masturbate and ejaculate.Stop thinking that ur penis is not working.If that doesnot work u will never get the thought of checking up by masturbating and if its doesn't work u will not even get to go to piss in bathroom.
    So stop worrying about ur penis and start working on your goals.
    Make challenges of NoFAP on your own and achieve those.
    All the best.I wish u must get succeeded in giving up P&M.
     
  5. ultrafabber

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    There is your problem right there. The more you "test" it, the more it will be dependent on voluntary control rather than being a natural and normal thing.

    You need to stop testing it. You will be getting spontaneous erections in a couple of weeks.

    I went through something very similar, i used to "test" my erections all the time. It was just an excuse to get aroused and to fix my anxiety. It's very scary when you stop doing it and your dick feels completely dead.
     
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  6. Younameit

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    During flatline dick dies out completely
    It's crazy
     
  7. JesusStrength

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    I think I'm feeling what you are.. I feel like I lost my horniness. My dick does get up to masturbation, but other than that its dead. I'm going crazy man. I have a wife too. I fear she's going to leave me. I need a cure.
     
  8. seekagoodlife

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    What makes you unable to have natural erections is the P. This is what it does, it fucks up your dick and everything in your body related to sex. If you do Nofap, this won't change directly, depending on the severity of your addiction, it can go from a few days to a few months. But eventually, it will come back. Once you completed your reboot (and therefore never look at porn again, to not fall back into it), your dick and sexual energy and everything about sex will be near its "factory settings" (hence why we call it a reboot, like a machine), enabling you to have natural boners and natural, free, sexual relationships.
     
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  11. Younameit

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    True
    The way out is to throw porn outta the window
     
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  13. Anonymous86

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    What was your injury, exactly? Care to elaborate?
     
  14. Dan_05

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    Bumped it pretty hard during sex, erection went away. The doctors said it's not a fracture. I think it's a pelvic floor issue as I have quite a bit of tightness in that region and some pelvic pain.
     
  15. Dan_05

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    Thanks for the responses everyone, I appreciate it. I definitely agree that the edging is bad. I am not going back to it. I know there will be ups and downs, but I am determined to stick with this!
     
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  16. Anonymous86

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    I’m confused. Why would you think that injury isn’t causing your issues? Unless you think the porn use caused it and sex makes the pied worse?

    Sorry I’m a tad confused.

    Also, is your penis small and shriveled like in flatline?

    What happened to me was that I masturbated prone position and then I had sudden e.d. afterwards with mental changes. E.d. is almost in a flatline state. Is this similar to what has happened to you?
     
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  17. Dan_05

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    Sorry I could have been more clear. I do think the injury is causing my issues, but mental factors are making it worse. I don't have classic PIED like a lot of people here, but I do know my problem is a decent amount mental, which I think nofap can help with. My penis has been small and hard in the flaccid state off and on for a lot of the time since my injury. It feels like blood doesn't flow into it as easily anymore. Today was day 11 for me without PMO, and it wasn't a great day. However, I am definitely starting to see some progress on some days.
     
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  18. Suhayb

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    Hey Dan how are u Doing now?
     

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