Femdom addiction, need help!

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Antherment

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Hi,

For my entire life I've only ever been truly aroused by femdom related ideas. This progressed into me watching increasingly intense femdom-related porn. I'm terrified I'll never be able to have a normal relationship because this is all I'm attracted to. I don't even feel excited about naked women, I'd rather them be clothed and dominating. Does anyone have any experience overcoming something like this?
 
I have had problems with femdom as well. I am not over it completely, but at least I am now able to actually be attracted to women under normal circumstances and able to have sex. Before then I had huge problems with ED, because I was not aroused when being with a partner.

So yes, it is definately possible to overcome it as I did it. I am personally still working to quit femdom and porn in general completely, but even by just watching it less (not beause I want to watch it, but because I have still been relapsing once in a while) I have made a lot of progress. So I believe anyone can do it, especially if they quit porn completely to allow the arousal system to reset.

In essence it is filth that should not be allowed. It is really just clever, malicious women exploiting men who are in a difficult situation in order to make some easy cash. I really think it says something about our society that we allow such things.
 
Antherment said:
Do you have any advice for me? How long did it take for your arousal system to 'reset'?
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There is no set date. The advice I’d say is take things one day at a time. Enjoy the journey. Look forward to the small progress that you see. It’s not black and white - you’ll feel better as the weeks go by.

I’m 11days in, and have been on the journey for like 50-60 days. I’ve had about 8 relapses. And I’m feeling more and more distance to femdom. It no longer arouses me unless I actively use it. I never think about it anymore.

Don’t use that as an indication it’ll take that long, but as hope that the road can go up and down and progress is still imminent.
 
I had also gone down the femdom porn rabbit hole and often wondered if it was even possible to recover. It doesn't seem possible at times and it's terrifying. However, I've been clean all year and can tell you that you can in fact recover and recondition your brain to healthy, normal sexuality. If you abstain for long enough, it's not even that your urges will be weaker, you'll feel those ideas are perverse and you won't even have urges for them at all.

Have you considered why is it that you're drawn to femdom? Knowing that is a great first step to getting into a mindset where you can truly leave it behind. I'll link to a post in my journal from earlier in the year where I considered why I was into it. Maybe you can relate or it will help you figure out your own reasons.
 
Rhuidean said:
I have had problems with femdom as well. I am not over it completely, but at least I am now able to actually be attracted to women under normal circumstances and able to have sex. Before then I had huge problems with ED, because I was not aroused when being with a partner.

So yes, it is definately possible to overcome it as I did it. I am personally still working to quit femdom and porn in general completely, but even by just watching it less (not beause I want to watch it, but because I have still been relapsing once in a while) I have made a lot of progress. So I believe anyone can do it, especially if they quit porn completely to allow the arousal system to reset.

In essence it is filth that should not be allowed. It is really just clever, malicious women exploiting men who are in a difficult situation in order to make some easy cash. I really think it says something about our society that we allow such things.
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It is filth, all porn is just pure filth. You are right what you say about society allowing it. The problems it is causing are monumental.
 
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