femdom, crush fetish, cuckold, and other stuff.

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by chapuleta, Jun 5, 2019.

  1. chapuleta

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    Sorry by my bad english, im not a native speaker.

    i have a foot fetish since i was a baby because of one of my baby-sitters,and i have a desire about being on my knees worshiping the feet of a little "evil" girl and being a doormat to her walk on me hahaha,but not being humiliated or degrating fantasies.Maybe i watched some movie or vídeo game where the female character stepped on someone guys face and i like associated the foot fetish with being stepped on.
    But is just that, i dont like it out of the foot fetish "scene". On otherhand i like more using my foot fetish during the sex with a girl i really love worshping her feet in a love context. And i read an article on 8chan about femdom fetish when it started, and the majority of the guys are into femdom and that are submissive to girls tell that they were bullied by girls on her early puberties or when they were little kids. But i dont remember something like that on my puberty, besides the foot thing with my babysitter related to my desire on being on girls feet.


    Now my history with pornography and why i think they can make you be what you arent.


    I Always had a Strong foot fetish and all my life since 15 years old until now 25 years old i fapped only to porn related to foot fetish, But my only fetish is over foot,remember im a 25 years old never kissed a girl and im a virgin yet,Notice: all the kind of porn categories im listing now have a foot fetish realted during the vídeo,like girls showing their feet while doing or saying other things,like insulting me by my foot fetish or saying i will be virgin forever by liking feet,so go on i started with straigh foot fetish(15 - 17 years old)>>> trample(pratice where i stepped by girls)(18 - 20 years old)



    >>>>>> Now start things that is not party of my self inner being, so are things pornography make me feel addicted and make me wonder i like ,but i know i dont like it and fell disgusted to fap to this <<<<<<

    All this stuff here below is called escalation on porn where you search for more extreme caregories that you arent really into it.
    and why i know that? because of some of these categories i will list below I have been away from themWeakening to the point I don't even feel turned on by it anymore.that when i see i cant feel anything more about them short of disgusting and indiference).
    Otherwise i still get very horny to straight foot fetish porn and real life foot fetish,because that is really a ineritty fetish that was developed in real life when i was a baby.

    " crush fetish"(girls stomp animals to death, but i love animals, i myself cant stepp on an poor ant without fell bad for that,so why i feel excited about crush fetish? porn make me think i like that.)(21 -22 years old).


    ""countdown and brainwashing,money slave ""( im the most Penny-pincher guy on the world hahaha, how i like money slave?because porn made me like that.)(cuckold,sph,virgin humiliation and femdom(22 - 23 years old).


    ""femdom like being submissive to girls stuff and virgin humiliation and cuckold,small penis humiliation"""(if someones give me orders in real life i want punch them on face and got very angry,so why i like to receive girls order and being dominated,my penis is average,so why i like that?porn make me like that.).(24 - 25 years old).

    And since i started i noticed that i was fapping to things i feel disgusted,so im since my 20 years old sttruging with pornography and trying to stop(5 years strugglin with it) but i continue coming back to porn during these years because i havent any girlfriend(sad),if i have a girlfriend all of that disgusting things porn make me think i like was fade and be washed alway.





    >>>>>>>>Really important <<<<<<<<

    An additional that happened on my real life that was lead about my footfetish and by the pornography addiction:

    I almost paid a whore to stomp fishes to death once do that or even humiliates me like on the porn vídeos but i never did nothing of that.

    I go to a party and any girl kissed me, so when i come back to my house i go fap to watch some humiliation and virgin humiliation vídeos about how loser i am.

    I almost entered in a femdom bdsm relationship with a girl but i knew i never liked that so i back them and didint go for that, i just want enter to that to fullfil my foot fetish,and the girl orders me to give some Money to her and other stuffs, and i did some stuff but only virtual,i did that because i dont want to lost her because she was going to fulffil my footfetish and i really liked her she had some comum things with me like she is a geek and other stuffs in commun. So i started to tell her the truth, that i was in love with her and im not that submissive guy and i supposed to be and i was doing that because she was the first girl going to accept my foot fetish and i say i would never accept she with another guys while she was with me, and it already show that im not a submissive guy. But she started to tell me that she had any feelings for me that she is just using me and blocked me.

    The other thing intrigues me is how a so cute girl can be so evil, sociopath like that, i would so much ask her why she acts like that and why she likes these thinks like BDSM stuff.
    that really intrigue me. And she is not the only girl i met virtually that are into that stuff and are evil, sociopath and manipulative persons,but she is the fartest i go into that stuff together. at the fact she was the first girl i gave Money and did some humiliating things vurtually like licking the floor to her.

    The conclusion is that i was entering in a toxic BDSM relationship because of my desire of having a girlfriend who would accept my foot fetish and all my pornography non-stop addiction is because i was rejected so many times about my foot fetish that i Always ended up going back to watch more destrutive and depreveting kinds of porn. because i started to fell depressed in real life.



    So

    watch porn that i was are really into >>>>> Real life rejections >>>>> watch porn that i was are really into another time >>>> try again a real life relationship >>>>> Rejected again and again>>>> search by hardcore stuffs that i dont like to fulfill my real life rejections >>>>>> Tried a real life relationship or pay some whores to do these hardcore stuffs that porn make me wonder i liked because of the rejections in real life>>>>> a vicous circle.


    Sorry by my bad english, im not a native speaker.
     
    Last edited: Jun 5, 2019
  2. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    Hope you find a good girl who accepts and your foot fetish not someone who you describe as "evil"
     
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  3. ultrafabber

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    That would actually not by good. A fetish is not something good, it's a hangup of sexuality.

    Yes, it's not good to call a fetish "evil", but it's not "good" either. It's just something that needs to go away.

    @chapuleta what is your goal? are you prepared to end all the porn and the fetishes?
     
  4. chapuleta

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    thanks @TimeToQuitNow i read some posts of you, and that of the experimente with the rat is really what is happening to me. Im almost "accepting" whatever thing to fulfill my foot fetish because i cant find a woman that would accept that, Like the rats of the experimente that doenst have contact with a female and make sex with the woods because i live in a small town, like accepting be enslaved and other stuffs. Like the rats that doenst havecontact
     
  5. chapuleta

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    i agree with you totally, any fetish are normal, even if it is caused by porn or on your childhood,and even a foot fetish that is the commonest fetish on the world isnt normal, the unique normal thing in sexuallity is to do sex to procreate.
    My goasl is stop PMO, try to minimalize my foot fetish, because a fetish condiotioned in real life is very very more difficult to rid of than a fetish inducted by porn. And find a girl to have a normal relationship and live a normal life. hahahaha.
     
  6. AngeZarate10

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    try not to masturbate and no longer see certain videos.
    and above all, go to a psychologist and trust yourself.
     
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  7. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    I'm not sure if all fetishes are bad. If feet turn a guy on there is no problem. Just like a guy who is turned on by butts and boobs. However if only feet turn him on then that's a problem

    Yea the rat thing is interesting. I read about it in the book "Your Brain on Porn" by Gary Wilson. It's a must read for anyone on this website.

    You shouldn't accept being enslaved. Do no PMO for a while and maybe your femdom tendencies will go away or at least weaken. Then you can find yourself a good girl.

    If you don't like the women in your small town would you consider moving? What's your situation like (if you don't mind me asking)
     
  8. chapuleta

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    Im moving to a big citie where im going to start my college. I have hopes to find a girl there. And i dont feel only attracted by feet,but compared to the rest they are the part i got more horny.
     
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  9. Hey man!
    Its normal that porn use makes our desires escalate; ive been there myself. Read my posts if you want to :)


    If you stop PMO these urges will most likely fade away!
     
  10. chapuleta

    chapuleta Fapstronaut

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  11. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    That's good! Best of luck to you
     
  12. Rickyjames

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    same situation as well
     
  13. ultrafabber

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    Butts and boobs are actually important in/for the reproductive process and for sex, feet are not. It's like being attracted to elbows.

    A foot fetish is almost never JUST about feet, it's about being dominated (as op mentioned as well). That's not healthy at all.
     
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  14. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    I agree that a foot fetish is often mixed with a domination fetish. I have a foot fetish and a domination fetish. But that might be because a lot of foot porn is linked to femdom porn. If it wasn't, I'm not sure that would be a thing.

    However, if a guy was into feet and not femdom and didn't exclusively like feet I fail to see the problem. Same with elbows to be honest. It's a kink and are part of the female body. Also, women take time to make their feet look pretty. With pedicures and nail polish. It only makes sense for men to like feet.

    Also, who's to say feet couldn't be useful in the reproductive process. You want your offspring to walk properly right? Better find a woman with healthy feet to reproduce with :p
     
  15. chapuleta

    chapuleta Fapstronaut

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    But that might be because a lot of foot porn is linked to femdom porn. <<<<<<< Exactly that is the point, and you starts to think it and the most of the time is real that women say that foot fetish is disgusting and the only way you got some girl to full fill your foot fetish is paying, but paying for something that women ussually say thas is disgusting makes you feel a really loser and more weirdo than before and you starts to watch porn vídeos about humiliation to incorpore something that you never are into like humiliation fetish because the most of women you tried to explain about your foot fetish and pick up say that you are disgusting.

    But there are girls who really like foot fetish because they really have more sensibilitty on their feet than other body parties, so they need her feet touched to feel pleasure, but unfortunatelly this group of girls are the minority.
     
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  16. streammango

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    bro i have sexual feeling for any girl. how to stop this i have tried not to think about it i some time masturbate with image of sister oin my head. please help
     
  17. Roady

    Roady Fapstronaut

    I believe that all fetishes are a bandaid. A way to cover pain or fear.
    Finding fullfillment in a fetish is a contradiction in terminis.
    It's an addiction and every addiction knows just one word: MORE.
    When you try to build a relationship with fetishes aboard, there will be a lot of manipulation and confusion.

    When talking about a relationship I think we are talking about love instead no?
    Love is not selfish but seeks to satisfy the other.

    Stop use porn and then see what your heart will telling you about your real feelings and real issues.
     
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  18. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    I never thought of it that way. But it makes sense. Loving someone important who lives you back is good for everyone. Not fulfilling some sexual desires one might have.
     
  19. george53

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    Hey bro,


    So your story reminds me of mine, just that I stopped at JOI humiliation videos.

    Since I quit porn, I'm with a lovely girl, and I talked to her about my foot fetish and she totally accepted it. After a while, I discovered that I was less and less attracted by extreme femdom, just by a light domination from time to time, which we still practice together. To be honest, if you are still attracted by other body parts I don't think that your foot fetish is really a bad thing. Having this urge to be humiliated that much is. I was like you before, now as I said I still like to be dominated from time to time, but we're just playing around and it's light.

    The interesting thing is that I now love to dominate when we have sex. She's into that kind of thing also so that's good. When I was addicted to porn, I wanted to being dominated by feet more than having sex and dominate. Now I want to have sex and to dominate before everything else, and yes I'm still aroused by a little bit of femdom from time time but as a "natural" desire, like it's a part of me and isn't induced by porn.

    To conclude with, just know that having a foot fetish isn't really a bad thing, my gf actually likes the fact that I have one. But, if you don't like it, by quitting porn you will erase those urges of extreme femdom, and your foot fetish will be way less omnipresent.

    I hope that this motivate you !
     
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  20. TimeToQuitNow

    TimeToQuitNow Fapstronaut

    How badly were you into femdom? What was it just the JOI videos or did it go farther? How did you cure it? Was you girlfriend necessary in the healing process? How long did you go before you felt cured? Do you still have extreme femdom fantasies every once in a while?

    I'm asking because I'm a single guy very into femdom. I want to rid myself of it and seeing guys like you are inspirational. Yea I agree. Kissing a significant others feet from time to time isn't bad but being some chastity slave degraded weirdo is and I don't want porn to bring me to the later. Hope you can help me
     

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