Femdom Getting Worse Please Help me !

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Freewillstar

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Help me ! I started from foot fetish from my 16 (i always like girls feet even i first masturbated to this type of video), slowly in my 18s i got into femdom, I hate this, but idk why i get aroused by this fucking shit. I don't have real sex till now.
I am good in studies, kinda cute(as said by some girls), short though, but in simple words - get a good amount of attention from girls. Now the real story starts -
I am into a girl in my college we are almost in relation for 4 months, even kissed and my penis got hard at that time. All is going well but suddenly she told me that she's not interested anymore. I felt rejected and i stressed out, this is the time my femdom addiction got bad(i started to masturbate regularly), and this is the time i firstly masturbated to cuckolding porn.
In past i never like this genre of femdom i hate cuckold, but now i am getting aroused by seeeing a guy sucking a dick?? , its disgusting idk what happened to me but im sure this is getting worse.
I want to enjoy normal sex, but it doesn't aroused me like a femdom does, Girls showing interest in me but im scared that in bed i wouldn't be able to keep up. HELP ME ! ALL SUGGESTIONS ACCEPTED.
 
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From a fapstronaut who has been rebooting for a longer time I can assure you that the femdom urges and weird fetishes will weaken by time. Same mechanism that created them , by porn escalation, will make them vanish when abstaining from porn.
Note! You need not only to abstain from watching (femdom) porn, or chat. YOu beed to abstain from voice porn, stories, comics, Tinder and porn fantasies as well. It is easy to forget and lie to yourself when rebooting.

Good luck on your journey.
 
I think the problem is that you overthink all this (as many do). Distance yourself from the porn you watch and don't conclude that this is your sexuality. The whole porn industry is a bunch of nasty pigs and you are just curious. Escalating to new genres of porn is common for most of us.

About that girl. Well take your losses and get back on the horse. No need to whine about rejection and so on. It makes everything just worse. 1 MIO more girls out there just for you, go out and take em.
 
mdz said:
From a fapstronaut who has been rebooting for a longer time I can assure you that the femdom urges and weird fetishes will weaken by time. Same mechanism that created them , by porn escalation, will make them vanish when abstaining from porn.
Note! You need not only to abstain from watching (femdom) porn, or chat. YOu beed to abstain from voice porn, stories, comics, Tinder and porn fantasies as well. It is easy to forget and lie to yourself when rebooting.

Good luck on your journey.
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Thanks brother, from today onwards I'm starting my rebooting journey, as this is actually f*** me up, now i knew very well that these hardcore porn is just a man-made thing work as food to our fantasy, all goes in our head but in real i don't want to be a slave or even get dominated, but still getting sexually aroused by this.
I know clearly that I'm potent enough to f*** a girl and enjoy normal sex. On my journey brothers, wish me luck will update my results....
 
Pauley said:
I think the problem is that you overthink all this (as many do). Distance yourself from the porn you watch and don't conclude that this is your sexuality. The whole porn industry is a bunch of nasty pigs and you are just curious. Escalating to new genres of porn is common for most of us.

About that girl. Well take your losses and get back on the horse. No need to whine about rejection and so on. It makes everything just worse. 1 MIO more girls out there just for you, go out and take em.
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You're on point brother, literally I'm overthinking a lot about this after I faced rejection, before that im actually in a good self development journey, exercise regularly, eating good.(Not that much into my silly fantasies)
But after that suddenly I got addicted to porn and after watching cuckold porn, little bit somewhere started to doubt my sexuality, but hopefully I can conclude that all this hardcore bullshit is porn induced. Thanks for supporting, starting to reboot, hope all goes well
 
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Freewillstar said:
You're on point brother, literally I'm overthinking a lot about this after I faced rejection, before that im actually in a good self development journey, exercise regularly, eating good.(Not that much into my silly fantasies)
But after that suddenly I got addicted to porn and after watching cuckold porn, little bit somewhere started to doubt my sexuality, but hopefully I can conclude that all this hardcore bullshit is porn induced. Thanks for supporting, starting to reboot, hope all goes well
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You got this bro!
 
Freewillstar said:
I faced rejection,
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Everyone faced rejection. Some girls are like this. They test or "use" guys for some reasons hard to explain (to have fun, to feel less secure). I'm not a girl so I don't know what is in their brains. Anyway, sometimes it happens. But as people say there are plenty more fish in the sea. You had feelings for her but if she wasn't meant for you, it's better it ended.

(this is my opinion, so I may be completely off base on you)
As for P, many people have some things that trigger them. And P industry exploits it by creating different "genres". As for femdom, it may stem from your low self-esteem. You feel insecure about women. Life often puts them in a superior position. Men need to "chase" them, not the other way round. Men need to face rejections. However, a lot of women keep waiting because they don't initiate themselves or have very high standards (that will never be met).

The longer you stay in P, the more you want novelty and look for fetishes. @Pauley is right. When you stay in nofap longer (away from P), you will not want those fetishes. But the brain is curious and porn industry crosses the lines. They misuse our brains. The more you watch it, the more bored you are and deviations begin to interest you. I believe it's OK that some men like some women's "assets" more than others. However, the addiction make us desensitized. You get bored if you overuse P. The sooner you realize it, the better. Someone from this forum said, the more P you consume, the more you want it. The less you use P, the more healthy mentally you are.

However, staying away from P is not enough. You need to ACCEPT you feeling of rejection. It's OK to feel sad. You need to read about feelings and work on your self-esteem. It takes time and practice. That was not the only woman you met and you don't need to cater to a woman's every whim. There must be balance in the relationship. I had several girlfriends before I met the right one.
 
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Freewillstar said:
Help me ! I started from foot fetish from my 16 (i always like girls feet even i first masturbated to this type of video), slowly in my 18s i got into femdom, I hate this, but idk why i get aroused by this fucking shit. I don't have real sex till now.
I am good in studies, kinda cute(as said by some girls), short though, but in simple words - get a good amount of attention from girls. Now the real story starts -
I am into a girl in my college we are almost in relation for 4 months, even kissed and my penis got hard at that time. All is going well but suddenly she told me that she's not interested anymore. I felt rejected and i stressed out, this is the time my femdom addiction got bad(i started to masturbate regularly), and this is the time i firstly masturbated to cuckolding porn.
In past i never like this genre of femdom i hate cuckold, but now i am getting aroused by seeeing a guy sucking a dick?? , its disgusting idk what happened to me but im sure this is getting worse.
I want to enjoy normal sex, but it doesn't aroused me like a femdom does, Girls showing interest in me but im scared that in bed i wouldn't be able to keep up. HELP ME ! ALL SUGGESTIONS ACCEPTED.
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This is a regular reactions to exposing your mind to such content, the mind can adopt unusual habits if you do not keep your thoughts in check. when you access the imagine and then masturbate to it you indent the image in your brain as a good thing because youve connected the image with an orgasm which gives the idea strengh. Fortunately this is reversible with abstinence, I know because I had the same issue with femdom porn after a terrible relationship but once you begin rebooting it goes and no longer has a hold on you. You will actually start to see through all porn as just real human beings who are being paid to act out roles they even they themselves dont quiet understand, after the whole porn industry begins to look really stupid.
focus on detoxing your mind bro, when the urges come and it feels uncomfortable, know that in that moment the fetish urge needs to be feed in order to continue operate in your mind , starve it and it will grow weak,and eventually disappear. after such experience you will realise the power of our minds and seek to project it in areas that help us grow. hope this helped
 
Freewillstar said:
Help me ! I started from foot fetish from my 16 (i always like girls feet even i first masturbated to this type of video), slowly in my 18s i got into femdom, I hate this, but idk why i get aroused by this fucking shit. I don't have real sex till now.
I am good in studies, kinda cute(as said by some girls), short though, but in simple words - get a good amount of attention from girls. Now the real story starts -
I am into a girl in my college we are almost in relation for 4 months, even kissed and my penis got hard at that time. All is going well but suddenly she told me that she's not interested anymore. I felt rejected and i stressed out, this is the time my femdom addiction got bad(i started to masturbate regularly), and this is the time i firstly masturbated to cuckolding porn.
In past i never like this genre of femdom i hate cuckold, but now i am getting aroused by seeeing a guy sucking a dick?? , its disgusting idk what happened to me but im sure this is getting worse.
I want to enjoy normal sex, but it doesn't aroused me like a femdom does, Girls showing interest in me but im scared that in bed i wouldn't be able to keep up. HELP ME ! ALL SUGGESTIONS ACCEPTED.
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You need to understand how the femdom mechanism clicks with your own lack of manhood/insecurities/fears/etc.
I wrote some stuff about it in my journal. Maybe it helps you. I made a table of contents on the first page
 
Don80 said:
Everyone faced rejection. Some girls are like this. They test or "use" guys for some reasons hard to explain (to have fun, to feel less secure). I'm not a girl so I don't know what is in their brains. Anyway, sometimes it happens. But as people say there are plenty more fish in the sea. You had feelings for her but if she wasn't meant for you, it's better it ended.

(this is my opinion, so I may be completely off base on you)
As for P, many people have some things that trigger them. And P industry exploits it by creating different "genres". As for femdom, it may stem from your low self-esteem. You feel insecure about women. Life often puts them in a superior position. Men need to "chase" them, not the other way round. Men need to face rejections. However, a lot of women keep waiting because they don't initiate themselves or have very high standards (that will never be met).

The longer you stay in P, the more you want novelty and look for fetishes. @Pauley is right. When you stay in nofap longer (away from P), you will not want those fetishes. But the brain is curious and porn industry crosses the lines. They misuse our brains. The more you watch it, the more bored you are and deviations begin to interest you. I believe it's OK that some men like some women's "assets" more than others. However, the addiction make us desensitized. You get bored if you overuse P. The sooner you realize it, the better. Someone from this forum said, the more P you consume, the more you want it. The less you use P, the more healthy mentally you are.

However, staying away from P is not enough. You need to ACCEPT you feeling of rejection. It's OK to feel sad. You need to read about feelings and work on your self-esteem. It takes time and practice. That was not the only woman you met and you don't need to cater to a woman's every whim. There must be balance in the relationship. I had several girlfriends before I met the right one.
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That's quite a detail man , yeah it's already been 6 months, now I'm focusing on myself, no issues on rejection i face, but it somewhat lift my fantasy up quite significant, And I know that now I have to take control. Already started seeing a new girl she's interested in me from my 1st year of college. Now she admits it, but I'm still upset about my normal sex drive as fantasy is coming in between. I need to try my best to abstain from p material....
 
Astronaruto said:
This is a regular reactions to exposing your mind to such content, the mind can adopt unusual habits if you do not keep your thoughts in check. when you access the imagine and then masturbate to it you indent the image in your brain as a good thing because youve connected the image with an orgasm which gives the idea strengh. Fortunately this is reversible with abstinence, I know because I had the same issue with femdom porn after a terrible relationship but once you begin rebooting it goes and no longer has a hold on you. You will actually start to see through all porn as just real human beings who are being paid to act out roles they even they themselves dont quiet understand, after the whole porn industry begins to look really stupid.
focus on detoxing your mind bro, when the urges come and it feels uncomfortable, know that in that moment the fetish urge needs to be feed in order to continue operate in your mind , starve it and it will grow weak,and eventually disappear. after such experience you will realise the power of our minds and seek to project it in areas that help us grow. hope this helped
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You're so on point bro, I need to make these fantasies starve to death, Now they are becoming a disaster to me,
I want to enjoy normal sex with a girl I like, not this Bulls***. Hopefully my reboot goes well and i see some visible changes, will update my results.
 
Roady said:
You need to understand how the femdom mechanism clicks with your own lack of manhood/insecurities/fears/etc.
I wrote some stuff about it in my journal. Maybe it helps you. I made a table of contents on the first page
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Yes, I'm on it, insecurities kinda lift up femdom fantasies, will surely read your journal brother.
 
Freewillstar said:
Yeah bro, I'm on my way urges are strong but I have to beat this f*** shit
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We're in the same boat. Day 0 too. But tonight it will change into day 1. Life is struggle. Sometimes we need to throw in the towel for a while and pick up later and move on. Problems will always exist but we'll learn to handle them better :). The solutions are inside of us, not outside.
 
Don80 said:
We're in the same boat. Day 0 too. But tonight it will change into day 1. Life is struggle. Sometimes we need to throw in the towel for a while and pick up later and move on. Problems will always exist but we'll learn to handle them better :). The solutions are inside of us, not outside.
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Yeah man good luck
 
Nofap journey not goin well now, after 10 days of nofap, i fapped 4 times a single day, which is definitely a bad news. STILL TRYING MY BEST
But i have a question, if anyone knew how this femdom related to our childhood or any experiences or like influence of women when we were child????
 
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