Femdom Getting Worse Please Help me !

From a fapstronaut who has been rebooting for a longer time I can assure you that the femdom urges and weird fetishes will weaken by time. Same mechanism that created them , by porn escalation, will make them vanish when abstaining from porn.
Note! You need not only to abstain from watching (femdom) porn, or chat. YOu beed to abstain from voice porn, stories, comics, Tinder and porn fantasies as well. It is easy to forget and lie to yourself when rebooting.

Good luck on your journey.

 

I think the problem is that you overthink all this (as many do). Distance yourself from the porn you watch and don't conclude that this is your sexuality. The whole porn industry is a bunch of nasty pigs and you are just curious. Escalating to new genres of porn is common for most of us.

About that girl. Well take your losses and get back on the horse. No need to whine about rejection and so on. It makes everything just worse. 1 MIO more girls out there just for you, go out and take em.

 

You got this bro!

 

Everyone faced rejection. Some girls are like this. They test or "use" guys for some reasons hard to explain (to have fun, to feel less secure). I'm not a girl so I don't know what is in their brains. Anyway, sometimes it happens. But as people say there are plenty more fish in the sea. You had feelings for her but if she wasn't meant for you, it's better it ended.

(this is my opinion, so I may be completely off base on you)
As for P, many people have some things that trigger them. And P industry exploits it by creating different "genres". As for femdom, it may stem from your low self-esteem. You feel insecure about women. Life often puts them in a superior position. Men need to "chase" them, not the other way round. Men need to face rejections. However, a lot of women keep waiting because they don't initiate themselves or have very high standards (that will never be met).

The longer you stay in P, the more you want novelty and look for fetishes. @Pauley is right. When you stay in nofap longer (away from P), you will not want those fetishes. But the brain is curious and porn industry crosses the lines. They misuse our brains. The more you watch it, the more bored you are and deviations begin to interest you. I believe it's OK that some men like some women's "assets" more than others. However, the addiction make us desensitized. You get bored if you overuse P. The sooner you realize it, the better. Someone from this forum said, the more P you consume, the more you want it. The less you use P, the more healthy mentally you are.

However, staying away from P is not enough. You need to ACCEPT you feeling of rejection. It's OK to feel sad. You need to read about feelings and work on your self-esteem. It takes time and practice. That was not the only woman you met and you don't need to cater to a woman's every whim. There must be balance in the relationship. I had several girlfriends before I met the right one.

 

This is a regular reactions to exposing your mind to such content, the mind can adopt unusual habits if you do not keep your thoughts in check. when you access the imagine and then masturbate to it you indent the image in your brain as a good thing because youve connected the image with an orgasm which gives the idea strengh. Fortunately this is reversible with abstinence, I know because I had the same issue with femdom porn after a terrible relationship but once you begin rebooting it goes and no longer has a hold on you. You will actually start to see through all porn as just real human beings who are being paid to act out roles they even they themselves dont quiet understand, after the whole porn industry begins to look really stupid.
focus on detoxing your mind bro, when the urges come and it feels uncomfortable, know that in that moment the fetish urge needs to be feed in order to continue operate in your mind , starve it and it will grow weak,and eventually disappear. after such experience you will realise the power of our minds and seek to project it in areas that help us grow. hope this helped

 

You need to understand how the femdom mechanism clicks with your own lack of manhood/insecurities/fears/etc.
I wrote some stuff about it in my journal. Maybe it helps you. I made a table of contents on the first page

 

make a note of what you will do better next time, get in the shower and have an awesome day.

 

It will take time and practice to train control and choosing the other options of dealing with stress and emotions. A 3-day streak is a good achievement.

 

We're in the same boat. Day 0 too. But tonight it will change into day 1. Life is struggle. Sometimes we need to throw in the towel for a while and pick up later and move on. Problems will always exist but we'll learn to handle them better . The solutions are inside of us, not outside.